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Imbluedalale · 17/10/2024 23:39

That’s just it really. I really need a cuddle but that’s not possible so can anybody just support me right now? My mental health is on the floor right now I’ve never felt as low it’s making me feel so ill

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:28

workingholiday · 01/11/2024 14:04

This has made my day. Well done to you Laura and all the wonderful people who have helped you.

Thank you workingholiday,
They are all amazing aren’t they xx

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RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 14:29

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:16

It really is amazing news RaspberryBeretxx,
I’m so so thankful for everybody’s help I couldn’t have done this without you.
My mum and dad always say I’m not strong enough and I’m not fighting hard enough but I can now truthfully say they are wrong!
I will definitely get something to eat this afternoon , I might celebrate and have 3 more cookies 😂xx

You eat anything and everything you can! All the cookies 😆!

That's so horrible that your mum and dad say that about you, that's honestly not something I can ever ever imagine saying or thinking about you. I think you're really strong and brave and are absolutely fighting every single day. The trouble is when you're worn down by people and then on top of that up against multiple almost unsurmountable issues with very little support and actually, people trying to bring you down. How on earth can anyone muster up enough fight to go up against all that?

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:30

Apolloneuro · 01/11/2024 14:14

Blimming fantastic news.

Isn’t it just Apolloneuro,
It was your email that helped massively.
I cannot put into words how thankful I am xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:32

TealPoet · 01/11/2024 14:15

Phew, just catching up and I am SO relieved and happy! There has been very little I could do from here - I firmly believe lots of prayer is the secret, not me! Even the robovac will look like more of a friend now.

Very little? You have done so much TealPoet.
If it wasn’t for you I wouldn’t be here in this room right now .
You’ve done more time than you can ever imagine and I will be forever grateful for your kindness xx

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RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 14:35

And 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 @TealPoet for booking the room for the extra days and allowing the space for all this to happen.

I just caught your message Laura that said they'll rebook that room till you're housed. That's so so awesome! The next move for you and the spoon will be to your actual new home 😍. xx

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:37

AdmittowearingCrocs · 01/11/2024 14:15

I am in tears reading this, knowing you will be there until housed. Knowing you are safe, warm and comfortable with facilities that enhance your stay such as being able to take a bath and make a cup of tea has made my week.
Now enjoy the peace and quiet and let the stress disappear. Hopefully you will be able to eat, sleep and begin healing.
You did this Laura, we just supported you but you had the courage and will to make phone calls and send emails. I am in awe of you 💐🍪

I’m in tears reading that!
I can’t believe there’s people out there that care about me , it’s so amazing!
The biggest stress I was dealing with has been taken away for now until I get a home and now I can start to deal with everything else .
Thank you so much xx

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PeggyMitchellsCameo · 01/11/2024 14:43

Sorry if I’m getting a bit previous but I’m just wondering what to wear to book launch? 😂

CookiePookie · 01/11/2024 14:46

I am in awe; you are an absolute warrior! I’ve lurked along keeping the page open and updating and feeling so frustrated and worried on your behalf. And the MNetters who have stepped up right behind you to support - I applaud them wholeheartedly! What a wild, exhausting journey you have been on, and you are a shining star coming out the other side still making jokes and writing witty responses to the thread comments.

Your post has been an entire rollercoaster showing the best of humanity (with tales of the worst too). You are so courageous, eloquent, strong, brave, and a tougher-than-you-think complete hero of a woman. You just absolutely rock, Laura.

You have a whole army of MNetters behind you, astride robot hoovers, waving spoons, and holding banners of support.

Also - top tip - if you buy a big selection of 12 cookies from Subway it’s a bargain £4.99 I think, and they keep pretty well for a couple of days (if they last that long!). And I am going to try your teabag tip! Many hugs to you, safe, secure and cosy in your room now.

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:58

ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 14:17

^ THIS!! ^

That you are there not just for today or this week but until you have a home is the best news, the very best!

And you should totally be PROUD! PROUD with bells on!!!!!!

It’s amazing isn’t it ChoccieCornflake
I’m in awe of every single one of you and all the professionals that have helped me.
I know it sounds silly to say but I feel loved!xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 15:01

TealPoet · 01/11/2024 14:19

Do have more cookies for sure! Eat one for me since I can’t <3

You have been so strong and fought so hard. No one can rightly say anything else. Now we can have happy discussions about your book, courses to take, just nice things!

Thank you TealPoet.
Every single time in my life I have backed down from everything when I didn’t get the answer I was wanting and accepted it but for the first time ever I didn’t back down and oh my it feels good! Xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 15:24

Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 14:26

Great, they’ll all appreciate it so much. So often people in these roles do lots of difficult stuff that is unrecognised.

That’s the spirit! Determined and future-focused! That’s the stuff we admire in you Laura! Enjoy your bath, tea and cookies along with the peace of mind this decision brings.

Agree with all the shout-outs and gratitude to @TealPoet who is also an inspiration with her spirit, fortitude and generosity.

