To not like being called by forename by kids

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I don't know but somehow it feels odd when sons friends year 6 age range calling me by my forename. I haven't said anything but part of me feels I would prefer Mr surname or "sons name - dad".

DS friends call me Mrs C because I taught them all. DS was at a different school. I keep suggesting it’s first name but they aren’t budging!

It's quite a class thing

Distance? Our children always run up to her and give her a hug.

My bank and GP call me by my first name and that's fine with me. I'm nearly 70 fwiw.

I am the opposite. I was recently at my child’s school and they gave us formal name tags with mr and Mrs X on it. We got a pen and all scribbled our first names on it. I’m too young to be treated like an old lady!

Please don’t make it weird for your kids to have their friends over this is very odd behaviour, chill

Reminds me of Kevin and Perry ‘Hi Mr Pattinson, Mrs Pattinson’.

They’re year six! a few years off adulthood. Of course they can say Hi Chris. Not Hi Jack’s Dad! That’s just odd. Get over yourself. Sounds like you’re on a power trip.

One of mine did that to our Head once. She looked properly awkward.

I prefer it though I usually invite using my first name.

My daughter's friends had a habit of calling me "Daughter's name mum" which I didn't mind too much but it seemed a bit silly so I told them to just call me Name.

Likewise one of my sons friends who had very strict parents would address me earnestly as Mrs Smith which was charming but unnecessarily formal (and I've kept my maiden name so I'm actually Miss Jones anyway).

My parents were a bit snobby and insisted we call adults Mrs x or Auntie Y. The Auntie stuff was a bit annoying as we weren't related so why pretend? It was ingrained though so once I was adult and the family friend said oh don't call me Mrs/Auntie, just call me Name, I couldn't do it. It was a total block because it had been drummed into me by mother that it was disrespectful. I'm glad times have changed!

That is a bit sad. But different countries, different cultures. It’s quite interesting.

You sound like my gran. She would´ve been 100 in 2019. When she was dying in hospital it really annoyed her that the nurses called her Vera (her name) and Not Mrs. Y... She would come round just to correct them.
My daugther´s 6, her cronies call me E...´s mum when addressing me. When they are older they will call me by my Christian name...
The world has moved on.

None of the teachers or staff there are Mr/Mrs/Miss.

They are all first name basis it’s mentioned very early on in going to look around the school, they believe in teaching in a new way not in an old fashioned way and it seems to work the results speak for themselves when you look at their reports for where students go after year 11.

Mr so-and-so by your child's friends? That sounds very U.S. South to me...

My friends always called my parents by first names. Anything else would have been strange.

'Kate's mum, can I have a drink?"

Why? It's your name, and they know it.

In fairness, I grew up in Denmark. We didn't call teachers Mr/Mrs, etc., or Miss and Sir. So my perspective is coloured by that.

“Mrs Anderson” or whatever also assumes you’re married, and plenty of parents aren’t. Getting into whether it’s Mrs or Ms with a child (& do you have the same second name as the child who is their friend?) feels quite involved when the poor kid could just call you Julie!

I have no issue with it at all, A couple of DS's Asian friends call me "auntie" and one lovely young man calls me "Mrs(DS's Name)'s Mum but my first name is fine too.
Ds is 15 now and apparently they like to wind each other up by using their Mum and Dads names to each other, so instead of saying "ask your Mum" etc they say "ask Hopping"

I called my friends' mums by their first names in the 90s! You're being very old-fashioned, OP.

A teenaged friend of my DS once saw me in the street and called, ‘Hello Mrs X!’ I spent some time looking around, wondering who had the same surname as me, before I realised he was actually talking to me.

Seriously, OP, it sounds awfully pompous to want to be addressed as Mr xxx.

It is not respectful. My kids address my friends as “Mrs/aunty/x’s mum”
they aren’t friends, my friends are old enough to be their parents, show respect.

A few of DDs friends were also teachers at her school, she always said it was weird going to their houses and using their first names. She always used Mrs X until one of them said she was "firstname" at home

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Even grown up in the 80s I called my friends mums by their first name.

I honestly cant imagine my DDs friends using anything else. I'd be a bit offended and feel quite old if they did tbh

Reasonable if your name is Balonz
unreasonable if otherwise.

Not all children have the same last name as their dad.

Where I grew up it's always "Miss [firstname]" or "Mr [firstname]" (regardless of marital status!) and I quite like that. It feels familiar and respectful at the same time. My husband hates it when we visit though so not everyone's cup of tea!

I doubt it's because they call the teachers by their first names!

I hate being called Mrs. I don't mind who calls me by my first name because, um, it's my name?! Why on earth would I? I'm a 60s child and there were only a couple of older ladies who always went by Mrs Married Name. I didn't even call my own aunts and uncles anything other than their first names!