AIBU? Bridesmaid and childcare

[Bridely2be]

Getting married next spring and bridesmaid can only stay for one night due to childcare, meaning she can only stay night of wedding and won't be with bridal party the night before. AIBU to be annoyed? Surely that's a pretty basic expectation? Her mum is having baby on night of wedding so she and partner can attend, but night before her partner could have baby but she doesn't want to leave baby for 2 nights.
Edited to add that wedding is far from home so makes wedding day logistics v v v difficult due to early ceremony. Not just being brudezilla

BRIDEZILLA

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Yes, YABU.
Let me guess.... once you have a baby it should be invited everywhere.

"It's my wedding!"

Sounds like her DC isn't the only one who needs childcare the night before

You are being unreasonable.

i take it you don’t have any children?

It might be your wedding buts it her baby and she shouldn't be made to feel guilty for not wanting to be away for 2 nights especially if the baby is young

It's up to her, she knows her baby and their needs better than you- 2 nights away could be a lot for them both. I would say YABVU! It might be your wedding but a baby trumps that every time.

Course you’re being unreasonable

Has to be a reverse!

It’s not what you want to hear but if you don’t have children you don’t understand. Don’t fall out with her over this. There may be other factors she doesn’t want to disclose (eg the cost of an extra night, meals, hair and make up etc- being a bridesmaid is expensive!)

You are being very unreasonable and a horrible friend, why should your friend be away from her baby for two nights just because YOU are getting married 🤷🏼‍♀️ main character syndrome much 🙄

That was my first thought too

Definitely a reverse.

Open your eyes and read the room.
Your wedding is only important to YOU.
Bridesmaids child is important to HER.

Does anyone need to stay the night before a wedding? Unless it I'd iles away from your homes, then perhaps you should have considered the guests more.

Invite the baby and then it's problem solved !

Got to be a reverse. Sincerely hope it is.

Reverse posts are so tedious 🙄

Errrm my bridesmaid had no kids and we managed a lovely wedding day, despite us both sleeping in our respective parents' houses the night before. Why TF do you need her with you the night before????? As long as she's there for hair and make-up (if required) the next morning, what's the drama?

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100% brudezilla

I don’t think this is a reverse. I honestly think people are this entitled and self absorbed

Oh Christ - are you actually serious?! Come back when you’ve had a baby and need to find childcare and let us know how that goes. She’s lucky she’s got her mum have the baby for 1 night- how selfish of you - your wedding is a big deal for you but no one else- people still have their responsibilities and can’t drop them for you????

Yawn, a other reverse or bridezilla.