DH won’t let me use his account

[PBJlover]

DH pays for a Spotify subscription. I’d like to be able to use it to listen to music while getting ready in the morning (a time when he doesn’t use it). Also I could use my phone to play music for us in the car, instead of him trying to DJ by fiddling with his phone while driving. He wants us to buy a second subscription for me instead of letting me login with his. Mostly because he doesn’t want me to “mess up” his Spotify “Wrapped,” which gives you a report of what you listened to at the end of each year. I am sick of us paying for so many digital subscriptions. Yes, it’s only a few dollars a month, but such subscriptions add up! A streaming service here, a storage app there… etc etc. Am I being unreasonable to wish to use his account?

You both seem to think the other is weird just for having preferences

Gladicalled

🙄 Sure.

Why do you need to understand?

Your husband finds it important, it would cost, what? A fiver a month for you to have your own, and you're making a big deal about it.

I bet you spend more than a fiver a month on things that you enjoy.

Like refusing to take on board the advice that she’s asking for on this advice forum? Making mountains out of molehills?

Oh that would drive me nuts if I started getting your recommendations!use the free one or buy your own.

He's allowed his personal accounts. I like my Spotify reports - ties in with music being very important to me.
He likes it... what's not to understand?

Oh no, I’m with DH. I would find this incredibly annoying. I don’t want other peoples music clogging up lists, being recommended for me etc etc. Get your own.

I'm with him

I don't want anyone on my subscription

Pay or put up with the ads.

He pays for his, why can't/won't you pay for yours?

Yes, I tell him not to do it. When he wants to change the song, I say I’ll do it for him. But then he needs to unlock his phone, which is still a hazard (we have an older car without a screen console hookup). I’d be happy listening to the car radio but he has specific songs he wants to hear. It’d be safer if I could just play whatever song he wants from the passenger seat.

But he's an absolute fool if he's playing about with it whilst driving I wouldn't get in the car with him

He can have a car playlist

Music is a personal taste. Many people like Coldplay which I don't for example. Given the way Spotify works I think a separate subscription is a reasonable thing to have.

OP you sound controlling

He makes a playlist

Stop getting in the car with him

You don't have to understand why it matters to him. The fact is that it does. If you want your own music you can pay the (very little) that it costs.

I used to have Spotify until I discovered soundcloud. Its way way better. I love the suggestions and there are so many wonderful remixes of different tracks.
I'm very tight so I just use the free version. And the free version on soundcloud beats the pants off Spotify.

I’m with him. My Spotify is sacred - and I love my wrapped at the end of the year. I also love it goes into a bank and whenever I feel like it I can select my top playlist from any year.

It’s also quite annoying when you share the account and both want to listen at the same time. And even if he doesn’t use the suggested list he still has it set up how he wants it.

He does need better playlists though that can be flicked through rather than opening up the app while driving.

We have a joint bank account and share all expenses. Something I’ve realized through Mumsnet is rare in the UK (I’m in the US where it’s normal).

We have a joint account and share all expenses, this isn’t rare in the UK, but we have a Spotify Family account .

Surely if you have a joint account, the increased cost just comes out of that, what’s the issue?

So it comes down to, OP wants the paid for version, but not enough to pay for it. But expects her DH who wants it enough to pay for it to give her it for free.

we have a family account and all of us live comparing our wrapped! We have very different taste in music.

Oh using mine drives me insane! His music taste is utterly shite and it messes with my playlists and my recommendations!

Well that’s ‘the’ cost of having a free account….
You can’t have it both ways

So when you said, "DH pays for a Spotify subscription" you actually meant "We pay for a subscription for DH". You implied separate finances in the wording of the post. In that case just pay for a second one or a duo from the same joint account and stop being so tight-fisted about it.

Yes, it’s only a few dollars a month, but such subscriptions add up! A streaming service here, a storage app there… etc etc

You're trying to save a few dollars on a subscription service that it appears you would both value. Go look at the other subs to find the ones you don't value to find the savings.

My DH's Spotify account is sacred to him.

I'm more lax about mine but I do think I've found my playlists more personal over the years.

I'm not sure I'd want anyone rooting through them and wondering why my taste was so shit or random!!

We have a family account - I think it even has 6 spots on it.

I get why you might want to slim down unnecessary expense, OP, but
is not a particular hill I'd die on.