I’ve sent Dawn and Sally an email thanking them for all their help and for advocating on my behalf.
Im going to have a bath and have a lie down as feel exhausted today.
I am in awe of everybody who has supported me , encouraged me and helped me . Thank you to each and every one of you xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 15:33

RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 14:29

You eat anything and everything you can! All the cookies 😆!

That's so horrible that your mum and dad say that about you, that's honestly not something I can ever ever imagine saying or thinking about you. I think you're really strong and brave and are absolutely fighting every single day. The trouble is when you're worn down by people and then on top of that up against multiple almost unsurmountable issues with very little support and actually, people trying to bring you down. How on earth can anyone muster up enough fight to go up against all that?

I managed one and a half cookies today and had to give up. But they was very yummy .
I never thought I’d say this but I’m craving salads and fruit and veg. Oh what id give for abit of broccoli and carrots and cauliflower.
Thank you for your lovely comments , unfortunately my parents haven’t seen or known everything I’ve been through lately . I’ve tried to tell my mum but when she replies with ‘awww no’ or just puts a x to your reply it’s hard to express it when you’re getting a lack of attention.
There’s been so many times these last few weeks where I’ve craved a hug from my mum and just to hear words of comfort from her. I’m still heartbroken over it but now there’s a part of me that feels angry , actually I feel quite angry at all my family but I’m not going to let it consume me xx

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Giraffe888 · 01/11/2024 15:34

I’ve followed this thread from the beginning and read it several times a day for the updates.

I have genuinely never felt so invested in a person that I’ve never met. You are truly an incredible lady and deserve so much more than what you are currently dealing with

im thrilled at your latest update and a huge sign of relief that you know you’re safe and warm now until you get something more permanent sorted ❤️

I love reading your posts. You’re so eloquent and funny in your writing. Please keep posting xxxx

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 15:38

RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 14:35

And 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 @TealPoet for booking the room for the extra days and allowing the space for all this to happen.

I just caught your message Laura that said they'll rebook that room till you're housed. That's so so awesome! The next move for you and the spoon will be to your actual new home 😍. xx

@TealPoet is amazing isn’t she . I’ve never known kindness like it . She’s a super human being and I cannot thank her enough .
They must be doing something at the council as I’ve been homeless over a month and I’ve just received a phone call from the private rent team at the council asking me if I’ve considered renting privately. I nearly laughed . I said I’ve been looking at private rental for months way before I was made homeless. But again there’s so many obstacles in your way , having to earn 18xmonthly rent annually, having to have a guarantor , not currently working . I’ve tried I even rang every estate agent in the area huge first week I was homeless .
Id love a private rented property but it is not possible hence applying for council homes .
But anyway wherever I will be I will have my spoon with me xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 15:39

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 01/11/2024 14:43

Sorry if I’m getting a bit previous but I’m just wondering what to wear to book launch? 😂

You can wear anything you like PeggyMitchellsCameo.
As long as you bring your wooden spoon and some biscuits 😂xx

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RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 15:44

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 15:33

I managed one and a half cookies today and had to give up. But they was very yummy .
I never thought I’d say this but I’m craving salads and fruit and veg. Oh what id give for abit of broccoli and carrots and cauliflower.
Thank you for your lovely comments , unfortunately my parents haven’t seen or known everything I’ve been through lately . I’ve tried to tell my mum but when she replies with ‘awww no’ or just puts a x to your reply it’s hard to express it when you’re getting a lack of attention.
There’s been so many times these last few weeks where I’ve craved a hug from my mum and just to hear words of comfort from her. I’m still heartbroken over it but now there’s a part of me that feels angry , actually I feel quite angry at all my family but I’m not going to let it consume me xx

Ah, hopefully you can get yourself some fruit and veg soon. Are you anywhere near a supermarket? Are you allowed anything to cook in your room for when you're feeling a bit more up to eating? A mini slow cooker could be a godsend. On a slow cooking FB group, there was a guy who drove his lorry all over Europe and would have this mini slow cooker he could plug in and he'd cook all his meals in it so he could eat well while away for a few days.

You're amazing not to let your anger consume you even though you've every right to be angry and upset over the way they've treated you. What a huge difference just your mum being a listening ear and the odd visit could have made to you!

As if you hadn't thought to private rent! It sounds like a good sign that the housing team are getting on to it with sorting an actual home though. Still got everything crossed something comes up quickly and you can feel more settled.

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 01/11/2024 15:46

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 15:39

You can wear anything you like PeggyMitchellsCameo.
As long as you bring your wooden spoon and some biscuits 😂xx

Well I am not going to start a thread elsewhere for advice I’m going red carpet all the way.
’The Right Platform: how I missed a train and saved my own life’
I can picture it now. You on This Morning chatting to Alison and Dermot.
So when did you decide to write about your life?
Well, it really began when I started a thread….

