Fed up of DH wanting to 'talk' about my friends

[Boredofitall88]

Dh and I have been together years, and it's becoming more and more apparent that we have widely different sex drives. I'm happy with once a week, I don't think he would be satisfied if we were doing it 2 or 3 times a day!

We also both work full time and have 2 young children (9 & 4)

One thing that constantly puts me off is he likes to talk about other people, what he would do if they were there and constantly mentions wanting a threesome (like everytime we do anything.)

Problem is it's not just famous people, he starts bringing up my friends. He'll ask what i would do if they suddenly came on to him and would he have to say no etc

I know he wouldn't actually do anything (and it's really not likely to happen in real life as none of my friends are his biggest fan anyway) but it's draining.

He says I'm boring and he's just doing it ti make things more exciting but I find it awkward and I don't want to talk about people I know that way

He also constantly tells me that he could better and that I'm punching above my weight and would never find anyone else so this kind of talk doesn't really help

Get rid.

Yuk. I think you need to break it to him that he's the one who needs to up his game. Intimacy with your partner should be focused on pleasing then, not making them feel not enough.
This is a regular thing, not a one offvilljudged mistake.
What would you advise your grown up daughter to do in this situation? Do whatever your good advice would be for someone you care about

He's negging to break you down. It's emotional abuse. And revolting.
I couldn't be with someone like this.

Ew, you're having sex with this egregious pile of ooze someone scraped off the bottom of the barrel? Why?

Can't imagine why none of your pals like him 🙄

Down goes the bar yet another surprising notch, we'll be at the earth's core soon.

This. Yes. He is an abuser.
a pathetic, insecure arsehole that puffs himself up and maintains his ego by trying to crush yours. Hopefully you’ll realise that he’s not fit to shine your shoes.

Vile pig! 🤢

Yuk. I'd leave. Divorce. Immediately. Twat.

Vile.

I don’t know you but I already know you deserve so much better than this. This is 1000% not ok or how a husband should be

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And so on.

Release him from this "boring" life. He can go out to the world and make his fantasies true....Good luck with that.

What a creep. Ewww

This can't be real.
Your friends hate him.
He tells you you are punching.
He wants to talk about your friends in bed.
But you are still having sex with him?????
WHY????

You really don't know he wouldn't do anything.This isn't a thing men just do, and especially if he knows it makes you uncomfortable.

This, in bucketloads.

Throw the whole man in the bin

No wonder you're fed up. He sounds a creep. He's not considering your feelings at all - are you supposed to find this attractive???

I really don't know how you manage to shag that once a week.

find your bar and raise it, your current husband doesn't even like you - never mind respect or love you.

Good Lord. Bite the bullet and tell him you want out. It's never going to get better.

Well he's a right cunt, isn't he. Sometimes I'll feel a bit down about being single. And then I read about relationships like this and thank a deity I don't even believe in that at least I'm not in a relationship like this.
This one needs to go in the bin. Immediately.

Well if that doesn't give you the ick...

Why are you with this Neanderthal?

What. A. Creep.

I would struggle with him. The temptation to tell him to fuck off then and 'do better' - I'd find it overwhelming. And would tell him.

You are married to a sex pest. A creep. An oxygen thief. And he will turn you into a shell of your former self.

Next time he starts up - tell him to shut the fuck up and stop being so damned disrespectful to you and to your friends, to get your friends names out of his damned mouth and to never speak of them again, or you will divorce his sorry arse and then he will find out how low the demand is for sex-pest men like himself. Do better than you? Don't make me laugh!

Currently he is forcing you to listen to his disrespectful fantasies and it is pulling you down. Either tell him to shut the fuck up (see above) or just walk out of the room, every time.

And do consider divorce. This man is very bad for your mental health.

The irony of him thinking you're punching when he doesn't sound like much of a catch.

You’re DEFINITELY the same poster who posted about your DH asking how often your friends have sex.