Fed up of DH wanting to 'talk' about my friends

[Boredofitall88]

Dh and I have been together years, and it's becoming more and more apparent that we have widely different sex drives. I'm happy with once a week, I don't think he would be satisfied if we were doing it 2 or 3 times a day!

We also both work full time and have 2 young children (9 & 4)

One thing that constantly puts me off is he likes to talk about other people, what he would do if they were there and constantly mentions wanting a threesome (like everytime we do anything.)

Problem is it's not just famous people, he starts bringing up my friends. He'll ask what i would do if they suddenly came on to him and would he have to say no etc

I know he wouldn't actually do anything (and it's really not likely to happen in real life as none of my friends are his biggest fan anyway) but it's draining.

He says I'm boring and he's just doing it ti make things more exciting but I find it awkward and I don't want to talk about people I know that way

He also constantly tells me that he could better and that I'm punching above my weight and would never find anyone else so this kind of talk doesn't really help

Sorry to say that but I’m sure you already know that this man is a dckhead! Telling you you are punching, come off it. She’s the mother of your two kids, have some fcking respect! Also, the ‘do I have to say no’ thing - yes, of course you do, you are married! That sounds to me like he’s setting up so he can flirt with your mates and then if he gets a vibe with someone he’s laid the groundwork to try to get you into a threesome.
If you didn’t have kids together I’d tell you to run for the hills, I still think that might be my advice 😬

Honestly, I’ve just read another thread where a woman didn’t make her young teen dinner, and wonders if she’s out of order. And now this. How are you even with such a creep? He’s clearly fantasising about your friends, doesn’t it give you the ick?

Yuck, yuck, yuck!

I'm amazed you can have sex with him at all 😕.

What a bellend! Get him in the bin, you are worth more than this shit

Recons he can do better?? Off he fucks then!

Seriously you don't need this shit in your life!

Next time he fantasises about one of your friends, tell him what she really thinks of him.

Seriously, this man is revolting. To tell someone you ‘love’ that they’re ’punching’ is the work of an absolute creep.

Tell him you’re ending it because you can’t stop thinking about shagging his dad.

Yuck! What a loser he is! How on earth can you bare to have any sort of relationship with a man who puts you down like this, let alone a sexual one? Get rid OP, you and your kids are better off without an arsehole like this one!

What a thoroughly unpleasant man, I wouldn't be having sex with him at all 🤮 call his bluff - next time he tells you you're punching above your weight, tell him to pack his bags and leave if he thinks he can do better! Honestly, I couldn't stay with a pig of a man like this!

I’d tell him your friends all think he’s a knob and he is punching way above his weight so the likely hood of any of them touching him is minuscule. No. He’s eroding your boundaries.

ewwww! Tell Randy Andy that none of your friends like sleazy sex pests & that you’re leaving him. Then don’t look back. Grim.

OP, he is disgusting. Truly disgusting.

If any man ever told me I was punching above my weight with him, the relationship would be over.

Sit him down and tell him it stops now. NOW. Or you’re done, and you’ll tell his parents exactly why you’re divorcing him.

He sounds like a sleaze and deeply unappealing. If anyone deserves the word ick, it’s him.

It's not boring not to want to do sexy talk about your mates getting it on with your husband. Or to not feel overly inclined to have sex with someone who keeps saying they are more attractive than you like you're lucky to have the chance.

I think he's knocked your judgement off kilter OP, you don't need or deserve this shit. It's not ok. I'd say tell him to pack it in and never say any of it again, but to be honest knowing he thought like that would eat away at me and I'd struggle to get past it.

He’s an absolute creep. What on earth do you see in him?

He's awful. What a turn off he sounds. It's a wonder you even want sex once a week. Yuck.

This is the kind of thread I should come back to every time my DH fills the dishwasher up wrong and I feel pissed off about it. I cannot even comprehend that there are men who think this is a great chat to have with their wives. Or that they have wives. I don’t know anyone like this.

Feel absolutely free to join the normal people and consign this one to his own bizarre world.

Ick! He's actually fucking disgusting, I wouldn't want to have sex with him either. Seriously I would be getting my ducks in a row so I could divorce the creep.

Also you are not punching above your weight he's "negging" you because he's an abusive prick trying to grind you down into considering sex acts you don't want to do.

He also constantly tells me that he could better and that I'm punching above my weight and would never find anyone else so this kind of talk doesn't really help

Sorry but this is a LTB. He sounds absolutely, irredeemably, awful.

Ew yuck.

Fuck him off, for real! He is an abuser...I had one of those in my early years of relationships; it truly destroys you. Do not be me!

Also, it is generally a red flag if your mates actively don't like your OH. Having nothing in common or not getting what you see in him is one thing. Actually not liking him is a big deal and I imagine the are on to something, even if it's just a gut feeling. I suspect they get creepy sleeze vibes if nothing else and want better for you.

Agree ! I'd tell him to sling his hook before giving him a left hook!💪👊✊️

What on earth possessed you to marry this twat?