To feel so embarrassed and ashamed.

[Lindaful]

We moved house yesterday.

Weeks previous to this a family friend offered us use of his businesses van. I was told it was huge and had done many house moves previously. In addition, he said him and a member of his staff would come and help and that we'd have the van from the night before to load up. We were all packed up days before.

What actually happened, was he didn't come until 9.30 on the day of the move left the van with us and went home. No one additional brought to help. The van was also FAR too small.

Long story short, this resulted in us having to do multiple van loads. The house was fully empty, sparkling clean and locked up when the new owners arrived. But mortifyingly, lots of our stuff was still on our neighbours side of the shared driveway (they offered us use of this space) still waiting to be taken in van loads when the new owners arrived.

Obviously in hindsight there's a million things I wish I'd done, but I can't change what happened. But I feel so full of shame and absolutely sick with embarrassment about what's happened. I feel so upset at what the new owners must think of us and the thought that we ruined their move in experience. I keep crying and I can't take any enjoyment in our new house because it's all I can think about. So, AIBU? And how do I even begin to move on from this?

I literally ran out of the door with a mop and bucket in my hands as the new owners drove up. To make it worse, I knew them through work😥

Fabulous jokey post bravo 🙌 bravo 👏

I honestly wouldn’t think twice about this! When my husband and I moved into our first home we went upstairs to find one room still full of stuff, text the sellers who replied apologising and said they’d totally forgot that room so could they pop back the next day! A couple weeks later we went up into the loft for the first time to see it was still full of their things, golf clubs, Christmas tree, all their Christmas decs, suitcases, we text them to ask if all this stuff was for the bin and they rang us so apologetic, they had totally forgot about the loft as well!

Your house’s new owners will only be interested in their furniture, their internet being connected, their gas reading, their food in their fridge — you get the picture. They won’t give a thought to you, your boxes or where it’s all gone.
You're probably tired after weeks of packing, cleaning, signing this and that.
Hot bath, large glass of wine and forget it all.

When we moved into our cottage the shed was still full of the previous owners crap from floor to ceiling and there was a wardrobe left in one of the bedrooms which was like the one with Narnia in it 🙄

It was fucking huge and i had to pay our removal med a tip to get it down the stairs and out on to the pavement.

And the whole place was bloody filthy but at least i was expecting that ...

Totally this, OP. Unless there's a drip feed that the new owner of your old house is your best friend, you really don't need to give them a second thought.

OP you're probably exhausted from the whole moving experience and feeling a bit overwhelmed emotional. It's a complain event. The buyers will have been so busy concentrating on their own move they probably hardly registered it. If roles were reversed and you arrived at your new house, which was empty and sparkling clean, would you care that they were still in the process of moving some stuff from the neighbours drive?

Total non issue.
I think you're overwhelmed by all the emotions of moving and your brain has settled on this as the thing to worry about.
Honestly, if I was your buyer this wouldn't have bothered me one little bit.

Be kind to yourself, find some relaxation time of you can.

Aww, it's ok OP. Please don't worry about it. You're obviously a really conscientious person.
If it makes you feel any better, you could always rock up with a bottle of something and a 'new home' card.

I don't know if this makes you feel any better but while chatting to our removal man, he told me that occasionally he has gone to a house to do a move, and the people are still in bed or whatever because they've forgotten they're moving that day!
I mean, how could you possibly forget about moving house?!

When we last moved house our removal company was really late and the buyers turned up with all their stuff while we were still in situ, the house full of boxes!

I didn't feel bad. It wasn't our fault!

I promise this won't feel so bad after a good night's sleep.

Sounds a stressful day but our last move we had to leave a load of our stuff in the new owners garage for similar reasons

You’re drama is only upstaged by fan octopus!!

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Good lord...get a grip here OP! This is an absolutely ridiculous overreaction!

I’m saying this with love but….Put it in perspective, it seems like you’re very tense worrying about nothing.

You what now?

I wouldn't give it another thought. Honestly.
When my ex husband and l split up, the garage (of the house we were leaving) was still full of his stuff. I'd sorted and packed (most of) the rest of the stuff, because he was so hopelessly disorganised.
Fortunately the new owners were lovely and agreed to let him go back a couple of days later with a van to collect the rest of it. We're talking three motorbikes and a ton of associated tools, etc.
I wasn't bothered in the slightest. All my stuff was out, he'd had long enough to sort things, he knew the removal people wouldn't take the bikes, but it hadn't occurred to him to make any other arrangements. Typically.
Seriously, OP, don't be embarrassed. You're not living there any more.
Enjoy your new home. I hope it's a happy one for you x

Moving house is really stressful OP and I wonder if you are having a reaction to that because you are being very dramatic about a non event

When my PIL's moved 3 hours drive (and FIL was disabled after a stroke) the vendor was still there with all his stuff in the house! Now HE should have been embarrassed and ashamed, but you really shouldn't. As long as your house was empty and you didn't prevent the buyers moving their belongings in, it's not even worth a second thought.

It sounds like it’s been a stressful day. Time to open a glass of wine, order pizza and balance a telly on a pile of boxes whilst sitting in a deckchair. Enjoy your new home!

I think maybe the stress of it all has got to you. Get a good nights sleep op.

God I hate being tantalized by a thread title like this. I sat down with a cup of tea looking forward to a bit of schadenfreude to distract me from my own genuinely mortifying fuck ups, and find this. Ugh.

Oh op moving is so stressful but they wouldn’t have cared, they will just be glad to be in.

Why would their moving in experience be ruined by your things on the neighbours drive way? If you are genuinely this distraught over this then I think you need to have a chat with your GP. Moving is stressful, this made it more stressful but you’re completely over reacting. Chill out and enjoy your new home

Your tired and stressed. Get to your new home, have a brew or a takeaway and put the stress to the back of your mind.

I turned up at my new house and found the owner hadn't emptied it at all. That I judged.