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Could this be passive aggressive fat shaming?

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Blueberryancakes · 16/09/2024 21:18

Im a UK 20 and I feel the heat. I’m always a bit warm. My work gets very hot. Big windows and no ventilation.

I rarely put the air con on because as soon as I do some of the woman I work with complain it’s too cold. I bring a desk fan to
work with me and keep it aimed at me and no one else.
I work at a doctors surgery. Lots of the patients make comments about how hot it is in the waiting room. Some even wait outside.Very often woman patients always make a comment on my fan saying how they could never work with a fan as they’d be freezing. If the air con is turned on some woman will comment how cold it is.
I think FFS it’s not you that has to sit in here all day. Men never complain, never comment. It’s mainly middle aged
woman. Yes I’m fat, yes I get hot. I try my best to have a small discreet fan on my desk. But woman seem to make such a song and dance about it.
My husband said today he thinks it’s a passive aggressive way for them to call me fat.
Anyone else think there’s any truth in this?
Is it a way to come across ultra feminine to be cold?
Sorry if this come across bonkers?

OP posts:
CheekyHobson · 17/09/2024 21:16

armadillio · 17/09/2024 21:11

I said ‘The receptionists at my local surgery are always busy, taking calls, working on their computers, I can’t imagine anyone telling them they’re cold to make conversation.’

I have never seen them chit chat with anyone. I have never seen them leave their glass fronted office. All Interactions are behind a glass wall.

The set up is designed to discourage small talk and keep them safe. It’s not conducive to chit chat.

If you’re seeing moral superiority here it’s in your head.

Sounds welcoming lol

Cherry8809 · 17/09/2024 21:18

dreamer24 · 16/09/2024 21:32

Me neither, genuinely. If a colleague had a fan on in the office and I was cold I would comment on it, regardless of whether they were a size 8 or a size 20!

This. I detest being cold and I’d be vexed if someone constantly had a fan on.

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