To think this is too early for a house guest to get up?

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My husband's sister and her husband are staying over for the weekend. They don't have children we have two young teens but they are both at friends this weekend.

DBIL has just gone to bed and cheerily announced as he did that he would be going out for a run at 6.00am and would bring a key (they have a spare as they house sit sometimes). Plus he casually mentioned something about making a smoothie beforehand so it actually sounds like he's getting up at more like 5.30am.

Neither DH or I are confrontational and so we both just sort of sat there shocked. But I am just not sure what to say. Our house isn't tiny but equally I am pretty sure all his getting ready etc is going to mean we wake up. And weekend lie ins are rare with two kids and associated activities!

I mean I guess he could be joking but he's not really that kind of person. His wife (DH sister) is normally quite sensible and she didn't seem at all embarrassed about it which is making me worry we are the weird ones for being a bit horrified!

My SIL goes to bed early and gets up at 5:30.
The first time she expected me to get up and serve her breakfast but as I’m never awake that early it didn’t happen so now she opens the cupboard for her muesli and gets the milk out of the fridge all by herself! Well fancy that!

It would piss me off if he woke me up at 5.30 on the weekend. Don't get up though, just leave them to it.

Tell him to bring a pre-made smoothie and lock him out if he wakes you up

The run isn't unreasonable but the 530am smoothie feels like poor guest ettiquete. Our house is very open plan, there's no way I wouldn't hear someone making a smoothie!!

Kindly suggest he make it tonight so it's ready in the fridge?!

Its only one morning otherwise, not a huge deal. However I'm reading this having just come out of years of sleep deprivation and to me at the moment every sleeps feels precious!

Getting up quietly and going for a run: no problem.

Putting the blender on when the house is asleep; NO FUCKING WAY.

You need to have a word to make sure that’s clear.

He can get up and go running if he wants bit he has to be quiet about it. No way can he use a blender! Bowl of cereal will suffice!

she expected you to make her breakfast at that time?!

Holy feck I could just never be that cheeky or entitled. The 'oh no please don't trouble yourself' side of me is dying at the thought of asking anyone to do anything like that.

I think it’s fine for him to get up and out early if he’s a lark.

I am guessing the smoothie making would be noisy? Leave a note saying “No smoothie making or unnecessary noise before 8am on pain of certain death”

A 6am run is fair but 5.30 smoothie is rude.

i would be telling him that if i am woken up by his movements he won't be getting back in the house because I'd be barricaading all the doors. Knob

Yes, smoothie made the night before (preferably he brings ingredients with him, makes it himself to his taste and clears up afterwards).

6am isnt that bad really. I assume he will be tactful and not stomp about.

Why didn't you respond "Go for it! But do NOT wake me up!!" Surely he can go for a run without you being woken up? Unless he can't be trusted to lock the door or something.

YABU.

I am an owl, but I can't see the problem with any guests who want to get up that early, provided they are mindful of noise levels. A friend of mine who has stayed overnight with me a few times is a very early riser and it's never crossed my mind to be annoyed at her for that.

I'd be hiding the blender after he'd gone to bed.

If anyone used a loud blender at 530am on a Sunday in my house they would be swiftly exited through the nearest door or window and locked out

Totally reasonable to get up that early. Totally unreasonable to run a blender that early - those things are noisy!

Run - no problem. Using the blender - you’re having a laugh.

Hide the blender in your room now and tell him he’d better not wake you up

Run ok. Smoothie no. Hide the blender.

Yeah I feel like that's why he kind of muttered it as he is went out of the door and so he must have known he was out of order ?

Smoothie made night before: no issue.
Blender at 5.30 is twatish.

I still have memories of getting up with the kids at crazy past dawn, feeding them (whilst freezing, because the heating didn't come on til 9am), then taking the kids swimming. And being greated by some very surprised PiL as I walked back into the house a couple of hours later.

If he doesn't disturb you, no issue. It sounds like he's going to be up before most of you. Might be better if he's out of the house, rather than "pottering" round the house.

YANBU but all you need to do is make it clear you don’t want to be woken up before a certain time because you want a lie in. No blenders, noisy showers etc if other sleepers can hear - that’s just common courtesy in someone else’s home but seems he needs it spelling out if he’s planning on making smoothies. Slipping out of the door quietly is no biggie as long as he doesn’t bang it.

Why don't you just tell him to make smoothie tonight because you don't want waking in the morning? It's not like he's a stranger

I would go and tell him that of course he is welcome to do a run but please not smoothie making or any other activities in the kitchen before 8am.
Don’t joke about it, say that it’s very early for us. Don’t assume that he is going to be quiet, how possible it is to be quiet with a blender???
I think it’s better to put boundaries in place rather than being annoyed all day.