How Often are you at Home?

[Aquarius1234]

I feel I prefer to be out the house more often than in it. Even though I'm indoors lots of evenings by 6pm.
It surprises me that my neighbours seem to rarely leave the house apart from food shopping?

Even if I worked from home I would think it's weird to go days without leaving the house?
I also find it annoying that my neighbours seem to be in a huge amount!!
I don't have much of a social life at all but couldn't bear to go months without doing stuff at the weekend or odd evening.
I do stuff alone to get out the house. It's good to get some fresh air . .

Are you on a wind up or just hard of thinking?

I live on a street with a lot of retired people or business owners that set their own hours so are at home quite a bit. My home office is at the back of the house and I don't look out the front windows. My dog, however could tell you what everyone is up to, she loves nothing better than snoozing by the window ledge watching the streets happenings.

I mostly stay at home. I go out kayaking when the weather is nice or to one of the cafes at the lakes nearby. I don't like traffic and crowds so I'll do something like go to a busy event once a month absolute maximum. I enjoy it when I do but I wouldn't if I had to do it more often. I suspect your idea of a good day is my idea of torture.

Yes I know what you mean.
For example my parents in mid/ late 60s have nice enough detached house lots of privacy in garden etc. Good conservatory etc etc
They spend lots of time indoors/garden but also lots of time out. They would be bored if they didn't go out at weekends. Often dinner or shopping or family outings. Take holidays sometimes etc etc.
I like being at home I'm a big TV / film watcher. My point was I'm surprised how some people can avoid going out at all.
Or as PP say be totally happy to never or rarely go out and do supposed entertaining things.
My minimal is food shopping / errands.
I could get it delivered online but I've never got on too well with that.
I actually enjoy going to public places I'm not one for entertaining at home at all. Then again maybe cos I'm not satisfied with my house.
I have anxiety issues myself sometimes avoid social gatherings like a wedding etc. Don't like being around people taking photos all the time.
But I still try and not let that stop me going out when I can .

As far as I can tell, all that this thread has revealed is that shockingly, different people feel differently about things.

OP and some others like to get out and about after work, while other people prefer to spend lots of time at home.

With the exception of people who are physically unwell or frail/suffer anxiety or other mental health issues, almost nobody stays in "all the time".

"Going out" isn't a social necessity or a point of pride. There's nothing weird about people who are comfortable in their homes... most of them will spend plenty of time out interacting with other people during work hours.

I find this an odd thread, which seems to be entirely based on the OP's anxiety that her neighbours are obsessed with her activities as she is with theirs.

The advantages of living in closer proximity to others is that when working all day you know the retired people home all day I feel safer for my house & car.
I think we become aware of habits, routines around us,
I know I am running on time if certain people are leaving in the morning I do not know but live on my street.
I am aware but I like to be tolerant.

Oh I've just heard one of my neighbours coming in and going upstairs!
Wow the walls are thin.. 😆

Why is that an issue though?

Not saying that was an issue, just funny I heard it.

@Aquarius1234 you live mid terrace how much privacy were you expecting? Of course you are overlooked!

I live in a full detached house on a decent size section, and I can hear my neighbours' boys when they thump up and down their stairs or when they argue with each other. When their dog barks at a visitor to the door, I can hear that. When my other neighbours have guests over I can hear the hubbub of dinner party conversation even if I can't make out exact words. When my neighbours across the way watch movies in the evening I can hear the bass of their obviously large TV system.

Neighbour noise is inevitable unless you live miles from anyone else.

Wow that's interesting.
Understand hearing in gardens and music/ loud talking/ arguing.
But inside the house when doors are closed. .

The OP's posts are getting weirder by the minute.. How strange to monitor your neighbours' dwelling behaviours. I mean a house is precisely for living in... The degree to which one lives/exists/stays in one's house is totally a personal thing. As long as you are not inconsiderate / noisy it is entirely up to them.

The OP sounds so intrusive herself with her incessant surveillance.

OP - You first say you dont understand how people stay home and then say you have anxiety and fine it hard to leave your house, you dont attend weddings etc ??

Back peddling abit?

Same here with disabled DD.

Who knew they were being judged?!

Good grief.

You thought about neighbours' habits before you moved?

Really?

No.

I WFH in the front room with my back to the window. Never aware of who is in or out. Actually sometimes I know if the DC are in next door because of tantrums and piano practice. But other than that, no, I don't know if they're in or out. I'm not a curtain twitcher monitoring their every move!

If you are really struggling hearing other people then city living may not be for you. DH's friends have always bought / rented houses in the middle of nowhere with no neighbours within a mile. That may suit you more.

OP I can 99% guarantee that your neighbours don't notice you or give a toss about it.

Why do you think you're so interesting that they would be bothered?

Assuming most posters are in the UK then it’s clear why. The houses are built of paper and are a pubic hair’s width apart even if “detached”.

Not true at all. I live in a mid terrace and never hear my neighbours indoors unless there is loud cheering for a match or something. Maybe I was lucky but the house is solid.

Not all UK homes are like that.

We live in a terrace with neighbours either side and hear nothing unless the door is open or we're in the garden. Neighbours on one side have two dogs and children and we still can't hear a thing.

Same here but our house is 200 years old so that might have something to do with it lol