AIBU or is this a bit cheeky?

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Name changed as I don’t want to potentially ruin a friendship over what could be me being unreasonable. Close friend has recently had a baby. She’s asked for no visitors (fair) but has now announced an ‘open day’ - her words - in which her and her DP will invite all their family and friends to go to their house at the same time to see the baby. Not the AIBU.
In the message invite (copied and pasted to all their friends/family), it states: “Although your presence is a present, we kindly ask for a monetary gift as we have plenty of clothes and toys.”
It’s rubbed me up the wrong way. I understand the request for no clothes or toys, but I feel the blatant request for money is quite crass. I’ve already bought a personalised keepsake gift (not clothes or toys) which I will give so it’s not really a direct issue. We’re from different cultures which could play a part in my reaction.
AIBU or is this crass?

They are cheeky feckers. I wouldn’t give them money. Id take a gift just to make a point that I wasn’t going to be controlled. It’s very grabby of them.

I’d ignore it and buy a present. It’s cheeky AF.

Totally crass of them. I cringe just reading their message. Give the gift you intended. Or nothing.

Yeah that's crass! It's a big difference to the standard "Your presence is the best present you could give. If you do want to bring a gift, what would be most useful to us is..."
Even then, close friends and family often want to give a proper keepsake because of their connection to the baby. It might not be the most useful, but I kind of think if people are close enough that you want them to be a fairly big part of baby's life, and may rely on them for childcare or other support, let them give the gift they want.

Give it a few weeks she will be wondering why nobody makes the effort to visit.

"Open day" 😂

Yeah that’s really grabby.

I always buy clothes for when baby is older, knowing full well they will have plenty of new born stuff. Never heard of anyone asking for money, jesus

🤢 That's a new low in grabbiness and bad taste. Yuk!

Wow. At least she didn't write it as a shit poem like that wedding couple a while ago, but still. More neck than a giraffe. 🤯

Do you think she means the standard "if you want to buy a gift...?" And has just worded it really badly? (Sleepless nights etc!)

Wait... they're not the wedding couple from that thread ages ago are they??? Did you go to their wedding OP? Was there a poem about giving them money?

Totally crass ... I would be busy on the day and just drop the present round without going in. I understand not wanting hoards of visitors but you see so many posts on here about people who find it difficult to make friends .... surely a little tolerance is needed on both sides ... your 'friend' might find herself very lonely when the new baby excitement has worn off ....

I would be a bit more forgiving than PP. If they have a newborn it might be realistic to think that it was simply a mistake that they missed "no need for a gift but if you want to bring something..." section in their sleep deprivation. You know them and their character better than any of us here though.

Massive cringe and yes CFs. I'd take a present of clothes for when they are bigger

Join the queue and bring cash? Bloody rude.

Agree it’s super grabby to ask for cash however I will make a plea that before buying ‘keepsakes’ to gift please make the effort to find out if they are ‘keepsake’ people! We got a plethora of tat keepsakes gifted to us which was not needed or wanted and has ended up in charity shops or regifted to those who do appreciate such things. Also personalised items are destined for landfill, don’t do it!

Oh my gosh firstly it's absolutely absurd to have an "open day" to visit a baby. They aren't a flipping oracle.
I don't think she realises that most people aren't that bothered that her and her husband procreated. She's acting like it's a sort of really big important event. I'd be so embarrassed to even do that.

I presume she has a firstly baby bump shower then a gender reveal party with coloured smoke bombs too.

I wouldn't go on the designated open house or whatever

And I certainly wouldn't take a monetary gift wtf

I hate that mentality

Wait six months and she'll be begging you for a pram walk/brew at hers

Did they have a baby shower as well before the birth?

I wouldn’t bother showing up.

Bizarre, I have never gifted anyone money for the arrival of a baby. I take a gift for baby and something for mum/dad too. I would completely ignore that request and do what I usually do.

If they had written ‘we have lots of clothes and toys but are hoping to get (insert name of pram/highchair/cot/baby carrier here) if you would like to make a contribution’ I feel that would have felt different but ‘give us money’ doesn’t sit right for me.

You lost me at 'open day'.

Very unreasonable, nothing is more fun than choosing a new baby present. The teeny little socks! The beanie hats! Baby grows! Pretty little muslins! Even packs of baby vests can send me over the edge.

Wow. I wouldn't go!

Hope she's reading this and realising what an entitled CF she is! Not often I'm speechless but really..wow.