To not like being called by forename by kids

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I don't know but somehow it feels odd when sons friends year 6 age range calling me by my forename. I haven't said anything but part of me feels I would prefer Mr surname or "sons name - dad".

Love the fact my sons/daughters feel comfortable to call me by my name, I hate hi (son's name) mum. I have a name and they can use that. And saying Mrs Surname is far to formal...

I think you are being unreasonable. It is your name.

Personally doesn't bother me at all.

What does your son call his friend's parents?

You want them to call you "Dylan's dad" in person?

I’m with you, OP.

much prefer to be properly addressed rather than being called by my Christian name.

I couldn't get worked up about this. I love my daughters friends feeling comfortable enough to call me by name

Yes, I can understand if your forename is Balonz.

It's the 21st century! I called adults by their first name growing up in the 80s. I think you are very fuddy duddy.

Is there some ingrained reason you feel people should address you a certain way?

Were you In the forces? Teacher? anything to do with the church?

Wondering why you feel the need to distinguish between how regular people might address you vs children. Why you feel you need to keep formality and distance.

Lol. It's your name. Weird af to want them to call you Mr followed by your surname.

Lots of children use 'child's name-dad' when they're very young and find it hard to remember your name, but once they get older, that's ridiculous too.

It's a need for the recognition status, I think. Some people are like that, they like hierarchy. The poster who said teacher, military , that was a good call

You want small children to call you Mr Whatever? Wow, I bet you're fun at parties

Good afternoon Mrs Patterson (Kevin and perry)

Sorry I think you really need to get over yourself

To be called Ms March is old fashioned and I think it's pretty unusual for children to call their friends' parents Mr/Mrs these days. But I think the change is recent enough that it can feel a bit odd.

Weirdly, for me, it didn't bother me when the DC were younger but I am less comfortable with it now the DC are in high school. But I also suck it up - the world has moved on and changed and that's okay.

When I was growing up it was Uncle/Auntie firstname. A few people still do that, not many. Mr/mrs is too formal.

You don’t want someone to call you, by your legal name because they are under 18?

Even my child’s principal isn’t that uptight.

Quite. Like always using Mrs on everything even when it is quite unnecessary.

When I was in my teens I had a Saturday job and sometimes worked alongside a woman I was quite happy to address as Helen. However, when I became good friends with her daughter I found it hard to continue to do that as she was now 'Polly's Mum' in my head! Bonkers.

I dislike this. You are not their Uncle/Auntie, unless you are.

@SimpleThings101 I'm never referred to by a Christian name, because I don't have one. I'm often referred to by my first name, though

I think its a bit old fashioned now. When I met DH's parents for the first time she made a point of saying you must call me firstname.

Recently I took DD for a playdate and the mum is a TA at her school so I said "say thank you to Mrs X" and she laughed and said oh no she can call me firstname when we're not in school.

I suppose no one is being unreasonable to want to be addressed how they like. It’s highly unusual though, I’m in my thirties and friends’ parents/ parents’ friends were exclusively known as their first names by everyone I knew and society has only become less formal since then. Year 6 is also pretty old to enforce this. You can ask them to call you Mr XX but chances are they’ll find that odd and uncomfortable and they’ll just not directly address you at all. It might be worth considering where this discomfort is coming from within you. Has it always been a problem, or is it only now that your child is approaching secondary school?

Never called an adult Mr or Mrs (except school, etc.) or friend's mum.

Also, I would much rather a kid call me by my name than as a formal Mrs. Husband's surname or as someone's mum.

Saying that, my own little one calls me and his dad by our first names sometimes, that also doesn't bother me, either.

When my eldest was in pre school his best friend called me J* mum, I said how about calling me “my name” his mum interrupted and said she wasn’t comfortable with the I could be aunt as we are good friends. I didn’t like that so the little lad looked at me for a while and said “ I’ll call you JM (m’s my surname first letter}. It’s stuck, 30 years later I’m still JM , all my children’s friends have called me it over the years, their partners and children now call me it, I personally love it, it often gets shortened to M which DH says suits me better but then he’s a James Bond fan.

I'm 50 and I called adults by their first names in the 80's. Would be very weird to be called mrs ...