To expect other women not to hold door to ladies changing area open?

[swimmingannoyance]

I take my DD(3) to a toddler swim class on a Saturday morning. It's usually a mixture of mums and dads in the pool, separate changing areas obviously. However the changing areas open directly into the corridor where other parents (the non swimming parent) tend to congregate and wait. DD's class is mostly dads with just me and one other mum, so just me and her in the changing area after the class today. I'd already removed my costume under my towel and was drying myself off, obviously naked under a towel, chatting to DD. Next thing, the other mum opens the door (her costume still on) to have a conversation with her male partner who was waiting in the corridor whilst I'm standing feet away under my towel naked. I wasn't directly in his line of vision of had she opened the door any wider, I would have been (hard to explain without a picture of the set up). It was only a matter of a minute or so, she was from what I could gather trying to get her toddler to go with dad so she could change by herself.

AIBU to have been annoyed about this? Surely if you want to have a conversation with your partner and you're in a ladies changing area, with another woman who you can see is mid getting changed, go out into the corridor instead?? It just felt like an invasion of my privacy, I'd never have opened the door to casually chat to my DH outside the door of a changing area if another woman was changing.

YANBU. I’d be mortified and anxious that it would happen again. A solution would be to report it to the company so that they can send out an email asking people to be mindful when they open the doors.

I'm with you OP - next time definitely say something!

Reminds me of a time I was changing in a spa changing room and the woman right next to me decided to facetime her husband/partner whilst moving around with her phone! (I was topless) I did a very loud 'excuse me can you not facetime your husband in here!' whilst giving her a 'wtf' look and she quickly hung up lol

I'm with you OP. Really inconsiderate of her, this is a consent issue and women should not be breaking boundaries of other women in single sex spaces.

Especially where women and girls are vulnerable and undressed.

Some people on this thread have a weird view on boundaries.

Bloody hell! wtf is wrong with people?! 😳

Oh do get over yourself. It was ONE post made in the early hours. Perhaps that poster works nights/suffers with insomnia/is up with a baby. Not sure how what time people post is relevant at all?

Oh do get over yourself.

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@CellophaneFlower
Ditto 👍🏻

Yes, bizarre isn't it!

Yes, I plan to send an email ☺️

I'm not the one who is apparently hysterically laughing at everything 🤷‍♀️

Anyway. A man didn't see you in a towel. Presumably as his wife shielded him from the sight. I'm guessing, seeing as you've proved yourself to exaggerate a little, that she stuck her head out the door to speak to her husband and it was held open probably less than if she'd walked out of it. Yet you've created a thread and even drawn a diagram about it... despite apparently not being that bothered and you'd forgotten about it by bedtime. OK. 👌

No, you're the one name calling and telling people to "get over themselves". Not sure you can claim the moral high ground yourself. 🙄

It sounds like somewhere to use one of those towelling beach type robes, that you pop on, baggy enough for you to remove cossie, use to towel down, put on bra, knickers, then finish getting dressed. A bit more sense required as well with folks not opening door.

I'm guessing, seeing as you've proved yourself to exaggerate a little, that she stuck her head out the door to speak to her husband and it was held open probably less than if she'd walked out of it.

You're guessing incorrectly then. She did not "stick her head out", the door was open enough for her to walk out of it. She remained in the changing area, making no effort to just peek her head out. If she had, that wouldn't have been an issue would it.

Yes, those robes do look handy. I may invest in one. But yes, others need to have a modicum of consideration for others too, don't they.

I used to manage swim pools. Some had cubicles, some were open plan, others had both. All had double entry doors. It’s an unusual set up though. It’s either a robe, which will be good for on beach, wild swimming, or tell anyone opening door to be careful. At the very least, pool owners need to put up a notice of some sorts to discourage it. Lots of folks are very oblivious to what’s going on around them, polite reminder will hopefully work.

People are weird about changing rooms. I was once in a men's changing room, naked after my swim, getting dried prior to putting my clothes on, when a woman opened the door, ushered her young son (about 8yrs old) into the room and stood there in the open doorway to keep an eye on her son while he changed. Why she didn't take him into the women's changing room when she felt that he couldn't be left to change on her own, I have no idea

Another time I was changing with my 3 Yr old daughter in the men's changing room, when a man came in to get changed. Another man came back from the pool and took off his costume to get changed and the first man accused him of being a paedo because he was getting changed in front of a 3 Yr old - in a men's changing room! Where else was he supposed to get changed? My daughter was oblivious to the naked bodies on view but upset at the anger and shouting