Vibrators on sale at Tesco, thought it was a bit much

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Went to buy some toothpaste with my kids, 7 year old wants to see new toy in plastic boxes, it’s rows and rows of vibrators. Is it just me or is this a bit much for the weekly shop?

@BrightYellowDaffodil exactly!
It's a supermarket. Their whole purpose is to sell a range of products for different demographics 😂

Quite! If they had a range of butt plugs in The Entertainer next to a display of crotchless pants and some nipple clamps, then I could see the argument but the idea that supermarkets are supposed to be a place suitable for children is bizarre.

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Truly guffawed at that!

I've never seen them in my local Tesco, but then I don't think I've looked around the condom aisle.

yes, that's exactly what my point was - it's a personal thing, anything goes, but I still wouldn't want to suggest vibrators to kids from the get go by having them in tescos

haha please quote me where I shame women for using vibrators/having sexual pleasure/having orgasms. I'd love to see that. Because if you read what I've actually said, I haven't said anything like that.

taken out of context - it was in response to something someone else had said to me

thank you, @BalletCat - yes, exactly that! Truly bizarre are all the comments about me 'shaming' women for using vibrators and actively denying them sexual pleasure of any kind!! : )

thank you for coming to my rescue. It doesn't feel very nice on here when I try to be open and make a genuine point and people just pick up on 'doesn't like vibrators' and become crazed.

I agree with this.

I wouldn't choose to buy a vibrator in Tesco (or any other supermarket for that matter) as I prefer to read reviews etc before buying one. But that doesn't mean I object to Tesco selling them, just don't look at them.

Jesus wept.

Children aren’t having vibrator use ‘suggested’ to them because they are on sale in Tesco.

By the way, vibrator use isn’t dangerous, despite your protestations. Even those of us who have had a vibrator since late teens manage to have a ‘natural’ orgasm. I’m sure you’ll now ask me for solid and reliable data on that…

Your comments have been bizarre.

I honestly thought your first post where you said that it normalised vibrator use and made women and girls think it was ok to use one was sarcasm. Turns out it wasn’t…

https://www.menopausalmedicine.com/contents/clinical-faqs/why-should-i-use-a-vibrator

mela G. Gaudry, M.D. Contents Clinical FAQs Why Should I Use a Vibrator?

I frequently prescribe the use of a vibrator to my patients.
There are 2 uses for a vibrator. The first is for pleasure. I think that women should use vibrators regularly. Vibrators are wonderful. If you have never used a vibrator, you should consider “opening up” to the experience. A vibrator strategically placed on your clitoris can bring you to a very quick and satisfying orgasm. I believe that no woman should die without using a vibrator for pleasure.
The second reason to use a vibrator is for physical therapy. After going through menopause, the loss of estrogen causes the walls of the vagina to become thin and dry. The longer you go without estrogen, the thinner the walls become. The vagina will actually start to decrease in length and width. Regular use of a vibrator will keep the vagina stretched out in width and length. The vibration will help keep the blood flowing which will keep the walls think and help the dryness
The best thing that you can do for vaginal health is to keep using it. There are so many women who are divorced, widowed, or single in mid-life. When there is the potential to live up to 30 or 40 years of your life in menopausal, it seems silly to just let this organ dry up.
I have my patients use the vibrator for 15-30 minutes three times a week to help keep the blood flowing and the vaginal walls healthy. If they are willing and able, estrogen cream can be used as a lubricant.

I'm genuinely a bit perturbed by the performative "open-mindedness" on this thread. Normalising having sex toys in supermarkets, where young children frequently go, is creepy and weird. Just because they're for women's pleasure instead of men's doesn't suddenly make it ok. It's no better than porn mags on the top shelf or page 3 and I thought we'd moved on from that.

Grooming of children or vulnerable adults often begins with the erosion of boundaries of what is appropriate. It is ok to want some boundaries around sex to remain in our society and the whiff of "I'm not like those boring conservative pearl clutchers, I'm liberal and cool" in some of these comments is just bizarre.

