How Often are you at Home?

[Aquarius1234]

I feel I prefer to be out the house more often than in it. Even though I'm indoors lots of evenings by 6pm.
It surprises me that my neighbours seem to rarely leave the house apart from food shopping?

Even if I worked from home I would think it's weird to go days without leaving the house?
I also find it annoying that my neighbours seem to be in a huge amount!!
I don't have much of a social life at all but couldn't bear to go months without doing stuff at the weekend or odd evening.
I do stuff alone to get out the house. It's good to get some fresh air . .

I’d be really creeped out if I thought my neighbours were monitoring my comings and goings and registering if my car was there. That’s not normal op and I guarantee they’re not doing it to you.

I am at home most of the time. It’s my home. I pay for it. I work hybrid and yes I go to the shops, walk the dog and go to the gym. I may go out a few times a month for a meal or drinks, but I have a demanding job and housework to keep on top of and a primary age DD so I want to unwind and read a book or watch TV.

Unfortunately terrace living means you will hear your neighbours or see them in the garden. You can’t afford a detached so it’s something you’ll have to get used to. Your neighbours aren’t doing anything wrong by living in their own homes.

I have no idea how much time my neighbours spend at home - I have my own life and don’t have the time or the inclination to track them.

I do have a tracker on my logs where I spend my time - I love data and it produces pie charts!

I spend on average eleven hours a day at home. Most of that sleeping. An hour awake before I go to work, around twelve hours a day commuting to work and going to work then out sometimes in the eve ing - shops, visiting family, going to wake or cycles in the summer.

weekends I will sometimes go away and all weekend - or if I’m home shopping, walking, beach in the summer, lunch out, dinner out.

I bet they don’t actually give a fuck about your comings and goings. Certainly not as much as you care about theirs.

In my youth yes out every day and on weekends had to get out otherwise be bored. After having kids ditto - get me out!
Now I'm totally happy to potter around my house. I walk my dogs and otherwise only go out for a chore or see friends. I just don't have the need to get out anymore. Also there's more entertainment in house - back then no smart phones or internet or cable (well the latter by the time I had kids).

I literally do not ever think about what my neighbours might be doing. I don't even actively notice if their cars are on the drive or their lights are on when I walk past, because I don't care if they're in or not. I think it's really weird that you think so much about yours.

I doubt your neighbours give a monkeys what you do. You aren't the centre if anyone's universe apart from your own. What an odd way of thinking. Stop obsessing over your poor neighbours it's weird!

I think pps who don't understand are those who don't hear their neighbours. I totally get you and that longing, yearning for silence in your own home - just occasionally. My next door neighbour never goes out, not even food shopping and he no longer works. Not elderly

Seems such a waste of a life

I feel the same , we put a lot of work into our home to make it nice , I enjoy my own company or working in the garden. I couldn't care less what other people think about what I do and I really don't care what my neighbours are doing.

How weird. I have very little idea what my neighbours do or don't do. If it annoys you that they are in when you are, you need to move somewhere else. Surely the point of having a home is to spend time in it whenever you are able to and want to.

Seems such a waste of a life

I just don't understand why anyone else would care.

Perhaps they're living exactly the life they want.

‘A waste of a life’ in your opinion. But you have no idea what he’s actually doing when he’s inside. And plenty people might consider constant activity, seeking out of others and validation from that to be a sign of someone who is actually quite unhappy in themselves, someone who cannot be at ease in their own company and silence, someone who is perhaps living a waste of a life.

Yes. Tbh, I'd wonder what someone was trying to escape or avoid if they were never at home.

I've found in the past that I spent far less time at home when I was very unhappy - I was always out, doing stuff and socialising because I couldn't bear the silence of my own surroundings and the noise in my head. I needed to go out to drown out the noise.

Being comfortable at home and staying in is a sign of emotional and mental wellbeing for me.

I love being as t home, I love closing the front door behind me and relaxing. I don't really care too much about the rest of the world sometimes.

On lovely days when I go out I never want to go back in though.

I can go days without leaving the house. WFH, no friends, shopping delivered. School run no longer required.

I do run sometimes which does get me out but still in the village area.

I go through phases but I'm a huge homebody. I'm also trying to save and outside is expensive. 😁

I was like you when I was younger. Out ALL of the time.

Life was for living and I had some fantastic adventures.

I think what you're doing is totally normal, particularly when you're young.

Don't worry about your neighbours, they won't be worrying about you.

I lived in a very old terrace (16th century), and we could hear the neighbours as if they were in the same room. It was an invasion of privacy and frankly hell.

Next time, avoid it like the plague.

It's also very peopley... 👀

Also, my job is very loud. I have constant interactions with others all day long without a break from around 8am until 5.30pm.

I quite enjoy the peace and quiet and nothingness of being at home!

😁 I can SO relate…

😁

Well, lockdown showed up a huge difference between me and DH on this! I like to be out a lot and he doesn't!

And, since lockdown, his work switched to a permanant WFH 3 days/week. So he only leaves the house 2 days/week!!!

Unless we go out together in the evenings. Which is not every week.

I am out lots. Every single day. Have 2 dogs to walk for a start. Not a day goes by when i don't go out for 2 or 3 hours. Seeing friends, shopping,

Take yesterday as an example. Left the house about 10 am. Drove to dog walk spot. One hour walking. Popped into Aldi. Arrived home 12.15 ish.

Quickly fed dogs and unpacked shopping. Out again by 12.30, drove to town to meet DD for lunch.

Returned 5pm. I was in from then.

DH never left the house! We are all different. DH was working though, it's not like he could've left the house but he much prefers WFH i'm sure!

You could be me writing this, and it's a scary trend. When I went out to work, I had to learn to get along with all sorts of personalities and ages and worldviews and it was very good for me. I also made good friends

However people here who wfh 100% and rarely engage outside their immediate circle (not through disability) are very defensive

If that's the case you need to live to a detached property in the middle of nowhere.

This is a you problem. Get some ear plugs if other people living life in their home annoys you.