How Often are you at Home?

[Aquarius1234]

I feel I prefer to be out the house more often than in it. Even though I'm indoors lots of evenings by 6pm.
It surprises me that my neighbours seem to rarely leave the house apart from food shopping?

Even if I worked from home I would think it's weird to go days without leaving the house?
I also find it annoying that my neighbours seem to be in a huge amount!!
I don't have much of a social life at all but couldn't bear to go months without doing stuff at the weekend or odd evening.
I do stuff alone to get out the house. It's good to get some fresh air . .

Loads of threads on here previously about annoying or loud neighbours though.
Can't afford a semi...

So go and buy a detached house?

Ha yeh I'm sure loads of people in terrace houses can move to a detached!
If I moved to an end terraced there would be another loud neighbour!! Or worse.
And I can't afford that either.
I had no idea everyone loved their neighbours so much !

Perhaps you might be able to if you went out less and saved more…

Lol

Yes.

I’d rather be home minding my own business instead of curtain twitching and complaining online about neighbours.

You think I'm crazy?

OP are you sure you’re not my neighbour?Always peering out the window to see what we are up to, seeing their face plastered to the window when we pull into the drive etc.
Makes DC’s feel very uncomfortable and they’re always asking why the neighbour does that.

Mind you I am in Australia on quite a big detached section but there’s always someone who acts weirdly…

All I can gather is said neighbour is home all day, everyday. Utterly bizarre behaviour, don’t be THAT person please

No I think I'm more worried that my neighbours are paying attention to me. I'm a self conscious type person.
Eg they are looking out the window. But hopefully not, I don't hang about .

Your saying your neighbour is probably bored, hence looking out the windows?

I used to do that as a teenager, but that's cos I was on watch.

I barely ever go out as I struggle with agoraphobia and social anxiety.

It's a bit shit to be judging people. I have never in my life noticed how often neighbours go out...

And even in apartment living, it all turns into white noise and they are entitled to spend as much time in their home as they want.

We all pay enough in rent and mortgages nowadays, may as well get our money's worth

No. I live in a detached house.

I don’t go out much I have severe anxiety and PTSD I go out on a Thursday to see my psychologist even then I have to be brought back and forth by support staff.
judgemental people like you make things worse for people like me.
luckily I have lovely neighbours I do notice who goes out etc as I’m home so much and only 8 houses in the street

what on earth! OP, who cares what your neighbours are doing!? How does it impact you in any way?

No. Not at all.

It couldn't be further from my mind.

I always thought before I moved that it would be easy enough to work out if a neighbour was doing a 9-5 job as you would just notice no cars in the car park during the day.
It turns out it's very hard these days to know.
Only for small talk if waking out same time/ bin day etc

@Aquarius1234 I understand. You don't have a neighbour problem. You have a noise problem.

I like to come home after a day socialising and have some peace. Not all the time just sometimes. In my previous property there was never any peace but the issue was a mixture of unusually loud neighbours, mixed with poor sound proofing in the property. I felt like I was always in go mode, not able to relax.

It was only fixed when I moved and I made sure that I did not move into a terrace property and the shared wall of my living room (where I spend most of my time) was not attached to the neighbours. Plus noise cancelling headphones are your best friend.

In my garden I created a spot that was shielded from the neighbours, so if I want to just hang in my garden. I can slip out quietly and enjoy my garden as well. Look into using artificial plants, so you can benefit all year round.

Have a look what is out there OP and be creative. You can create quiet spots and enjoy the type of peace you need.

I mainly stay at home if I'm not at work, most of my neighbours are retired they are always home, it doesn't bother me at all, they are not in my flat. I think it's weird to expect your neighbours to go out.

Yes exactly.
I live alone but sometimes feel I can touch my neighbours. Sometimes hear whole conversations and unpleasant ones.
I feel like I'm living with lodgers lol

@Aquarius1234

eell that's daft. It's heads or tails! You can't say you weren't asking how many times they got tails, you were asking how many times they got heads - either one tells you both 🙄🙄

im home as much as possible. I far prefer to be home.

I get on extremely well with my neighbours, they're not loud, well he can be, but it's only his booming voice and sometimes their TV as he's going getting very hard of hearing! But older people & there's not blasting music etc, but I love it when they go out & go on holiday. Theres just 'peace' privacy& more freedom as zi don't have to be 'aware' of making noise.

but I don't think 'they need to go out' for their well being, that's a bit odd

I don't want to live in a sevluddd house miles from neighbours (since my accident I like having people I know about the place (on the whole). I'm still allowed to enjoy the peace & privacy when they're not home.

But you are at home when they are at home, they could go out when you are out, you’d have no idea. Also people don’t need to drive their car to leave the house. I tend not to use a car in the week at all, that doesn’t mean I don’t leave the house.

I want to be able to sit outside and not feel that someone could see me. Not that they care.
But I do. I think living alone probably makes you hear many more noises. Esp in morning or night.
Unless I'm glued to the TV with volume up.

They don't work probably retired or one works from home .

I work from home, I’m working not staring out of the window.

I’m one of those people who cannot stay at home all day (genuinely don’t understand how people who WFH do it!) so I am always out for at least a few hours each day.

That being said - you do have privacy in your own home. You just need to stop stalking your neighbours and watching out for their every coming and going. The more you obsess over them the more you will hear/see. What does them being at home have to do with you? It’s not as if you’re sharing a house with them. I’ve got neighbours each side - couldn’t tell you who goes where or when as it does not affect me in the slightest.

I’d have sympathy for you if they were disruptive or noisy neighbours (I’ve been there before - it drove me to the brink of insanity) but they sound completely normal. The neighbours aren’t the issue, it is you OP.