No one is so desperate for a sex toy that they need them to be readily available in Tesco. Just buy online FFS.

You're very welcome. I've had people pile on me so many times for daring to have an opinion different to theirs.

I haven't seen any of the ridiculous shaming people are claiming in your comments, I actually agree with a lot of what you are saying and other posters are deliberately exaggerating everything to the nth degree to make a point and to make you look silly. It's childish and mean and typical Mumsnet behaviour.

That's really useful to know, thank you.

My own experience was finding clitoral stimulation with a vibrator way too intense, which is why probably I've found I prefer natural stimulation, but it's very interesting to know what you've explained. So either vibrator or man required, but something is necessary! Thanks x

thank you, really, @BalletCat . Yes, it is all that you say, and utterly beneath me - just makes me think not worth sharing my opinion. Anyhow, thank you for speaking up, so much appreciated. I think the whole point of MN should be varied opinion.

Exactly

Love Honey in a brown box is more my scene

Yeah that's weird 😕

So do I! Unfortunately I've had far more insults and slanging matches than interesting debates though and I often wonder why I bother! Tbh I don't bother posting a lot of the time now I just read for entertainment, but every now and then people get my goat and I chip in.

"No kink shaming please...."

I was going to get involved in the discussion but it's clearly pointless as the thread has been overrun by the type of posters who will pile on anyone with a differing opinion with accusations of "pearl clutching" and a load of silly school girl mockery. Some of you seem intent on preventing any meaningful discussion about the degradation of our society and the slow chipping away of our boundaries by deliberately misconstruing other people's posts and making fun of them.

But the funniest part of this whole thread is that MNHQ have clearly been scurrying around the thread deleting any post that uses words like "depraved" lest a bunch of middle aged women see it and get offended by words on a screen. These same middle aged women who are mocking others for not wanting small children exposed to sex toys.
I mean, if you don't want to see a post, why are you lingering around it? Why don't you distract yourself and change the subject, right?

yes absolutely, me too. And I try not to rise to the bait but sometimes it is so annoying that I do ha

It's always a bit shocking, though, that people think like this and somehow get off on attacking others who are clearly just being open and respectfully putting their point. Ah well, no changing them, that's for sure.

Im starting to think some government organisation has secretly bought MN and are running social experiments on us to see what we will accept if we are bombarded with enough social pressure. There's no way this thread is real 😅 I don't believe that real people actually find this acceptable. The majority of people would not be mocking others for having an issue with this.
This site is unreal.

oh @TheNicelyDone you really said it - how extraordinary it is that they are cross with me because I said I didn't want (my) kids looking at dildos in tescos!

Thank you. Yes, any really meaningful debate is so often hijacked like this, which is a pity.

yes yes yes

One of the oddest things I found was that I was denying all women any pleasure (all) (any), including indoctrinating my daughter that any sexual satisfaction is completely wrong, and that - what was it - I was proposing that women should just lie back and think of England, dressed preferably in 50s satin pyjamas and having spent all day preparing a martini for my hubbie for when he came back from the office?

Oh and of course that I myself was a denier of female orgasm issues, and whilst I might monstrously suggest that any friction on the clitoris would probably work in the end, regardless of what was rubbing it, that my ability to have an orgasm without a vibrator was verging on the impossible. If not impossible. And I have never had an orgasm.

Words fail me. I am I think one of the most sex positive people around, and super respectful of other women and their individual experience. I even shared that I'd had a bad experience with sex toys. But I think they don't read all someone's said, they just pick up 'disagrees - ok - bayonets out! Advance!'

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Finally! The adults with critical thinking and debating skills are here!

It's the assertion that contraceptives and dildos are the same that finished me off. Utterly ridiculous. They were still going with that one 10 pages later. 🙄

No one genuinely believes a condom is the male equivalent of a vibrator and people are only offended by vibratios in shops because they are a symbol of women's pleasure and it's a sexist society that thinks women aren't allowed orgasms. No one.

Aww, look at the little love-in this thread has turned into, of people unable to accept opinions other than their own.

Bless.