AIBU? Bridesmaid and childcare

[Bridely2be]

Getting married next spring and bridesmaid can only stay for one night due to childcare, meaning she can only stay night of wedding and won't be with bridal party the night before. AIBU to be annoyed? Surely that's a pretty basic expectation? Her mum is having baby on night of wedding so she and partner can attend, but night before her partner could have baby but she doesn't want to leave baby for 2 nights.
Edited to add that wedding is far from home so makes wedding day logistics v v v difficult due to early ceremony. Not just being brudezilla

@Skyhu I think the wedding is probably done and dusted now! The post is from last year..

Beyond cheeky. You're lucky shes staying the wedding night. What do you need her the night before for?

Shes having a night away

As, LAST AUGUST, the OP said she was getting married next Spring, I'm guessing this has happened by now.

Just posting to say this
I don't quite get this website, everyone on it seems to be anti - bride.... must be a lot of jealous folk is all I can think!
is hilarious.

How do you make a leap from people holding a differnt opinion from yourself, to people
a) being "anti-bride" and
b) people being "jealous" ???

You're totally unreasonable. In 9+ years. since they were born, I haven't left any of my children overnight for a single night with a sitter unless there has been a medical situation. I would never leave them for a night to attend a wedding and my friends are all the same way. If she's willing to do this even for a single night you need to be grateful you have such a wonderful friend. You are not the center of the universe.

The world does not stop because you are getting married, no other way to pretty this up

It’s 2025

SHES ALREADY MARRIED!

@BlondiePortz also the world does not stop because you have kids. What’s wrong with the baby’s dad being in charge for a night?

Because maybe a wedding does not have to be a long drawn out event?

This was me. Absolutely no way I could leave my baby two nights in a row. It’s physically and mentally impossible. But, I stayed the night before the wedding with the bride so was there to get ready. OH came to the wedding, and I left the evening of the wedding day at an appropriate time.

It wasn’t

The bridesmaid lived a long way from the event (everyone else lived nearby). The wedding was in the morning. So it would have made sense rather than rushing round first thing and a long drive.

Edited to reflect PAST TENSE!