DH won’t let me use his account

[PBJlover]

DH pays for a Spotify subscription. I’d like to be able to use it to listen to music while getting ready in the morning (a time when he doesn’t use it). Also I could use my phone to play music for us in the car, instead of him trying to DJ by fiddling with his phone while driving. He wants us to buy a second subscription for me instead of letting me login with his. Mostly because he doesn’t want me to “mess up” his Spotify “Wrapped,” which gives you a report of what you listened to at the end of each year. I am sick of us paying for so many digital subscriptions. Yes, it’s only a few dollars a month, but such subscriptions add up! A streaming service here, a storage app there… etc etc. Am I being unreasonable to wish to use his account?

I wouldn't want my Spotify messed up with anyone else's shite lol I have only just realised that I felt this way and it's not just about Spotify wrapped either. My favourite albums and specific songs and podcasts that are all mine in my little Spotify world lol. Get your own, it's not exactly gonna break the bank to add you onto his plan. Don't turn this into an issue about your husband not willing to share something that you don't see an issue with. Looking forward to the incoming posts about how much of a selfish controlling twat he is though because that's how it usually goes on here lol.
Nobody would ever get near my Spotify and I'm not a selfish controlling twat and if I had someone in my ear insisting I share it with them I would tell them to fuck off

Well, it would help me if I did understand. Is that so weird?

Sorry but I'd be annoyed to. It's like when someone has used my nextflix profile.

Well I agree that I don't see what's so important about Spotify unwrapped, but I know other people like it. I don't think he's being that unreasonable - how much extra is a double account?

Slightly missing the point but obviously he shouldn't be pissing about on his phone choosing music while driving!

😂 yes that's it exactly

Ok.

Some people really like it. They enjoy it.

Thats the explanation.

OP why ask the question if you're just going to ignore the majority of the responses 🤣 if you just want to hear that you're right then find a friend to do that for you.

Specifically on the wrapped feature, it's interesting, it actually reminded me of some podcast series I loved at the beginning of the year and I went back to look and they had released a new series, and best of all I was in the top 1% of listeners for a band and got a video message. Kind of cool.

I love my husband but no way is he getting into my Spotify account

I mean, if you don't understand it I don't know what will make you understand. But the wrapped is an anthology of what you've listed to for the whole year. I read a lot of books, and I'd love something like this to tell me everything I've read. It's a similar thing. I totally get it. If you don't then fine, but I don't understand why it's so bewildering to you.

If he wants his stats to be his stats that's fair enough. He might want to be able to share it with his mates without them laughing at your choices.

Partner and I use the same one. It makes no difference to our lives, I just scroll or skip passed one of his song and vice versa and we all survive. Nothing is ruined.

Me and my partner have a duo account. It’s minimal extra money for unlimited music/podcasts, etc at your fingertips. Nobody ruining your algorithms. If you’re that bothered (which you seem to be) just get a free account and deal with the adverts! Leave your poor husband’s Spotify alone.

Well, you've had it explained to you multiple times, but still seem to be being a bit obtuse about it all.

I don't understand why you can't just let it be and pay for your own account. If you don't think it's worth the money, suck up the commercials and use the free version, or get your music elsewhere.

I wouldn't want DH using my account either.

And??

You can't have your cake and eat it op

I hate it when someone messes with my Netflix algorithm so I am with DH.

To answer your question, no. It’s interesting how he doesn't like the generated suggestions. He also thinks I’m weird because I’ll enjoy turning on the car radio and flipping around and hearing new music. He only wants to hear the 90s and 2000s rock he knows and loves.

Don’t think anyone is suggesting anyone wouldn’t survive are they? Is the husband suggesting that?

Op will survive and nothing is ruined if they get a duo account.

or are preferences only allowed when it’s a matter of survival?

Do you two even like each other?

I bet there are things you do that he doesn't understand.

I don't get it. Unless you're on the breadline why don't you just pay the extra fiver a month for the Duo account so you both have your own log ins and you use it how you want to? Or put up with the adverts.

Or is this somehow about more than his Spotify account and there's inequality or controlling behaviour in the relationship?

Please tell me he’s not really fiddling with Spotify while driving?!

None of this will matter when you are all dead and/or in jail for killing other road users.

When driving I change the songs on Apple Music on my husband’s phone, which he already has connected to the car for sat nav.

If your husband is ao picky then tell him he can dictate the music but you have to be the one who physically selects the songs. Or you drive.

I was also rather concerned at the fiddling with his phone whilst at the wheel.

I use amazon not Spotify but it's really annoying that all my most played etc are either kids bop or occasionally a poo poo song

Sharing a Spotify account is rubbish - their choices affect your made for your lists which I listen to daily.

Plus only one person can listen at any time, that crosses over more than you’d always think.

What?? Do you think we’re so incompatible?? 🤣

If your husband is into 90s and 2000s music he’s probably of the age that watched Cold Feet. Rachel died because she changed a cassette in the car while driving. Just sayin’.