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 15:47

CookiePookie · 01/11/2024 14:46

I am in awe; you are an absolute warrior! I’ve lurked along keeping the page open and updating and feeling so frustrated and worried on your behalf. And the MNetters who have stepped up right behind you to support - I applaud them wholeheartedly! What a wild, exhausting journey you have been on, and you are a shining star coming out the other side still making jokes and writing witty responses to the thread comments.

Your post has been an entire rollercoaster showing the best of humanity (with tales of the worst too). You are so courageous, eloquent, strong, brave, and a tougher-than-you-think complete hero of a woman. You just absolutely rock, Laura.

You have a whole army of MNetters behind you, astride robot hoovers, waving spoons, and holding banners of support.

Also - top tip - if you buy a big selection of 12 cookies from Subway it’s a bargain £4.99 I think, and they keep pretty well for a couple of days (if they last that long!). And I am going to try your teabag tip! Many hugs to you, safe, secure and cosy in your room now.

Hi CookiePookie,
I love your name btw.
Awww thank you for reading my thread and for your lovely kind words.
The MN’s are absolutely amazing aren’t they . I am in awe of them .
Oh I don’t feel like a warrior I’m utterly exhausted, I never knew it would be so hard . But no going back got to keep wading through the mud until I get to the other side .
When I write my book I’m going to have a huge page of acknowledgements!
Omg I didn’t know that about the cookies 🍪 at subway , thank you . Did you know they do a foot long cookie? A whole foot long , I was thinking that’s huge what greedy git would eat that then proceeds to wolf 3 cookies down one after the other (and get more the following day).
Definitely try the tea bag trick I think it works with Coca Cola too but I thought that was too expensive xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 15:55

Giraffe888 · 01/11/2024 15:34

I’ve followed this thread from the beginning and read it several times a day for the updates.

I have genuinely never felt so invested in a person that I’ve never met. You are truly an incredible lady and deserve so much more than what you are currently dealing with

im thrilled at your latest update and a huge sign of relief that you know you’re safe and warm now until you get something more permanent sorted ❤️

I love reading your posts. You’re so eloquent and funny in your writing. Please keep posting xxxx

Hi Giraffe888,
Awww that’s so lovely I can’t believe people are invested in my thread!
When I started it I just needed to reach out and for somebody , even if just one person to listen. I needed a friend. Never in a million years did I ever imagine all the support I’ve received. I went from having no friends to lots! I think you are all amazing
When I got the phone call from the council today I really wanted to put on a leather jacket and walk around the hotel with a cigarette behind my ear thinking I was Al Capone . But I didn’t but it made me feel powerful lol 😂 xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 16:05

RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 15:44

Ah, hopefully you can get yourself some fruit and veg soon. Are you anywhere near a supermarket? Are you allowed anything to cook in your room for when you're feeling a bit more up to eating? A mini slow cooker could be a godsend. On a slow cooking FB group, there was a guy who drove his lorry all over Europe and would have this mini slow cooker he could plug in and he'd cook all his meals in it so he could eat well while away for a few days.

You're amazing not to let your anger consume you even though you've every right to be angry and upset over the way they've treated you. What a huge difference just your mum being a listening ear and the odd visit could have made to you!

As if you hadn't thought to private rent! It sounds like a good sign that the housing team are getting on to it with sorting an actual home though. Still got everything crossed something comes up quickly and you can feel more settled.

There is a big Tesco nearby I might get a taxi to it one day and get some fruit and healthy bits .
I’m not allowed to cook anything in my room or bring any electrical kitchen appliances which is a shame as I’ve got a lovely microwave in my suitcase (I haven’t really) .
That sounds amazing about the lorry guy, good on him. Oh I can’t wait to cook food in the slow cooker.
I am angry and I feel angry at them but getting angry is not going to get me anywhere and just uses up energy that I need to reserve for something else . And one thing feeling angry does to you after a while is it makes you determined xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 16:22

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 01/11/2024 15:46

Well I am not going to start a thread elsewhere for advice I’m going red carpet all the way.
’The Right Platform: how I missed a train and saved my own life’
I can picture it now. You on This Morning chatting to Alison and Dermot.
So when did you decide to write about your life?
Well, it really began when I started a thread….

Oh I love that PeggyMitchellsCameo,
Well I’ll go red carpet too since I don’t get out much anyway lol 😂
I love that name for a book!
They do say life starts at 40!xx

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PeggyMitchellsCameo · 01/11/2024 16:41

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 16:22

Oh I love that PeggyMitchellsCameo,
Well I’ll go red carpet too since I don’t get out much anyway lol 😂
I love that name for a book!
They do say life starts at 40!xx

Absolutely!!!!!

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 16:49

Just admiring the view …__

Need a hand hold
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ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 16:51

Blimey that view is stunning!!!! That is one heck of a view to start the rest of your onwards-and-upwards journey with!!

Munchyseeds2 · 01/11/2024 17:26

That is a lovely view! X