To ask would you ever ask or have you asked your adult children to move out or would you be happy for them to stay at home forever?

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Just that really.

Do you expect that with the housing market as it is that they will just stay at home for a significant amount of time? Is this something you are happy with?
Would there be a cut off point or age you would ask them to move out if they where still at home and they could afford to rent and obviously had not found a partner or had a family?

I love my children dearly but the transition from teens to adults has been challenging with one of them and I cannot imagine being 60 and wanting some space and peace to relax and still living with them!

My SIL has aspergers and adhd and spends her life in her room with the schedule of a hamster. MIL says she will be her carer once MIL needs it. DH says that cos SIL isn't able to support herself, this will be used as the justification why she gets the house (there are 3 other children) . Inheriting a london house in full would mean that she probably is relatively set up. I dont know why she needs to justify it to anyone, I would have thought SIL inheriting the house in full is a foregone conclusion

Dh's ex colleague did that. Lived with his girlfriend parents, white British. He bought a house at 25 even though his girlfriend was working in nhs on a very low income. Dh worked for a bank but the reality is if you don't have 2 good incomes buying is difficult.

I suspect many of these rules will be tossed away cos the reality is 60% of 20 somethings get money from parents to buy, it's probably almost 100% in London, Dh and I were absolute anomalies in that we bought in our 20s and I lived with MIL but no one gave us cash. Giving a child 60k for a deposit isn't something everyone can do.

That was in 2019 when double rooms were £700 per month; now that they are a thousand and studios are £1400 and grad salaries are pretty much the same.

I'm sure you're right that some people just can't wait for their kids to leave the second they turn 18, but I'm really not convinced that it's wrong for people in their sixties and seventies not to want to share their homes with their 30-odd year old kids either.

@sunsetsandboardwalks Yes, I had my children in my 30's and I'm not sure that it would be ideal to have them living at home in my 70's, although it could work if we all had our own space. I wouldn't mind a granny annex. 😁

My parents are late sixties with no health issues. I am the one with 2 chronic health issues so they are actually a lot healthier than me....

A lot of people don't realise their privilege. I won't be getting a deposit from my parents. I don't have a partner who earns a lot more and I have chronic health issues. But I will still be judged from those who have in the main, been given or have the above. Although I'm sure someone will come along and tell me they bought alone last year on an average salary in London and now lives in a lovely house there....