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Imbluedalale · 17/10/2024 23:39

That’s just it really. I really need a cuddle but that’s not possible so can anybody just support me right now? My mental health is on the floor right now I’ve never felt as low it’s making me feel so ill

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Apolloneuro · 01/11/2024 17:35

When you go to subway next, maybe get a sub, with lots of salad with it (as well as a biscuit, of course!)

Your immediate fight it over. Time to take stock and build yourself up.

itsmylife7 · 01/11/2024 17:41

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 16:49

Just admiring the view …__

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Your new beginning.

I've been following your posts.

You're the most amazing Woman, Laura.

nornironlady · 01/11/2024 17:44

Laura I am so pleased to hear this news. It's much better than I imagined. I feel such contentment for you for the weekend. It was a horrible thought thinking you would be back to square one tomorrow but you aren't and it's fantastic. I had a very sensible 3 cocktails 🍸 and having some fish and chips in a bit. I hope you can get a decent meal yourself soon and are feeling a bit better this evening. @TealPoet you truly are a wonderful human being 🥰

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 18:47

ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 16:51

Blimey that view is stunning!!!! That is one heck of a view to start the rest of your onwards-and-upwards journey with!!

It’s lovely isn’t it, I was thinking earlier it’d be lovely to be a swan just gliding along the lake all day without a care in the world .
My mental health team called me and was pleased with the result from the council. They are going to come and see me on Monday and bring me a care package and they said they can take me to Tesco to get some food to eat in the hotel and to get out for abit x

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PeggyMitchellsCameo · 01/11/2024 18:52

All of these might seem like small steps but they all matter. Your MH team will be delighted that today has brought some progress. Just getting a few bits in Tesco and getting out will really count.
It is all moving towards you becoming healthier and happier and in your own home.

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 18:52

Munchyseeds2 · 01/11/2024 17:26

That is a lovely view! X

It’s beautiful isn’t it .
I sent the male resident it from the crisis house as he went home yesterday and he likes nice views and he loved it xx

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nzeire · 01/11/2024 18:54

I’ve just found you again!
what great news!
sounds like a right roller coaster, I am truly amazed at your human spirit
im so visualising a beautiful little cottage for you cxx

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 19:02

Apolloneuro · 01/11/2024 17:35

When you go to subway next, maybe get a sub, with lots of salad with it (as well as a biscuit, of course!)

Your immediate fight it over. Time to take stock and build yourself up.

Thank you Apolloneuro,
You can actually get a boxed salad from subway, funnily enough I’ve never been a huge fan of subway but with it being next door it’s easy for me at the moment.
I know, I’m still in shock about today. My emotions are all over the place but I’m very very grateful xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 19:06

itsmylife7 · 01/11/2024 17:41

Your new beginning.

I've been following your posts.

You're the most amazing Woman, Laura.

That is so lovely itsmylife7
Thank you so very much .
I can’t believe you think I’m amazing, thank you.
I was thinking when I get a house I’m going to see if I can get a picture made that says all the lovely words that I’ve made a list of that all you lovely people have said about me on here and I’m going to frame it and put it in my bedroom xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 19:15

nornironlady · 01/11/2024 17:44

Laura I am so pleased to hear this news. It's much better than I imagined. I feel such contentment for you for the weekend. It was a horrible thought thinking you would be back to square one tomorrow but you aren't and it's fantastic. I had a very sensible 3 cocktails 🍸 and having some fish and chips in a bit. I hope you can get a decent meal yourself soon and are feeling a bit better this evening. @TealPoet you truly are a wonderful human being 🥰

Hi nornironlady.
How are you this evening?
It’s amazing news isn’t it , it was worth the battle that’s for sure .
What cocktails did you have? Oh and I love fish and chips! What are you having?
@TealPoet is amazing isn’t she , I cannot thank her enough xx

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nornironlady · 01/11/2024 19:20

I'm good thank you. More sober than I expected to be today! My drink is a Dark and stormy. Dark rum and ginger. Strangely it leaves me clear headed the next day which always raises the eyebrows of bar staff. Maybe it's not a very ladylike drink 😅 I had chicken gougons and chips with salt and vinegar covered in curry sauce. Very tasty. Many in my workplace have subway salad so maybe worth a try. Now for a big cup of tea. Enjoy your evening x

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 19:23

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 01/11/2024 18:52

All of these might seem like small steps but they all matter. Your MH team will be delighted that today has brought some progress. Just getting a few bits in Tesco and getting out will really count.
It is all moving towards you becoming healthier and happier and in your own home.

