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To think this is too early for a house guest to get up?

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morningbbrew · 31/08/2024 20:59

My husband's sister and her husband are staying over for the weekend. They don't have children we have two young teens but they are both at friends this weekend.

DBIL has just gone to bed and cheerily announced as he did that he would be going out for a run at 6.00am and would bring a key (they have a spare as they house sit sometimes). Plus he casually mentioned something about making a smoothie beforehand so it actually sounds like he's getting up at more like 5.30am.

Neither DH or I are confrontational and so we both just sort of sat there shocked. But I am just not sure what to say. Our house isn't tiny but equally I am pretty sure all his getting ready etc is going to mean we wake up. And weekend lie ins are rare with two kids and associated activities!

I mean I guess he could be joking but he's not really that kind of person. His wife (DH sister) is normally quite sensible and she didn't seem at all embarrassed about it which is making me worry we are the weird ones for being a bit horrified!

OP posts:
SusieLawson · 09/09/2024 05:52

morningbbrew · 31/08/2024 20:59

My husband's sister and her husband are staying over for the weekend. They don't have children we have two young teens but they are both at friends this weekend.

DBIL has just gone to bed and cheerily announced as he did that he would be going out for a run at 6.00am and would bring a key (they have a spare as they house sit sometimes). Plus he casually mentioned something about making a smoothie beforehand so it actually sounds like he's getting up at more like 5.30am.

Neither DH or I are confrontational and so we both just sort of sat there shocked. But I am just not sure what to say. Our house isn't tiny but equally I am pretty sure all his getting ready etc is going to mean we wake up. And weekend lie ins are rare with two kids and associated activities!

I mean I guess he could be joking but he's not really that kind of person. His wife (DH sister) is normally quite sensible and she didn't seem at all embarrassed about it which is making me worry we are the weird ones for being a bit horrified!

It isn't as if he expects you to get up too. He's just going for a run. Think you're being unreasonable.

RampantIvy · 09/09/2024 07:21

In what way is the OP being unreasonable @SusieLawson?
She wasn't stopping her BIL from getting up. She just didn't want to be woken up by the blender being used.

If you had bothered reading her subsequent posts you will know that she has health issues and needs her sleep.

Thursdaygirl · 09/09/2024 11:06

morningbbrew · 08/09/2024 14:15

SIL apologised for disturbing us fair and seemed reasonably apologetic, BIL was a bit quieter

Which implies the BiL thinks he's entitled to wake the whole house up at silly o'clock and probably thinks you're being unreasonable ..... I would be re-thinking the open invitation if I were you!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 09/09/2024 12:25

RampantIvy · 09/09/2024 07:21

In what way is the OP being unreasonable @SusieLawson?
She wasn't stopping her BIL from getting up. She just didn't want to be woken up by the blender being used.

If you had bothered reading her subsequent posts you will know that she has health issues and needs her sleep.

I agree completely, @RampantIvy. How is @morningbbrew being unreasonable to want a guest not to wake the whole house up before 6am? Maybe @SusieLawson will explain.

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