FFS why don't you drive ??

[nextdoorconundrum]

So annoying to read threads on here that start with .. I don't drive .. my dp/DH does ..

Why why this is even a thing ? Does benefit of penis somehow render them more able to? Does their testosterone somehow benefit their abilities.. or is it simply something men regard as an essential in life ?

Before you all pile on .. yes there are certain disabilities that count you out . Severely visually impaired.. uncontrolled epilepsy.. but when one of my best mates who has spina bifida managed it with a hand controlled car via motability.. I think perhaps it's just not trying hard enough and happy for the man to do the driving .. even my autistic step son (severe - (special school until 21) got his license..

There is only one reason I can think not to bother - and that is because you are city dwellers with excellent public transportation .. but the rest of you .. why ? It just seems so 'weedy' .

I became a parent before I could legally learn to drive so it's never been a priority. I don't live in a big city but admittedly I can't say I live in a super rural area either. Yes I have to walk everywhere and I'm very fit and healthy so are my kids win every race at sports day 🤷🏻‍♀️ I know people who were thin till they got a car then gained stones within months.
Also driving lessons are a lot more expensive than they were in the past

I live in a reasonably sized house (2,000 sq ft) have a nice sized garden, fresh (sea) air in a nice secluded spot. I’ve got all that within a five minute walk to my high street. No need for me to be living in the middle of nowhere, which never appeals to me.

And personally there’s a huge difference between a fifteen minute walk versus a fifteen minute drive to town. I’d rather walk.

Yes 100%. I guess it’s not really a driver vs non driver situation, more the fact some people are just lazy and entitled

I know plenty of non drivers (including myself before getting my license) who managed getting myself from a to b without constantly expecting lifts from others.

But there are definitely people out there who don’t drive out of pure laziness becuase everyone else will be their taxi

@Dreamcatchergirl but that's an issue because she's a dick/CF, not because she's a non driver. She'd still be one even if she drove, just in different ways.

On the odd occasion I asked or got offered a lift, I always offered petrol money and since it's always rejected I tend to buy drinks/lunch/some treat and I always express how much I appreciate it.

I just posted before you did, it’s not a non driver vs driver situation. More just some people are entitled (driver or not)

And that’s a very different and understandable scenario to some of the insults that have been thrown by drivers on here to all non drivers (wimp, ick, wouldn’t be friends with etc).

Well that’s just insane. As a driver I don’t put myself on a pedestal above non drivers. Don’t get me wrong I’m glad I can drive and it was one of the best thing I ever learnt but it’s not for everyone. Can’t imagine being so self absorbed to think that non drivers are wimps, and not being friends with someone who doesn’t drive is crazy (unless they are taking advantage)

There’s been some quite nasty posters on here with superiority complexes thinking they’re special because they drive when others don’t.

Well, what can I say, good for you?

No idea how it applies to the other people on this thread.

So what I'm getting from this is drivers need to grow backbones and learn how to say no.

I don't WANT to live rurally though. Even if I could drive. It doesn't appeal to me.

Same here.

If I could afford to I'd live in central London. That's my idea of heaven.

Yes, I’m a city girl at heart. Rural living doesn’t appeal.

You gave the impression you were able to live in a big house with a big garden and fresh air because you drive and can choose to be more rural. I’m saying one doesn’t have to be rural (or a driver) to have those things too.

I dont understand why people on here latched on to me saying I lived in a village. Like its and "Ah, see!" moment that totally justifies them being aggressively against learning to drive.

I could have lived there happily without needing to drive. I could have commuted on the train to my job (exDH could have dropped me off by the station/ picked me up no problem). I could have use taxis for shopping. But.

I wanted to have the freedom driving a car gives you. I could pick my mum from the airport and driven her to my house. I could drive to the seaside, or some woods, or a lake. I could drive to big shops out of town - like, I could drive to a garden centre and buy lots of plants. I could go to a huge country fair, or antique fair, or a car boot sale in the middle of nowhere and buy antique furniture, or something else I fancied - without worrying how I will get it home. I could drive around country for my job - and I did go on the train when I could, but in most cases it was not an option.

If you never driven, and like to stay put in one place, you cant possibly know how liberating being able to drive can be - and I guess you would be unaware that there are places in this country you can only get to by car.

If you never driven, and like to stay put in one place,

These two are not synonymous, especially since plenty of drivers like to stay put in one place too.

You completely misunderstood what I was saying. I lived where I did because I had to, but I learned to drive because I wanted to. I would have done it even if I lived in the city as I believe it gives you freedom and independence.

I did say AND, which implies they are not synonyms.

If not driving makes a woman a feeble wimp then I’m quite happy to be in the company of:

JK Rowling
Mariah Carey
Christina Aguillera
Barbra Streisand
Jennifer Lopez
Tina Fey

All highly successful women who have either never driven or given up due to finding driving too nerve wracking.

Most of those can afford chauffers and taxis so won't be relying on anyone to ferry them around. They can also afford to live where they want, probably have domestic staff to go shopping, look after kids, etc. They're really not going to be dependant upon family and friends to give them lifts!

Actually you would have needed OR there.

AND means you need the two things. OR means either is ok.

My dream retirement plan would be to a beautiful home in Mayfair.
Sadly, it will never happen😏

I am a driver. But the smugness of some of the car drivers here it is just embarrassing. Like driving a car is something to show off about! It’s like they have made some incredible discovery and have the keys to a world that non-drivers will never know. I am cringeing for them!

But practically every non driver on this thread has been quite clear that they are not dependent on friends and family for lifts. This thread is not about cheeky fuckery . The premise of the thread is that those women who don’t drive are deficient in some way. An accomplished woman - a far more accomplished woman than the OP, far better travelled, richer by dint of her own brains and hard work, well thought of as a member of the community, holder of talents few have, fitter, showing a better example to her children and a better citizen of a planet being crippled by environmental irresponsibility - is somehow pathetic in the eyes of people like the OP.

im With @nextdoorconundrum it does my fucking head in.

And non drivers always clsim they don’t need to and never get lifts, but it’s never true!!

It’s part of being an independent adult