Would you have children if you knew they may never move out?

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I know times have changed a lot lately and parents who had children who are now young adults are finding that those children have reached adulthood but aren't able to fly the nest so are staying in the parents home.
We don't know how society will be in 25 years.

What do you imagine for the future generations? Are people thinking about starting a family looking at permanently being financially responsible for their children, a lot of parents say they wouldn't charge their adult children to live in their own home but could be living with them for the rest of their lives?

I'm trying to imagine what having a family will look like for our generation.

Depends which of my children we're talking about!

Of course! I wanted my dc under any circumstances.

Yes. I would. And I would do that for my children.

If I make a decision to bring life into the world then that ensuring that person is OK is my responsibility. For life. Not just for 18 years.

By that logic my 79 year old mum needs to open her house to me. Since she brought me into the world and all.

@cosyleafcafe

what if your parents are elderly and frail or ill? Should you a healthy young adult sill come first and expect to be prioritised above them still?

Yes.

Parents should do what is in their children's best interests. Including once they are adults.

If you were in dire straits and needed help, and your elderly mother had the capacity to help you, then yes, of course she should help. You are her child.

I could not disagree more.

@Lentilweaver OK.

Your very much the kind that would sue over not consenting to be born aren't you.

but there is a big world out there for them to explore

People make this point a lot. I've known many people over the years who moved out at a "normal" age but have not seen even a fraction of the world! I'm old enough now to have seen how it's gone for many of my friends and relatives.

Yes they moved out in their early 20's but not to go off travelling or "building a career". They generally worked low paid jobs to pay rent and living costs. At some point met a partner. Had DC. Many then separated at some point. So the women were left struggling financially. No spare cash. Too busy trying to make ends meet to do any kind of further study to improve their situation. DC grow up, mum's still working in low paid jobs. Now they lack confidence to do anything else. My sister is in exactly that situation, so I see it first hand.

My DC have always had the option to live at home. Having that backup has enabled them to take risks and know that they had a home to go back to. I don't think anyone can argue that financially it's cheaper to live at home and money = freedom. Once you're responsible for putting the roof over your head and paying all the bills, then you have to be far more cautious. Some would argue that that's just life and you need to go through it. But do you really?

@cosyleafcafe

but…why?! Surely a healthy young adult can take responsibility for themselves rather than compromising elderly , frail, ill parents? Surely after a certain age, most people wouldn’t want their parents to be put out in any way on their account ?

Yes I would. It's not unusual in my family for multiple generations to live together.