How Often are you at Home?

[Aquarius1234]

I feel I prefer to be out the house more often than in it. Even though I'm indoors lots of evenings by 6pm.
It surprises me that my neighbours seem to rarely leave the house apart from food shopping?

Even if I worked from home I would think it's weird to go days without leaving the house?
I also find it annoying that my neighbours seem to be in a huge amount!!
I don't have much of a social life at all but couldn't bear to go months without doing stuff at the weekend or odd evening.
I do stuff alone to get out the house. It's good to get some fresh air . .

I don't even know very well what mine look like.

OP, I think you've got the same problem my daughters sometimes have - you spend far too much time and energy thinking that other people are spending their time and energy thinking about you.

They really are not. You really don't matter to them.

You not using your garden is your problem, and your hang up.Don't blame your neighbour for just using their property as they wish, as is their right, for you choosing not to use your property as you wish, and as is your right.

I wfh and can go for days without really going out.

I try to walk once a day
Pop to the shops
Drive my children places

I can't imagine how this could possibly annoy my neighbours.

Is there something wrong with you OP?

My retired next door neighbour never leaves the house except to get food. I dont know what she does all day. It is a bit odd but it doesn't bother me and i dont think about it. I cant sleep at night if I dont leave the house on a regular basis so I like to be on the go.

Why are nurses regularly visiting the address if not to tend to a resident?

You say you're out a fair bit OP, but you really need to get a hobby.

I'm retired and in my 70s. I have several things I do outside the house, and I also walk my dog every day. But I'm also home quite a bit.

However, I have absolutely no idea what my neighbours get up to or when they're in or out. And frankly, I have absolutely no desire to know.

Sounds like you're over invested in your neighbours lives if you feel annoyed when they're at home and you won't use your garden because of them.

Perhaps you need to distance yourself from them in order to lessen the impact their lives have on you.

I find my home environment stressful so try to be out as much as possible!

But I do also have duvet days (c once a month)

I go to the cinema, out for food, food/supermarket shopping most days, running errands, gym, day trips, walking, events, nights away, visiting people, social group meet ups etc.

I only maybe have one or 2 days a week where I don't have a pre planned event.

I haven't left the house since Thursday, I don't want to, I'm cold and tired!

I live alone too and don’t experience this, I can hear my neighbours sometimes but it doesn’t bother me at all, they’re not loud they’re just living their lives. I also spend most of the year in the garden and it feels private to me (wall on one side, hedge on the other).

oh dear OP.

my neighbour never leaves the house but has nurses around and pharmacy deliveries

i leave my lights on for security and the radio on for the dog

some people just want to make the most of their rent

do people really think that if car is parked up someone is home

My car is parked up. I'm actually on holiday. 😉

Well, I don't quite understand people who are paying thousands of pound in rents/mortygage/utilities/council tax and then end choose to be living like they are literally homeless - hopping from one place to another, crashing at friends, etc. With that said, I am still clocking 12k steps a day, outside - dogs, errands and such. But man I LOVE my home!!!!

agree entirely with both of the above!

I'm saving for some quite hefty things at the moment. So staying home is the cheapest place for me! Other than a few walks etc.

Other than running errands and going to work, I am mostly at home, either in the house or the garden.

You’re clearly an extrovert and that’s great for you. I am an introvert, did not live the 20s life you are describing as nothing would have appealed less. We are all different. Covid hasn’t suddenly made lots of people want to stay at home and avoid people. We’ve always been around… maybe you just haven’t noticed us because we’re enjoying being home

You’re not the type of person to try and drag people up to dance at weddings are you..? Some of us get energy from being alone, others (you) get it from being with people. And both are great.

Lol! I know! But i really don't think i can have. I mean, when i lived at home i did have my own bedroom as a teenager and then, when i first left home at 18 i did have my own room at night. But, during the day, i would never have been alone from stepping out the door. I was a student in a shared accomodation for the first year so shared kitchen and obvs out at uni with students all day and a pretty lively weekend night life. Even weekday evenings, i mind chatting in the kitchen til pretty late.

Then - into a shared flat. Pretty soon i moved my boyfriend in so i didn't even have my own night time space.

Then me and him moved in together into a rented flat, then bought a house together. I was on my own in the car driving to work for half hour each way (so, an hour a day during the week)

There must have been odd times when my partner went out without me but this is 40 years ago; my memory fails!

Then kids came along, obvs i was never alone then as we had 5 well spaced so over 30 years there. And i gave up my career and became a childminder so, from the moment i got out of my shared bed, my own kids and then 8 am, more kids in!

So - i'm not saying i literally share my shower with folks or am never driving myself but that i really do not think in 60 years a single day has passed alone. Maybe not even a single half day, who knows! I can be in a room myself (as now) but there is always someone else in the house.

Just as i thought i was about to get the house to myself for a few hours, hubby started working from home!

FWIW - i do think being able to live alone is a very important skill. But, when i was young, 40 years ago, i would have thought my life was pretty typical - leave the family home and pretty soon your own kids came along - go ask your 60 yr old relatives how much time they have spent on their own.

So - yeah, the odd hour or three. But never a full day. I really believe not.

I think it's weird to be so bothered by whether your neighbours go out enough or not. Is it any of your business? You sound like Mrs Mangel, always nosing at other people's lives.

I think it's the noise that bothers the OP so they would like the neighbors to go out so they can have some peace which I get.

I try and leave the house every day even if I'm working from home. My mental health needs it. I'm not sure what my neighbors do but I'm detached and finally in a very quiet area so it doesn't bother me.

I think you need to move to a house far far away from potential neighbours!
What has their social habits, got to do with you??

I have cancer, I work 4 days and am busy, but I love being at home!! Far better than being in a hospital or at work!

We are homebodies and like being at home. You need to get a life and stop obsessing over what your neighbours are doing, they have every right to be there 24/7 if they want to!

Whatever works for you.
I don't have anywhere else that I'd prefer to be than in my comfy home. Where else are people going that is better than being at home?

Where is better than your home then?

Especially on a bland overcast day.