To think this is abuse.

[Downandout21]

I love my job and I've always been good at it. Good contacted hours I've worked hard towards to fit around DD meaning no additional childcare, also good pay and I love my team.

DH always moans about it. I don't finished until 5 and by 4 he is moaning that I should be finished and my works stupid, won't look after DD as says I should be finished work and really puts me under pressure. Now my performance is declining.

I spoke to DH about this numerous times and he states he hates my job and he hopes I grt sacked so I have to apply for a new one.

I've eventually caved and have an interview for a new job today. Will mean having to work every other weekend, over Christmas and some nights. DH says we all have to make sacrifices.

I'm gutted, I worked really hard to get to where I am now and really do love my job.

so He isn’t willing to watch your child for an hour but is going to be sole carer on weekends, nights & Christmas?

So you’re doing what you’re husband wants you to do?
And how is he going to enjoy those weekends etc? Sounds like he doesn’t want you doing any job.

Fuck that. Do the job you love. Is he a partner to you, or are you “Mum”, so you have to do everything domestic and childcare related?

Keep the current job, leave this loser. Honestly if he makes a fuss about working until 5 he will do the same when he has to pull his weight when you're working Christmas etc.

Is he going to look after DD on weekends and st Xmas? I bet not. Personally, I would stick where you are happy and remember that if you end up as a single parent, it is easier to find after school care than weekend care.

Stick with your old job, it will be easier when you kick his arse out the door.

Keep the job. Ditch the husband.

Don’t leave your job.

Well I asked hi hiw he would manage bed routine when I'm at work on weekends and he said he's not doing it and she will just have fun on the days she's with him

Don't leave your job! Working til 5pm is very normal, being pressured out of a job you love by your husband is not.

Keep the job you love. How on earth is he going to cops looking after your joint child on weekends, Christmas day etc. Take it child is both of yours.

What hours does DH work? I would be looking at children before giving up a job I enjoyed. I especially wouldn’t be going for a job where you have to work weekends with a marriage on the rocks with a man who moans about childcare.

You already know the answer.
Ignore him and stick to doing what you want to do. Is he always this controlling ?

YABVU to leave a job that you like and suits you hours wise.

Keep your job and change your ‘d’h. He sounds awful.

Don’t leave your job. I would consider your relationship with your dh - does he bring any positives to your life?

Is this ragebait?

What exactly does he 'hate' about your current job OP? It sounds like the new one you've applied for will be worse in terms of impact on family time/him having to do childcare so it's difficult to understand what his issue is tbh. On the face of it my advice would be don't give up a job you love, especially not on his say so and not for a job with less convenient hours.

Don't listen to your husband! A job you actually enjoy is hard to come by, is there anyone else you have who can help with child care even if its just once or twice a week to shut him up? Although personally I'd be interviewing for a new husband! 🫢

My immediate impression is that it would be the same for any job you have, he will find fault. More so for the new one you’ve applied for, does he know what would be involved for him? Does he want you not to work full stop was my other thought.

Cancel your interview, do not move jobs, and leave this pathetic excuse of a partner, he sounds vile

I wish it was. But nope absolutely true, I know I should stay at the job I want to do, but when you have someone moaning at you day after day for the last hour or so of your working day, it wears thin and it's easier to just get the new job.

Tell him to get fucked.

He wants you out of your good job.
He will then make your new job impossible too.

Absolutely this is abusive and you would be very very foolish to give it up.

Talk to Women's aid asap.

Can you move to family to stay for a while?

DO NOT GIVE UP THIS JOB.

If hes moaning about an hour what do you think hes going to do over Christmas and every other weekend? It wont get better, it will get harder because now he knows if he whinges enough you will hop to it