Your right PeggyMitchellsCameo,
they all do matter . It does make you appreciate the little things in life that’s for sure .
They are delighted and I’m very lucky to have them on my side , supporting me.
I feel like I can breathe properly for the first time in days , my body doesn’t feel as tense if that makes sense .
Hopefully in the next few weeks I will get more good news and have a home xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 19:27

nzeire · 01/11/2024 18:54

I’ve just found you again!
what great news!
sounds like a right roller coaster, I am truly amazed at your human spirit
im so visualising a beautiful little cottage for you cxx

Hi nzeire,
How are you?
Thank you so much .
It does feel good being able to stand up for yourself and saying ‘actually that is not ok’ but again I wouldn’t have had the strength or courage to do that without all the lovely people on here who have supported me xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 19:30

nornironlady · 01/11/2024 19:20

I'm good thank you. More sober than I expected to be today! My drink is a Dark and stormy. Dark rum and ginger. Strangely it leaves me clear headed the next day which always raises the eyebrows of bar staff. Maybe it's not a very ladylike drink 😅 I had chicken gougons and chips with salt and vinegar covered in curry sauce. Very tasty. Many in my workplace have subway salad so maybe worth a try. Now for a big cup of tea. Enjoy your evening x

😂😂😂Ohhh that sounds lovely . I like rum in my cocktails too.
Who cares if it’s ladylike or not , aslong as you enjoy it that’s all that matters.
Oh your tea sounds amazing! I’m glad you enjoyed it. Enjoy your big cup of tea xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 19:34

A New Dawn fo My Spoon

Sitting here with my suitcase my head in my hands,
Wondering if it’s time now to really say goodbye,
But something else is meant for me on the right side of this track,
The kindness of strangers who have simply left a reply.
They have believed me, and listened, and never questioned my words,
There is an enveloping acceptance in that,
I have a feeling they will follow wherever life leads me,
Friends made, and confidences shared, my thread a welcoming mat.
Life has dealt me too many blows of late but now I come up for air,
Knowing I’m not alone logging each progress made,
I am glad that I sat on the wrong platform for me,
I was meant for much more, after baby steps are laid.
So let’s all have a cuppa, and know we have each other,
Because family is where you find it, not always were you were born,
Keep me in your prayers, so a new roof and a renewed start,
Means my spoon finds a home, and my life finds a fresh dawn.

I didn’t write this absolutely amazing poem , it was given to me by an amazing woman , I can’t stop reading it xx

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RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 20:02

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 19:34

A New Dawn fo My Spoon

Sitting here with my suitcase my head in my hands,
Wondering if it’s time now to really say goodbye,
But something else is meant for me on the right side of this track,
The kindness of strangers who have simply left a reply.
They have believed me, and listened, and never questioned my words,
There is an enveloping acceptance in that,
I have a feeling they will follow wherever life leads me,
Friends made, and confidences shared, my thread a welcoming mat.
Life has dealt me too many blows of late but now I come up for air,
Knowing I’m not alone logging each progress made,
I am glad that I sat on the wrong platform for me,
I was meant for much more, after baby steps are laid.
So let’s all have a cuppa, and know we have each other,
Because family is where you find it, not always were you were born,
Keep me in your prayers, so a new roof and a renewed start,
Means my spoon finds a home, and my life finds a fresh dawn.

I didn’t write this absolutely amazing poem , it was given to me by an amazing woman , I can’t stop reading it xx

Wow that poem is absolutely so beautiful! I have goose pimples!

So happy that your body is beginning to relax a bit, Laura (what does your name mean by the way?). It’s a really lovely name.

Love that view and that you’re taking some pics. I imagine them interleaved in your book sort of indicating moments of peace that I know we all hope for you.

Great news that your MH team will take you to Tesco although sorry you aren’t allowed to cook. There’s probably lots you can do with a kettle if you’d like some warm food like cup a soup, instant porridge, noodles or pastas or salads etc are lovely too. I’m glad you have subway within reach. Wish we could all just be delivering you meals! Xx

AdmittowearingCrocs · 01/11/2024 20:17

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 19:34

A New Dawn fo My Spoon

Sitting here with my suitcase my head in my hands,
Wondering if it’s time now to really say goodbye,
But something else is meant for me on the right side of this track,
The kindness of strangers who have simply left a reply.
They have believed me, and listened, and never questioned my words,
There is an enveloping acceptance in that,
I have a feeling they will follow wherever life leads me,
Friends made, and confidences shared, my thread a welcoming mat.
Life has dealt me too many blows of late but now I come up for air,
Knowing I’m not alone logging each progress made,
I am glad that I sat on the wrong platform for me,
I was meant for much more, after baby steps are laid.
So let’s all have a cuppa, and know we have each other,
Because family is where you find it, not always were you were born,
Keep me in your prayers, so a new roof and a renewed start,
Means my spoon finds a home, and my life finds a fresh dawn.

