Need a hand hold

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That’s just it really. I really need a cuddle but that’s not possible so can anybody just support me right now? My mental health is on the floor right now I’ve never felt as low it’s making me feel so ill

Thank you Itiswhysofew
It’s a huge relief!
Thank you for your lovely words and the MN’s have been amazing, I’ve got a place to stay because of them and I feel safe. I’m so thankful 🙏
I hope you have a lovely weekend xx

Hello! I'm so glad you had such a wonderful sleep!!

As it's the weekend and I'm a total couch potato, I sm still in my PJs, drinking tea on the sofa. I could slob at Olympic levels!

You said above: "I used to be a bubbly happy confident person who could make friends with anybody but he took all that from me." I don't think he managed that as well as he, or you, thought. You are very clearly still that person, just with a veil over the top that you are already emerging from! I would absolutely use those words to describe you right now!!

Regarding jaffa cakes - what did you think of those alternative fillings they tried out with them - lime, and blackcurrant, etc. I don't think they were a patch on the original and classic!

Jaffa cakes have to be 🍊 in this house but they have got small!

I just want to say you are all amazing women, I've been reading from the sidelines and remember feeling that utter hopelessness when trying to leave a relationship with no support from my parents and you have all been amazing in supporting, and Laura, you are just fabulous. this thread has made me laugh and cry over the few days of finding it ( I had read some of your previous so knew the lead up) but god the power of the women supporting makes me smile, you are on your way up Laura xx

Well said @ChoccieCornflake . So many friends Laura now has

You said above: "I used to be a bubbly happy confident person who could make friends with anybody but he took all that from me." I don't think he managed that as well as he, or you, thought. You are very clearly still that person, just with a veil over the top that you are already emerging from! I would absolutely use those words to describe you right now!!

Hi ChoccieCornflake,
I hope you’ve had a nice day relaxing, I love pj days (too much really) . I always seem to eat more when I’ve got my pjs on though lol 😂
Awww you’re so kind @ChoccieCornflake you really are. You know how to lift a person up when they are feeling down.
I haven’t tried the other flavours of Jaffa cakes , I don’t fancy any but the original flavour tbh , I read an article where somebody tried all the different varieties and they said the cola bottle flavour ones tasted like bad cough sweets! xx

In my eyes ALL biscuits are too small lol 😂
I wonder if they made giant ones of them all if they would be so popular?
When I was on slimming world I used to get two digestives and put jam and Philadelphia on them and put them together and it tasted like cheesecake xx

Hi spoonfulofmustard,
They are amazing women aren’t they , I feel truly blessed to have received so much support and I will be forever thankful to each and every one of them .
Thank you so much for reading my thread I feel honoured . Winston Churchill once said ‘If you’re going through hell, keep going’. xx

Thank you Itiswhysofew,
@ChoccieCornflake is so lovely isn’t she.
I’ve still got my bubbles in me and a few escape now and again, I just need a bubble wand to blow the rest out xx

to add about myself (if I have friends on here they'll already know me from my cat pics of ava) I'm 42 and in a very lovely co dependent relationship with my wonderful cat ava. I escaped eventually thanks to some amazing work colleagues (old and new as I changed jobs) who took absolutely no shit from him and stood up for me (he reached out to everyone he could via LinkedIn to discredit me, and contacted my hr team directly with abuse, it was hell but I survived and we (the ladies involved) are close friends still. you will get there. men don't realise how much us women United can be terrifying in not taking their shit, you got this x

Hi spoonfulofmustard,
Nice to meet you . I love the name Ava, what a beautiful name.
Im so sorry to hear you went through something similar, your friends sound absolutely amazing and I’m so glad you had some support during those difficult times. I can completely understand when they try and discredit you. I didn’t even take that into consideration before I was kicked out but wow he has completely made me out to be an absolute monster and sadly people believe it . I just hope that one day they will sit back and think ‘hang on a minute , why would she leave the home where her children are when she has been so poorly and just came out of hospital and is partially paralysed, why would she leave her children and make herself homeless? Or they may just think I’m a terrible excuse for a human being and a terrible mother forever . I’m trying to not let it affect me and keep telling myself ‘if you can’t change a situation, change how you feel about it’ and I feel angry at times but I’m coming to realise that anger is a wasted emotion.
You sound like an absolute warrior and you give me faith that things will get better , thank you xx

