To think this is too early for a house guest to get up?

[morningbbrew]

My husband's sister and her husband are staying over for the weekend. They don't have children we have two young teens but they are both at friends this weekend.

DBIL has just gone to bed and cheerily announced as he did that he would be going out for a run at 6.00am and would bring a key (they have a spare as they house sit sometimes). Plus he casually mentioned something about making a smoothie beforehand so it actually sounds like he's getting up at more like 5.30am.

Neither DH or I are confrontational and so we both just sort of sat there shocked. But I am just not sure what to say. Our house isn't tiny but equally I am pretty sure all his getting ready etc is going to mean we wake up. And weekend lie ins are rare with two kids and associated activities!

I mean I guess he could be joking but he's not really that kind of person. His wife (DH sister) is normally quite sensible and she didn't seem at all embarrassed about it which is making me worry we are the weird ones for being a bit horrified!

Your plan to write a note sounds sensible, OP.

I often wake up super early when I’m staying
at my friends house as I have sleep issues, especially when staying somewhere new.

But I wouldn’t dream of getting up and about at 6am on a Sunday in a fairly small house as it would risk waking them up. Unless they were all up too.

If I wake up early I just mess about on my phone or read my kindle. It’s not great hardship for me just to stay in bed for a couple of hours.

I used to live in a flat share and one of my flatmates boyfriend used to leave early in the morning most weekdays about 5am. Would wake me up most days and i rarely get back to sleep once I’m woken up in the morning. I’d have woken up at 7am otherwise so it really cut my sleep short. I was a lot younger then so didn’t say anything but think it contributed to the 3 month bout of fatigue I had.

I know this is just one day but still you don’t want to be woken up early unnecessarily.

I am not seeing your problem. I would always tell guests what time I would normally get up and the show them where everything is if they want to get up sooner. Surely if you hear the blender all you will do is thing 'rather him than me' then drift back to sleep? It's not like he's using a pneumatic drill.

Obviously what you need to do is have a very loud kitchen disco until about midnight. Followed by very noisy sex for a few hours to make sure he doesn’t get enough sleep for a 5.30 start. You’re welcome.

Yes sorry that's what I meant! That he would take a key with him

A blender at 5.30am wouldn’t wake me up, I must be weird. My DH gets up 5 am 6 days a week and I never hear a thing!

I would ask how he is planning to make the smoothie. Perhaps it does not involve a blender? And if it does then say something.

Yes don't be using a nutri bullet at 530am!

Re the ingredients - he's brought loads of stuff with him,.I didn't really bat an eyelid as he's very health obsessed so is making his own meals (I mean ours are perfectly healthy - and DH is a really good cook- but BIL is very particular about what he eats so brings lots of different supplements and bits like that)

He's not unreasonable. He's a grown man and if he wants to go for a run that's up to him. It's not right to be blending though. That would really annoy me.

He can (and should) make the smoothie the night before and then tiptoe directly between bed & front door, through which he quietly & carefully leaves for his run.

I would take the blender to bed with you, @morningbbrew! And put an Out of Order sign on the shower.

I hope he doesn’t wake you up at sparrowfart tomorrow.

Ugh, he can’t relax with the supplements for a day or two? Why can’t he just eat the damn fruit quietly rather than having to make a smoothie. Sounds insufferable.

Agree that slipping out quietly for a run at 6 is fine. Making a smoothie at 5.30 is not. I’m on team ‘hide the blender and say it’s broken, but he’s welcome to eat some fruit before his run’

My parents set their alarm for 6.30
When they stay at mine. Then don't bother to get up. I put a stop to that! My house is tiny, so it woke me too!

It sounds as if he has forgotten he is a guest this time as they have house sat for you previously.

A 6am run is annoying - front door opening and closing would wake me up. And I hate it when people thud around our streets early - wasn't there a thread once on a runner who thumped past someone's house repeatedly early every day?

But anyway. Definitely no to the blender and shower too.

I might go downstairs and sit quietly on my phone if I woke early (but I wouldn't know tbh, I sleep in!) But I would wait to start making coffee and smoothies until my hosts were up.

Totally agree. What a knob.

If you hide the blender, he’ll crash about looking for it and wake you all anyway.

Don’t bother with the “polite notice”
Talk to him about it tonight so you all know where you stand and any uncertainty is gone.
You’ll be able to sleep better and he won’t get a shock in the morning to find the blender is not there.

Proper communication is best.

Hide that blender. Is your sil still up? I'd tell her to wake him and let him know no blender or early shower

Just hide the blender? If he says anything just say it broke a while ago and you didn’t bother replacing it.

If he said that he wanted to make a smoothie before his run just laugh and say ‘ good job it is broken then because if you woke us up @ 5.30am making a smoothie it would have been the last time you visited! ‘

Team hide the blender. Or strategically remove a key part and plead ignorance. I'm sure he can slum it with juice or water for just this run.

He should make the smoothie tonight and go out quietly!!

Getting up for a run no problem, and hope he brought one of those innocent smoothies with him

He's already gone to bed, he went up before 9. I was too stunned when h said it to say anything and i'm hardly going to shake him awake!
I agree that if he had mentioned this at lunch time I would have had time to process it and have a conversation, but he sort of mentioned it as he was strolling out of the room to go to bed

Anyway, I had better go to bed soon in case we are woken early.

Following for an update of what he does in the morning!