To feel so embarrassed and ashamed.

[Lindaful]

We moved house yesterday.

Weeks previous to this a family friend offered us use of his businesses van. I was told it was huge and had done many house moves previously. In addition, he said him and a member of his staff would come and help and that we'd have the van from the night before to load up. We were all packed up days before.

What actually happened, was he didn't come until 9.30 on the day of the move left the van with us and went home. No one additional brought to help. The van was also FAR too small.

Long story short, this resulted in us having to do multiple van loads. The house was fully empty, sparkling clean and locked up when the new owners arrived. But mortifyingly, lots of our stuff was still on our neighbours side of the shared driveway (they offered us use of this space) still waiting to be taken in van loads when the new owners arrived.

Obviously in hindsight there's a million things I wish I'd done, but I can't change what happened. But I feel so full of shame and absolutely sick with embarrassment about what's happened. I feel so upset at what the new owners must think of us and the thought that we ruined their move in experience. I keep crying and I can't take any enjoyment in our new house because it's all I can think about. So, AIBU? And how do I even begin to move on from this?

You can’t be serious, this is the most over dramatic thing I’ve ever read. Who cares what the new owners think? You don’t live there anymore. You left the house in good condition, that is all that is required. Your reaction is honestly absurd.

People I know have moved in to find the sellers stuff still in the house.
I think you're fine, you did nothing wrong.

it's no big deal. you are totally overreacting. Really forget it you did nothing wrong. Enjoy your new home x

You didn't affect their moving in experience at all so you need to stop feeling so dreadful about it. It was a miscommunication but you got it all sorted. I suspect that all of this emotion you are feeling is the result of feeling a bit unsettled about the move. And a come down from all the stress of moving day. Please get some sleep and some perspective.

As @WonderingWanda says…. Get some sleep and some perspective.

The house was fully empty, sparkling clean and locked up when the new owners arrived. But mortifyingly, lots of our stuff was still on our neighbours side of the shared driveway (they offered us use of this space) still waiting to be taken in van loads when the new owners arrived.

Sooooo - your buyers weren't impacted at all as far as i can see?

Apart from <gasp> seeing your furniture outside for a while?

Or am i missing something?

Over reaction and this is person is a dick. Next time use a professional removal firm. They know by looking what size of a van or two they need.

Dry your eyes, it really isn't that bad, and far far worse things happen with house moves.

I hope you settle in and enjoy your new home.

You feel mortified, ashamed and embarrassed because you left some of your belongings on your neighbours driveway… because you couldn’t move it all at once?

what were the belongings? Vibrators and gimp masks or something??

The stuff did not prevent them moving in. Let it go.

Bit over the top that OP, what on earth is there to be embarrassed about? as long as you haven't inconvenienced the new owners, which it sounds like you didn't, then all is fine.

sometimes moving day can be a bit frantic and I think any normal people accept that sometimes it doesn't go to plan, so i'm sure the new owners probably aren't thinking a thing about it - they'll be busy with their own thoughts about getting themselves settled. Calm down and enjoy your new home

@@Pinkelephant66 😂

They got into their new, empty and clean home upon arrival on moving day. They don't care that you have bits on your neighbour's drive.

Good grief do you always over react like this to total non events. The house was empty & clean, they probably barely noticed the stuff on your neighbours drive.

There's nothing to move on from for goodness sake

As I say to my daughter when she cries about petty things....

'It's time you had an early night Mrs!'

Are you prone to this kind of excessive over reaction?

Hopefully not and you are just tired?

This is quite possibly the most hyperbolic thread I’ve ever seen on here.

And the most over dramatic post of the day goes to...............

God, if this non-event has traumatised you to tears, do not watch or read the news whatever you do.

Eh? Nothing happened? You need to get a grip.

Is this a wind up? Because it’s way over the top, otherwise.

You had the house empty, clean, ready to go and space for them to work. It's fine. 'moving in experiences' are stressful. It's not supposed to be a magical and fun thing. In your case the van was the issue (I know you know but you could've checked the type of van etc etc. live and learn). It's all fine. really. Forget it. They will just be happy it's all sorted.

It's not like they thought no one lived in the house previously is it?

It reminds me of that youtube video -

''No one must know that we SIT !!! ... and if the beds aren't made, it's too late now - just throw them out of the window !!'' 😂

OP, kindly, it’s the move that’s made you emotional.
Go to bed.
Sleep well!

Moving house is INCREDIBLY stressful! You are exhausted, emotional and were badly let down by a so called friend. No wonder you are fixating on this insignificant thing. It's "the straw that broke the camel's back".

I would be absolutely thrilled to move into a sparkling clean house, and I wouldn't notice the mess next door at all - it will have gone very soon and I'd have forgotten all about it.

Big hugs to you. you've had a horribly difficult day. My moving van let me down too and I had to ask friends (and wheel my bed down the road!) so I know how upsetting that is. But you're in now. It's done, it is sorted - get some sleep and enjoy your new home. The people who've moved in are NOT worrying about some stuff on someone else's drive, I promise.