Disgusting or Not?

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My partner has the habit of washing his hands and his arms up to the elbows at the kitchen sink and then drying them with the hand towel in the kitchen. He has very hairy arms.

AIBU to think this is disgusting and the hand towel in the kitchen should only be used for drying hands, not other hairy body parts?

I don’t feel that it is hygienic to handle food after I have washed my hands and dried them on the same hand towel that he has used.

So hands= not disgusting
Forearms= disgusting?

He dried hands that were already washed. Can't see the issue, personally. Have a separate towel if it bothers you.

🤔but he washed his hands and arms.

Surely you're more likely to have unpleasant stuff on your hands rather than your forearms? Or is this more to do with body hair?

😂😂😂

Um, they're arms not his groin. And they've been washed! YABU!!

Surely he's being more hygienic than you by making sure he's clean up to his elbows before and after food prep. Maybe he thinks you're gross.

I don't see what the hair has to do with it either, it's his arms not pubes.

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So it's a hand towel for drying hands with and not a tea towel for drying pots with? Can't see the issue

I mean he's washed them, so they're clean? He's hardly wiping his knob on your tea towel!

Interesting. How far would you take that logic? Is it ok to wash his armpits and dry them using the kitchen hand towel?

You need a new hobby to take your mind off such nonsense

Eww

Your partners forearm hairs give you the ick. The towel is not the problem.

OMG, I'm pretty fastidious about this sort of thing, but I couldn't get worried about this.

Armpits are completely different. You're being silly to suggest they aren't.

If something is washed then it’s clean. There’s literally nothing wrong with this.

Are you one of those that washes bath towels after one use too?

YABU, but i have friends with hygiene OCD that manifests just like this and often it’s best to adapt than shame.
if it really bothers you have two tea towels in the kitchen- a his and hers.

I’m genuinely amazed that everyone thinks IABU. I appreciate the comments

This is so weird. And if I were him I'd be extremely hurt by my partner's assertion that my arms were disgusting and unhygienic. In fact, I would end a relationship with someone who held these opinions about my body.

Honestly can't see the problem here OP.

I'd find it strange but not necessarily gross. We wipe our entire bodies on bath towels and that seems to be OK with everyone except for people who feel the need to wash their towels after every use.
Anyway, my partner doesn't like using kitchen towels and uses paper towels instead. I cannot imagine a scenario where he goes online to post about how unhygienic his partner is for wiping her hands on a towel before cooking....
Is this really worth your time and effort?

You'd end a relationship with a man who didn't want you wiping your arms on his towel?! Wowwww I've heard it all now omg!!!! 🤣🤣

I'm guessing you're single?

That’s illogical though. He isn’t drying his armpits.

I feel very sorry for you and more so for your partner that this is how you think of him.

Does he know you find him so disgusting?

Forearms are a cesspit of filth and germs even after you've washed them. L the germ ridden B and burn the towels.