To not go to a wedding of a man I've never met?

[Youthiswastedontheyoung]

Adult niece (in-law). Never met fiance.
I'm more than happy for my husband and daughter to attend (and quite rightly so), but personally feel one shouldn't attend a wedding/invite someone to a wedding of someone whom they have never met.
AIBU?

Your husbands niece is your relative by marriage.
It’s very usual to go to a wedding where you only know one of the couple.
It’s also usual for guests to be invited with their partners.
Nothing is odd about the invitation. Why don’t you want to go? Just not interested?

I think the point is you’re your husband’s plus 1. It’s entirely normal to invite partners.

If you don’t want to go that’s a different matter, but it’s not by any stretch unusual.

@DarkBlueStocking Maybe I see weddings as something personal, something that I wouldn't want a stranger at?

you just don't want to go do you?

probably because you don't get on with other family members!

seems a very weird reason to not go.

This is the most bizarre take. For arguments sake you don't see her as a niece even though she is because you're married to her uncle. Her uncle is her family and you are his wife. I think it's bloody rude for you not to go.

It's not about how you see the wedding. They wanted to invite you and they have. Turning it down would be bloody rude. What possible excuse will you give? Make something up?

We didn't meet my cousin's wife until their wedding day - shotgun wedding...
She's a wonderful woman, wife and mother and I like her very much. I have videos of her and my daughter dancing like they'd always known each other.

If you're going to be awkward though, give it a miss.

@SoNiceToComeHomeTo I've not met the groom. I don't really know the bride very well. So unsure why I qualify to be a part of their big day?

@Spockty I'd just say I don't know the groom.

Because they’ve invited you. Thats how you “qualify”.

But that you, @Youthiswastedontheyoung. You got to choose who you invited to your wedding. This couple is choosing differently.

We got married with two witnesses on our lunchbreak. But that hasn’t stopped us attending other people’s weddings who invited guests, and which have involved anything from a formal mass to a humanist ceremony in a wood.

You qualify because they have asked you. This is really the lamest excuse I think I have ever heard.

I had no idea it was "normal" to attend stranger's weddings!

Whar ? This isn't a problem

This is a very weird and rude response to a perfectly normal wedding invitation.

You are coming across as quite the oddball.

She's not a stranger!!! She's family.

They will think this very strange and rude

At our wedding we had 17 guests. Perfect. Don't want people rocking up I have no clue who they are!!!

I thought I was a social klutz, but you beat me hands down.

You married your husband. You became part of his family. His niece is now your niece. She has invited you to her wedding. It doesn't matter that you don't know her fiance. It's perfectly normal to only know one half of the couple when you go to a wedding. The last couple of weddings that I attended, I'd never met one half of the couple.

Weddings bring people together, from both families and both sets of friends.

I don't know why you're seeing this from any other perspective, and why you think you've been invited unwillingly, or that your niece's fiance won't want you there.

You qualify because weddings are about family coming together to celebrate, that includes your own family unit within the greater scope of their wider family.

Does you DH want you to go?

You’re a member of the nieces extended family and she wants you there. Some people choose a very small wedding but traditionally it’s a time for the whole family to celebrate together.

What’s ’not normal’ here is your idea that you have to have known the bride and groom from birth to accept their wedding invitation!

@Pistachiochiochio I mean the groom as I've never met him. I don't really know my husband's niece.

It's very normal to attend the wedding of someone you don't know. I find your attitude quite odd.