Fed up of DH wanting to 'talk' about my friends

[Boredofitall88]

Dh and I have been together years, and it's becoming more and more apparent that we have widely different sex drives. I'm happy with once a week, I don't think he would be satisfied if we were doing it 2 or 3 times a day!

We also both work full time and have 2 young children (9 & 4)

One thing that constantly puts me off is he likes to talk about other people, what he would do if they were there and constantly mentions wanting a threesome (like everytime we do anything.)

Problem is it's not just famous people, he starts bringing up my friends. He'll ask what i would do if they suddenly came on to him and would he have to say no etc

I know he wouldn't actually do anything (and it's really not likely to happen in real life as none of my friends are his biggest fan anyway) but it's draining.

He says I'm boring and he's just doing it ti make things more exciting but I find it awkward and I don't want to talk about people I know that way

He also constantly tells me that he could better and that I'm punching above my weight and would never find anyone else so this kind of talk doesn't really help

He sounds like such a creep 🤮 LTB

Oh my goodness! Get rid of him! Creepy,horrible,condescending pratt!
I'm sure you will be happier without him!

Why are you with this ct, sorry to drop a C bomb

Cunt. Sorry to use the word cunt (though why you should be, I don't know).

Fixed it.
Mumsnet took your asterisks away. I left them in.

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He also constantly tells me that he could better and that I'm punching above my weight

Before you leave him, please give him one last opportunity to say this to you, so you can laugh and tell him that you do enjoy sex. You just don’t enjoy sex with him because he’s not very good at it (which is true. Men who are good at sex don’t bore their partner talking about her friends) and that he’s living in a dream world if he thinks any of your friends would touch him with a ten foot pole, because they are way out of his league.

I would be walking away, the comment punching above your weight is awful.

A threesome is the ultimate fantasy for a lot of men but believe me if faced with the reality, they would run a mile!!!

Your DH obviously does not get his comments are driving you away. Please try not to let him lower your self esteem. It is now recognised that verbal abuse is as much a reason to site in divorce proceedings as physical. Having been in a similar situation myself I know splitting up from your spouse when you have young children is not the easy option that some people think it is but I would say you deserve so much better and life on the other side without him
would be a vast improvement!

God! He sounds awful! I’m in the same situation as you in terms of my sex drive but my DH would never speak to me like that and suggest things that your DH is suggesting. It seems your DH has no boundaries and has no respect for you. It may be true that you are incompatible and maybe that will be the failing of your relationship moving forward but in spite of that your DH needs to wind his neck in and you need to make it clear to him that the way he speaks is hurtful and unacceptable. Has he always done this or is this a new thing? Do you think he is getting bored and starting to realise that he needs more in the relationship than you are willing to give?