Too tired to be sociable with DD's bf

[pigalow27]

I have had a hideous weekend with my DD being really pissed off with me. Basically she was due to come home from uni for reading week on Saturday morning but late on Thursday night, she changed her tickets and came home Friday afternoon instead. I wasn't terribly bothered either way. However Friday was last day of this half term. I'm SLT and exhausted. Mostly work 60-70 hour weeks so by the end of the week (especially the end of a term or half term) I am totally exhausted and fit for nothing. The house looks like a war zone as I work all weekend also.
DD's boyfriend arrived while I was still at work. When I got back she immediately asked me to start clearing up and go and get a takeaway so he could stay and eat. I said I wasn't feeling up for this and it wasn't the plan as I hadn't really expected her til Saturday.
I ended up leaving and going to my mum's even though all I wanted was bed. I wasn't that pleased he was there within 30 mins of her arriving home but not that fussed as long as I wasn't dragged into being sociable or being forced to start clearing up and tidying after a 70 hour week!!
DD now in a bad mood with me as she says I embarrassed her and made him feel uncomfortable. AIBU?

Your daughter was rude and entitled to ask you to tidy up and get a takeaway - I would have asked her to phone for a takeaway herself.

However, I don't think it would really have been that big a deal to just shift your work stuff off the dining table and eat with your daughter and her boyfriend, and the whole tone of your post makes it sound like you're quite self-absorbed and not remotely interested in your daughter. You had a stressful week at work - so does everyone at times. That's not unique to being a teacher and it doesn't absolve you of being welcoming to your own kid and her partner after she's been away at uni.

Fellow teacher here. At the end of a week you are absolutely broken. Those here making excuses for your DD and criticising are clearly perfect, live in show homes and are NOT teachers!

Other stressful jobs are available, you know. Being a teacher is not the only tough job in the world.

I think this has been taken out of proportion. Your daughter has come home early for whatever reason, and it sounds like that is the crux of your annoyance.
The house is unexpectedly messy and that’s bothered her (but so has her coming home bothered you so you're even there).

I would simply say that spending time with your loved ones is a blessing. Life is too short to get upset about silly things like this. Nobody will remember you for the time you worked late in half term and wore yourself into the ground with tiredness. But your daughter will remember the time she came home from uni early and was greeted by a miserable mum who walked out when she suggested clearing the dining room table and having a nice take away dinner together.

it is in the Mumsnet universe. Conscription into teaching - awful.