I didn’t write this absolutely amazing poem , it was given to me by an amazing woman , I can’t stop reading it xx

Thank you to whoever wrote this, it’s spot on.
Laura, if you are going to Tesco, I have bought headphones there really not very expensive. You can also get adult colouring books and pencils. Now you are staying there it might be worth getting them to pass the time. Oh, and you could get some lovely biscuits to go with your cups of tea 🍪🌞

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 20:25

RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 20:02

Wow that poem is absolutely so beautiful! I have goose pimples!

So happy that your body is beginning to relax a bit, Laura (what does your name mean by the way?). It’s a really lovely name.

Love that view and that you’re taking some pics. I imagine them interleaved in your book sort of indicating moments of peace that I know we all hope for you.

Great news that your MH team will take you to Tesco although sorry you aren’t allowed to cook. There’s probably lots you can do with a kettle if you’d like some warm food like cup a soup, instant porridge, noodles or pastas or salads etc are lovely too. I’m glad you have subway within reach. Wish we could all just be delivering you meals! Xx

It’s beautiful isn’t it RaspberryBeretxx,
Its definitely going in my book that’s for sure
My name comes from the Latin word Laurus , meaning laurel. In Roman times the laurel tree was associated with victory and honour and was used to crown leaders and poets . Thank you for liking my name.

This part I got from google :
As a result, the name Laura came to be associated with victory, honor, and fame. People named Laura are often described as being intelligent, graceful, and charming. They are always willing to help others, and they are always there for their loved ones.

I’m definitely going to get some vegetable cup a soup and some porridge . It’s lovely that my MH team are willing to do that for me. Everybody has been so so kind. I’m going to get them a big box of chocolates to say thank you xx

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RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 20:41

Ah wow - your name meaning is so spot on for you💕.

NeedWineNow · 01/11/2024 20:50

Giraffe888 · 01/11/2024 15:34

I’ve followed this thread from the beginning and read it several times a day for the updates.

I have genuinely never felt so invested in a person that I’ve never met. You are truly an incredible lady and deserve so much more than what you are currently dealing with

im thrilled at your latest update and a huge sign of relief that you know you’re safe and warm now until you get something more permanent sorted ❤️

I love reading your posts. You’re so eloquent and funny in your writing. Please keep posting xxxx

This 100%. I'm another who has lurked along and have been so hoping for good news and today's is the best. You are such a warm, wonderful person who deserves the best. Here's to Fabulous You! (and your spoon😁).

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 21:07

AdmittowearingCrocs · 01/11/2024 20:17

Thank you to whoever wrote this, it’s spot on.
Laura, if you are going to Tesco, I have bought headphones there really not very expensive. You can also get adult colouring books and pencils. Now you are staying there it might be worth getting them to pass the time. Oh, and you could get some lovely biscuits to go with your cups of tea 🍪🌞

Ohhh I’ll have a look for some headphones at Tesco and some colouring books , I didn’t think of that , thank you 🙏
Oh I’ll not forget the biscuits lol , I might even buy a broccoli and crunch on it . Actually I could get some celery.
Fireworks outside tonight , really makes me miss my children. I can’t look outside the windows tonight as there’s a big fair on the left of the hotel and I can hear people screaming and shouting etc so I’ve put the tv on . Hopefully next year I can make up for it and do something special with them xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 21:08

RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 20:41

Ah wow - your name meaning is so spot on for you💕.

Awww thank you RaspberryBeretxx ☺️
Have you got any plans for the weekend?xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 21:16

NeedWineNow · 01/11/2024 20:50

This 100%. I'm another who has lurked along and have been so hoping for good news and today's is the best. You are such a warm, wonderful person who deserves the best. Here's to Fabulous You! (and your spoon😁).

Awww , how lovely, thank you so much NeedWineNow.
Today really is great news I’m still in shock.
I was listening to Coldplay , fix you earlier . It made me think of all of you and I imagined us all singing it waving our wooden spoons in the air …

When you try your best, but you don't succeed
When you get what you want, but not what you need
When you feel so tired, but you can't sleep
Stuck in reverse
And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can't replace
When you love someone, but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you
And high up above, or down below
When you're too in love to let it go
But if you never try, you'll never know
Just what you're worth
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you
Tears stream down your face
When you lose something you cannot replace
Tears stream down your face, and I
Tears stream down your face
I promise you I will learn from my mistakes
Tears stream down your face, and I
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you
Xx

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itsmylife7 · 01/11/2024 21:29
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Munchyseeds2 · 01/11/2024 21:41

That poem just says it all really💕 ...wish I was clever with words!
It will really do you the power of good to get out on Monday....I hope its a lovely blue sky day and that you manage to buy a nice colouring book and some bits to eat

Having seen the crafting you did the other weekend you can make a great picture to go in your new bedroom, oh just think, you will be able to have it just how you want it.. .what colours do you think you might like??