I won't lie, it took so much strength to come out the other side, in fact my decree nisi came through the Saturday before we went into lockdown so I had the biggest impromptu party before the world changed! but YOU are the biggest fighter, just keep putting one foot in front of the other, I promise you I felt as low as you have done, but knowing I had the power and had to survive on my own without support from my family made me even more determined once I came put of the fog (if that makes sense!) you got this xx

You know , I have just had a complete breakdown in my room. When your sobbing and can’t catch your breath , when the physical pain of missing my children gets too much and actually hurts my heart when I feel so sad and the emotion I hate, angry, at the unfairness of it all and I read your post. And it really gave me hope that there is light at the end of the tunnel. God this is the hardest thing ever isn’t it. I’m so sorry you had to go through that but knowing you did has helped me so much. I bet your party was amazing! I’m proud of you xx

Massive hugs! What you are going through is beyond anything I can imagine, and yet you keep on going! You are awe-inspiring!!

To cheer you up, let me tell you you have missed nothing in not trying those other jaffa cakes! Not bad exactly, just wrong. Like white chocolate kitkats - sounds OK, but just not right!

When it comes to big versions of biscuits though, what you need is Pimp That Snack!🍪

@ChoccieCornflake is right, that bright bubbly you hasn’t gone anywhere. You are absolutely going to get through this. Of course there are going to be moments when you’re low and don’t feel like you will, but yes, one foot in front of another ❤️

I do so agree with this! That person is still there. We all see it and you’ll get back there. Even going through the very worst you’re still asking us questions and interested, engaging and funny, I can’t even imagine how you are at your best! Without him dragging you down, with a new home, your children, you will get back there Laura. I really really believe that. I absolutely love the best of mumsnet - it’s has its worse moments on other threads - but women supporting women and understanding each others pain and history is truly where it is valuable.

I’m so sorry for all the sadness. It’s so totally to be expected and please don’t think you ever have to hide it. We all understand the incredibly hard situation you’re still in and we are here for you with the ups - the Jaffa cakes, the swans, the successes, the wooden spoons and the Tesco trips! - any also the sadness and tears. I can’t even imagine how are it all is and know your children must be keeping you going. I bet you have a whole phone full of pictures of them and how much you’re desperately missing them shows what a loving mum you are 🥰🥰. Sending lots of love xx

Thank you for the hugs ChoccieCornflake,
Ive made myself have a shower and whilst I’m still feeling so upset tonight I’ve made myself have a little pamper and put some nice oil on so im a nice smelling sobbing mess at least. Also TMI but my knickers are currently bathing in the sink I just hope I don’t get a knock from housekeeping anytime soon!
Wow those portions are huge! Imagine having a giant biscuit! I imagine if you was sat on your sofa eating a giant cookie you’d feel gross and greedy and think ‘that’s enough now’ so instead you have 14 biscuits lol 😂 (it’s not the same though)
I only seem to like the original of things I’m not very adventurous xx

Oh lovely
If we could take away the hurt and push you forward to a better time, when you have a house and your kids are close, we would

I truly believe you will get there, honestly I do.
There will be tears and some times when you feel you can't do it but you can and you will xxx

Thank you TealPoet,
Your lovely kind words and support mean so much. I hope you have had a nice day?
I keep telling myself I’m going to get through this and that’s because you all believe in me. It’s actually a nice warm feeling knowing that and it helps me push forward. Thank you xx

oh sweetheart, I just wanted to show the party at the end (mine was 2 friends at the local bar who knew the situation, but yes we had lots of cocktails) but we're all behind you, sending love and and hugs, and all the support you need xx

Thank you RaspberryBeretxx,
And thank you to you all for seeing something in me that I forgot was there.
I just want my children 🥹it’s so hard . I feel like a huge part of me is missing and that I’m missing so much being away from them . I will never take their presence for granted again .
Thank you for believing in me I just hope I can get a home soon so I can be with them again .
I am so glad I found MN, I remember I first came across it when I was in hospital a few months ago and I was feeling sorry for myself not having any visitors but I’m so glad I was in that situation because I wouldn’t have found all you amazing people xx

when I told my parents I was unhappy and wanted to leave my marriage, their comment was 'get a cat'

You all do help take away some of the hurt Munchyseeds2
and you all help to remind me why I’m doing this and that I have to keep going. There’s no way back now I can only move forward and each step I take is a step closer to being with my children again . It is so very heartbreaking but one day we will be together again xx

I’m so glad and pleased you had a party even if it was a small one . You deserved it after everything you went through. I hope one day I will be like you and celebrating my new freedom and life with a cocktail and I will raise a huge toast to all of you on here xx