DH won’t let me use his account

[PBJlover]

DH pays for a Spotify subscription. I’d like to be able to use it to listen to music while getting ready in the morning (a time when he doesn’t use it). Also I could use my phone to play music for us in the car, instead of him trying to DJ by fiddling with his phone while driving. He wants us to buy a second subscription for me instead of letting me login with his. Mostly because he doesn’t want me to “mess up” his Spotify “Wrapped,” which gives you a report of what you listened to at the end of each year. I am sick of us paying for so many digital subscriptions. Yes, it’s only a few dollars a month, but such subscriptions add up! A streaming service here, a storage app there… etc etc. Am I being unreasonable to wish to use his account?

Like this one. Why so hostile? 😂

Get your own Spotify account.
I wouldn't want someone messing up my tailored recommendations etc either.

We all love wrapped because we are a family that loves music. We all (me DH and 18yo DSD) all love live music and go to gigs together and separately, DSD is a musician. We love discovering new music, things we think one of us will like, who’s spent the most time listening in the year. We tease each other about our taste (usually them teasing me!)

I like to find out which bands, genres and songs I’ve listened to most. I like seeing how it’s changed from past years.

I know your response will be ‘but DH doesn’t use Spotify like that’ so I’ve wasted my time, but that’s why we like wrapped.

I don’t think we really need to explain why people
like the wrapped function at the end of the year. Can’t it be enough for you to accept that some people do just like it?
I always look forward to it, my friends and I share certain elements of it and have a laugh over it. It’s nice to look back and be reminded of certain songs you loved earlier in the year. I also genuinely find it interesting to see who my top artist that year was, and what one song out of hundreds, that I listened to the most. It’s just a bit of fun. Patterns are also interesting, a few years ago after a heartbreak, all my songs were so gloomy and depressing, but a couple of years later my top songs were all really happy ones. And it’s just nice to reflect.

Just pay the extra few pounds for the dual account, or listen to the free version and suck up the ads.

Well, it would help me if I did understand. Is that so weird?

Helping you to understand isn’t his problem. If someone tried to pressure me into giving my subscription password I would not be amused, no is a complete sentence. Your entitlement is showing.

Thank God the penny has finally dropped. I’m aghast that you saw such lethal behaviour as a mere irritation. You have to go zero tolerance on this.

Look, some people keep a book journal (which they buy, with money) and write down what they're reading. Then at the new year they look back through it and reminisce. Same with a list of films. Or family photographs.

In that fallow time between Christmas and new year, checking back in with the music you listened to last spring can be pretty magical.

Plus, seeing someone else's Wrapped is fun. We always do ours when the extended family is round, and we compare and contrast. (and, er, mock slightly - looking at you, Harry Styles megafan!)

This. YABVU @PBJlover Get your own account!

The Tesco version of that shamed me into giving up my daily meal deal. It grassed me up to DH by announcing that our most purchased item that year was 40g bags of blue Doritos

That’s a choice though.

Whats the riskiest thing to do? Fiddling with your phone whilst driving (which is illegal in the U.K. btw because so dangerous) or letting one of those awful big companies having access to some of your data?

Like most things, it’s a choice we all make on an individual basis.

Oh and if he’s fiddling with his phone while driving when you are not in the car with him it’s only a matter of time before the cops are at your door to say you’d better sit down Ma’am…

I see. It’s like a diary of how you spent your time over the year.

You can get a family account. Dd, ex and I all had our own profiles.
DD wad happy that her wrapped thing didn't say she was a listener of taylor swift cos of me 😁

Unless you are absoslutely skint and cannot afford an extra fiver per month then YABU.

He doesn't want to. It matters to him, you don't understand because it doesn't matter to you. It's a small saving, and there are many people on this thread who agree with him. You obviously never will, but he's said no. Get your own account, or listen to music through a different source

🤣 they'll be saying LTB next.

Yes, and because music is so evocative, it takes you right back. Last NYE when we did our Wrapped, mine played a bit of Jamie XX's Girl, and I felt a lovely wave of warm sunshine because I'd listened to it 600 times in a heatwave. Blissful

Music is incredibly important to my husband. To me it’s background noise. I wouldn’t dream of interfering with his.

Download Firefox or Orion browser, install UBlock Origin, and you can use the Spotify website to stream music without adverts. Works for YouTube as well! 🙂

Sneaky! 😮

😭

@PBJlover well I'd start looking at all your digital subscriptions, how much you're paying a month jointly, how much use you're getting out of them.. it can mount up.

Fine if you’re ok with theft I suppose.

OP why can’t you just let him have a small pleasure? Can you not afford the few extra pounds for him to have something that sounds like it’s important to him? You being odd about this comes across as controlling

This is one of those things you file under Incomprehensible Things That Are Important To The Person I Love with a fond shake of the head and then LET IT GO.

The cross examination of WHY is so important to him as though it will only be allowed to matter if it is explained to your satisfaction is pretty unpleasant.

It's such a small thing and could not be less worth the candle. Just get a family account and be done with it, for the sake of marital harmony!