How Often are you at Home?

[Aquarius1234]

I feel I prefer to be out the house more often than in it. Even though I'm indoors lots of evenings by 6pm.
It surprises me that my neighbours seem to rarely leave the house apart from food shopping?

Even if I worked from home I would think it's weird to go days without leaving the house?
I also find it annoying that my neighbours seem to be in a huge amount!!
I don't have much of a social life at all but couldn't bear to go months without doing stuff at the weekend or odd evening.
I do stuff alone to get out the house. It's good to get some fresh air . .

@Aquarius1234 you don’t seem to understand how weird it is to be so obsessed with whether neighbours are at home or not. I live in a terrace and it never crosses my mind. Never. It has zero impact.

Just looking at your OP again as I haven't voted - i don't think you have any business being ANNOYED by your neighbours not going out!! Are they similar aged to you and you are annoyed because you want to socialise with them? Then why not invite them over for coffee?!

I do think a lot of people, esp young folks, are ill atm. Whether that's with long covid, anxiety, or struggling with lack of cash and low mood, there do seem to be a lot of people that do find it just "too peoply" outside!!

And that is very sad for young folks in their 20s who should be out there having the time of their lives. Certainly my early 20s i was never in - out all day and much of the night as well. Party central!

And that was pretty normal for 20 somethings back in the late 80s.

It's so sad what's happened post covid. How can it ever be 'too peoply'? That is not a concept I have ever experienced. I get a real buzz from being around people. I need to talk to others every single day.

I don't like being on my own. I have never lived on my own and had never been in my own company til i was well into my 40s. I'm ok. But others are far more exciting!

So - i get where you're coming from, OP but don't be annoyed- invite them over. They might be lonely and in desperate need of a chat, you just never know!

*I get a real buzz from being around people. I need to talk to others every single day.

I don't like being on my own. I have never lived on my own and had never been in my own company til i was well into my 40s*

And some of us are the opposite. I can go days without talking to others and it doesn’t bother me, in fact I quite enjoy it. I love being on my own, have lived alone since I was 21 (I’m 44 now) and relish my own company. Peace and solitude and silence are important to me.

We are all different. We all choose to live our lives differently. This surely isn’t news to you?

Same
I like my home, I pay a lot for it and it's got all my stuff and my cat
My job is very people heavy and by 6pm I'm done with humans for the day

I like some time at home as i want to read, play the piano, play board games with my children, cook or bake etc. This is normal? My house is a nice place to be - it probably helps that it has plenty of space for a family of four so we aren't in each others way.

I don't like being on my own. I have never lived on my own and had never been in my own company til i was well into my 40s

Just re-read this. Are you actually saying that you had never spent time on your own until you were mid-40s? Never? That’s quite extreme, tbh.

Well I'm out 7:15-5 with work
Weekends depends on what's happening and the weather. The dog needs walking and depends on how much of the day we want to take up with that. What needs doing at home etc

I'm out a lot as I don't like being at home too often, I wfh 3 days a week so I'm stuck inside then. However YABU to be annoyed at what your neighbours choose to do in their own homes.

You are very judgemental, you call your neighbours weird and strange because they are happy being in their own home. Yet, here you are discussing your obsession with them on the internet. Perhaps you are the weird one?

This would indicate they are pretty much housebound. I used to work for community nursing- we would only visit if they can’t get to clinic. Might explain why they are always in!

Even with the restrictions in 2020 I left the house every day for some reason or other (a walk or some food shopping).

Only illness would stop me doing so.

What others do as long as they are not doing anything unlawful or which harms me is not really my concern, so long as their lifestyle is not leading to ill-health.

I can go days without leaving the house. I don’t currently work and my kids get the bus to and from school. We live very rurally so I walk a lot on our land but I dont leave home often.

I get you. If you have noisy neighbours, it’s lovely when they go out for the day. I personally would hate to be at home all day. I want to go out, see people, exercise & do stuff. Staying in too much makes me depressed.

I'm at home most probably 98% of the time. I'm quite happy with that. If that annoys the neighbours, that would amuse the hell out of me! Of all the things to get annoyed about, I think that's the weirdest one I've heard so far. . .

I love being at home. It's where my stuff and my people are. I have a nice spacious detached house and can rarely leave it. We spent so much money making this house as we wanted it, that I don't need or want to leave.
I wfh, kids take themselves to school and college. I do leave to go shopping once a week and go to the gym for an hour each day but always come straight home.
Weird that we are all different.

I can't imagine paying so much attention to the neighbours.

DH and I both work part-time (no kids) so during the week, we're out for maybe 5 hours a day on average. I work a few hours some weekends so will be out then, and DH walks the dog (he comes to work with me in the week). I see friends a couple of times a week, DH doesn't bother but has hobbies that take him outdoors instead.

Otherwise I love being home. It's my space to do whatever I fancy. What my neighbours do/don't do is irrelevant.

I actually really like being at home. It got a bit much when I worked from home full time, but three days a week in the house is Perfect for me and were it not for the dogs I'd not venture out that much probably. I'm an excellent potterer. I like reading, TV, cooking and art stuff, all indoor pursuits really. Each to their own OP.

No.

I've got an office and I go to the gym most days. I work at home some of the time. I don't notice whether my neighbours are in or out - and I'm on fairly friendly terms with them.

How exactly did they prevent you from being in your garden?

Agreed. OP it sounds like you don't like your house if you don't want to be there a lot of the time.

My attitude is, I spent (and borrowed) a lot of money on my house so of course I'm going to want to actually spend time in it!

I live alone and don't experience anything like that. Not everyone who lives alone is like you.

I’m sorry, but you are the weird one here if you feel your privacy is affected by other people living in their own homes.

People keep saying ‘I spent so much money on making my house nice’ as a reason for staying at home a lot. I really like my house, which has had a huge sum of money spent on it to turn it from an unloved ex-student house into a big, pleasant home with beautiful rooms, comfortable furniture, a big garden I’m still bringing into bloom, but it’s never occurred to me to think that this is a reason for staying in, or to think that people who stay in a lot invest more in their houses…?

23 hours a day

We're all different. Personally, I've not left the house for a week as of today.

Do you pay any attention to neighbours going in and out of their houses? Driving in and out etc.

No, because firstly I’m busy working, and secondly I couldn’t give a flying fuck what my neighbours do with their time.