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Fed up of DH wanting to 'talk' about my friends

258 replies

Boredofitall88 · 06/10/2024 21:45

Dh and I have been together years, and it's becoming more and more apparent that we have widely different sex drives. I'm happy with once a week, I don't think he would be satisfied if we were doing it 2 or 3 times a day!

We also both work full time and have 2 young children (9 & 4)

One thing that constantly puts me off is he likes to talk about other people, what he would do if they were there and constantly mentions wanting a threesome (like everytime we do anything.)

Problem is it's not just famous people, he starts bringing up my friends. He'll ask what i would do if they suddenly came on to him and would he have to say no etc

I know he wouldn't actually do anything (and it's really not likely to happen in real life as none of my friends are his biggest fan anyway) but it's draining.

He says I'm boring and he's just doing it ti make things more exciting but I find it awkward and I don't want to talk about people I know that way

He also constantly tells me that he could better and that I'm punching above my weight and would never find anyone else so this kind of talk doesn't really help

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Pumpkincozynights · 06/10/2024 21:51

He tells you you are punching above your weight!!!!
Hell I’d be showing him just how hard I can punch by using his stupid face as a punch bag.
Maybe start by telling him he is giving you the ick and it’s a real turn off him droning on about three somes.

Imperrysmum · 06/10/2024 21:52

What a creep. Divorce this loser

Incakewetrust · 06/10/2024 21:52

You keep typing 'DH' but surely you mean 'ex-DH' right?!

AgathaX · 06/10/2024 21:52

He's a bit of a twat then?

You're not 'punching'. You're not 'boring'. You don't have to listen to his rubbish.

MrsTerryPratchett · 06/10/2024 21:53
Envy
NewtyCutey · 06/10/2024 21:54

Ew.

Icanttakethisanymore · 06/10/2024 21:55

There are times when the classic go-to MN phrase is the only answer… LTB (and don’t look back)

Penguinfeet24 · 06/10/2024 21:55

I assume when he told you you were punching above your weight you punches him straight in the smug face and walked out the door, never to be seen again, right?

IamSmarticus · 06/10/2024 21:56

I can see why your friends are not his biggest fans tbh.

pikkumyy77 · 06/10/2024 21:56

Ugh. Just ugh. He is telling you, in no uncertain terms, that you are not enough for him. He would absolutely cheat on you if he thought he could get away with it and emotionally he is cheating on you every minute with his stupid open fantasizing.

PixelatedLunchbox · 06/10/2024 21:57

Wow. What a condescending pig he is 🐷. Why exactly are you putting up with this?

IsThePopeCatholic · 06/10/2024 21:57

pikkumyy77 · 06/10/2024 21:56

Ugh. Just ugh. He is telling you, in no uncertain terms, that you are not enough for him. He would absolutely cheat on you if he thought he could get away with it and emotionally he is cheating on you every minute with his stupid open fantasizing.

This. You’d be mad to stay with him.

CatchHimDerry · 06/10/2024 21:58

In.The.Bin 🗑️

Olika · 06/10/2024 21:58

Let him be free so he can go and try to make his stupid fantasies real. Makes me want to throw up all over him.

TiramisuThief · 06/10/2024 21:58

IamSmarticus · 06/10/2024 21:56

I can see why your friends are not his biggest fans tbh.

Yeah, this.

He's a creep. And he's the boring one, droning on about his predictable sexual fantasies. Urgh

Scottishday · 06/10/2024 22:00

What a vile man.
Does he have any redeeming qualities?
If not what is stopping you leaving.

Boleynforsoup · 06/10/2024 22:00

Gross. My ex husband was like this... made me want sex even less as he just grossed me out with this talk. He's been an ex for many years and I have a new partner now... miraculously my sex drive is remarkably higher now I'm not being subjected to this bullshit 😂

IAmAFirestarter · 06/10/2024 22:00

This is so bad I am not sure I believe it's real.

If it's real... get fucking rid. No one should be with anyone who speaks to them like that.

SummerVibes03 · 06/10/2024 22:01

I don't think this is about different sex drives OP. He is putting you down. Can you see that ?

Awrite · 06/10/2024 22:01

And you find this man attractive enough to sleep with every week? Gads.

This man is a sleaze.

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 06/10/2024 22:01

No no no no. Intolerable. I’d say stop or we’re over.

Crikeyalmighty · 06/10/2024 22:03

Blimey- I'm amazed you are still there - my H wouldn't see me fit dust if he started this kind of chat or put me down like that

GingerPirate · 06/10/2024 22:04

😡🤢
Stupid bastard.

PermanentTemporary · 06/10/2024 22:07

If youte having regular sex with this prince you have an incredible sex drive. God, imagine someone who is supposed to love you telling you you're boring and not attractive enough for him. Where is the tenderness, where is the joy?

Sugarysugar · 06/10/2024 22:07

What an odious man.
Why on earth are you still with him OP?