To think this is too early for a house guest to get up?

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My husband's sister and her husband are staying over for the weekend. They don't have children we have two young teens but they are both at friends this weekend.

DBIL has just gone to bed and cheerily announced as he did that he would be going out for a run at 6.00am and would bring a key (they have a spare as they house sit sometimes). Plus he casually mentioned something about making a smoothie beforehand so it actually sounds like he's getting up at more like 5.30am.

Neither DH or I are confrontational and so we both just sort of sat there shocked. But I am just not sure what to say. Our house isn't tiny but equally I am pretty sure all his getting ready etc is going to mean we wake up. And weekend lie ins are rare with two kids and associated activities!

I mean I guess he could be joking but he's not really that kind of person. His wife (DH sister) is normally quite sensible and she didn't seem at all embarrassed about it which is making me worry we are the weird ones for being a bit horrified!

Will you hear the blender from your room? Otherwise I don’t see the issue as long as he quietly opens and closes the doors, and isn’t noisy when showering after his run.

So say “make the smoothie now” instead of seething about it?

Hide the blender in your car.

Unless he’s training for the olympics, he needs to be a polite guest and not wake up his hosts for 5:30/6:00am, especially on a weekend. In fact, even if he is an Olympic runner, he needs to meet family in the daytime rather than fucking you around like this.

Hide the blender. I repeat. Hide the blender.

I agree sneaking out for an early run is fine, and means he won't be trying to run later in the day which may be irritating for plans etc
Blender is a no !

Earplugs all round!

I'd imagine he has one of those portable blenders, unless he's asked you where the blender is kept (which would have been the time to address this). I wouldn't try to police what time an adult gets up tbh. Don't see anything wrong whatsoever with a guest getting up and going for a 6am run, that's a fairly normal thing to do, no? And considerate to do it at a time that won't clash with other plans.

The cheek 😲

Is he going to disturb you by having a shower too? Can’t he just delay his run for one day?

Earplugs??

I go to bed 10pm and attempt to sleep although thanks to insomnia that's often not until midnight.

As soon as I hear anyone up in the morning I'm wide awake. So someone getting up at 6am would be aaaaargghhr for me.

But perhaps he is like me and just wakes up early, can't go back to sleep so likes to DO something??

Go join him if you get woken up!?!?!?

Given that he's already gone to bed though OP aren't your options a bit limited?

Hide the blender, leave a note in the kitchen saying it's only available after 7 on weekends 😂

I'm not seething about it, just shocked. And I think he's asleep now. Or at least in bed. But I genuinely wanted to ask on Mumsnet because he said it so matter of factly that I felt like I was unreasonable to feel a little surprised by his plans

I'm not sure where I would buy ear plugs in rural Cornwall at 9 pm at night?

I definitely can't join him as i have a disability

I think hiding the blender /leaving him a note is the only option. We work long hours. I don't want to wake up at 5.30 on a rare child free weekend

They house sit every now and then as we live in Cornwall and they like coming down if we are away , so he knows his way around the house. I think it may be his normal routine if he's here when we aren't

Hide the blender. He is being far too comfortable at your house.

Tell him to make the smoothie the night before and store it in the fridge, so that he doesn't wake anyone else up at 05:30.

My DH can not sleep past 5:30/6:00 no matter where he is, home, holiday etc so will pretty much always be up having a coffee at 6:00am but he doesn’t it quietly and doesn’t wake anyone else. So being up / going for a run - fine. Like everyone else says - making a smoothie, no fine!

You seem to have the missed the bit about a smoothie being made at 5:30am

What does he would bring a key mean? It sounds like he's staying with you already, where is he bringing a key from and what for?

Text him and say, ‘don’t know if you were joking about the blender, but please don’t use it at 5:30, I’m a light sleeper.’ And hide it.

He's already asleep so that ship has sailed!

Polite note saying 'appreciate you were hoping for a pre run smoothie but given the kids are at x we're all hoping for a lie in! Enjoy your run and the blender will be out for smoothies when everyone is awake.'

Or something more articulate than I can muster when it's 7 minutes past my bedtime.

Best get some sleep...have a 530 pre run smoothie to make 😂

Haven't read the comments, so may have been said: go and ask him to make his smoothly now, as the walls are thin and it will wake the house.

Just clearly tell them that's fine but could they try and not wake you.
My DHs dad came to stay once and got up at 5.30am. Not fir a run he just got up then. I had a baby and young child and he woke both of them up so we were all up at 5.30 fkn am. And I'd been up in the night with the baby. I just refused to ever have him stay again. He is also a horrible person tbf.
But if someone wants to get up early and is quiet and respectful of others sleeping I wouldn't care about that tbh.
You have to be clear tho, so they know that is not when you expect to be getting up yourself and everyone will be in bed.

Yeah, I think that's what I'm going to do, a polite note about the smoothie but say he's welcome to drink juice from the fridge or whatever. Am also going to ask he doesn't shower before 7 as the bathroom is right next to our room and honestly we're both shattered and DH is bordering on burnout at the moment due to work and other pressures