FFS how does exH keep getting girlfriends?!

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The man has more red flags than a Chinese flag-waving competition.
🚩 Four children by three different women, two of whom he has no relationship with.
🚩 Two acrimonious divorces.
🚩 Two non-molestation orders to stop him harassing two of the mothers.
🚩 Convictions for drug-driving and driving without insurance.
🚩 A history of alcohol problems.
🚩 Can't seem to hold down a job and is financially incontinent.
🚩 Moves in with his sisters when he's between girlfriends because he doesn't believe "the man of the house" should have to cook, clean or do the laundry, even when he's the only one in it.

And yet, he's just moved in with yet another woman with her own children and a professional job. Why?! What could possibly be attractive about him as a LT relationship prospect? I can't imagine for a second that he's sharpened up his skills in the bedroom. The mind boggles.

FWIW I was wife #1, so didn't have any of the above history as a guide when I made the extremely poor decision to marry him.

He sounds awful!

What’s financially incontinent?

Don't give it any head space.

i can only assume that he’s charming, at least on first meeting, and doesn’t mention most/any of those - you and the others will definitely be mad, vindictive and stopping him seeing any children (if he admits to them).

He never has any money to pay for boring things like bills but likes to show off so buys designer gear and fancy cars on credit. I can't remember how many debt collectors I had to fend off when I finally got rid of him.

Does he shit money? 🤣

He sounds like the bowel of society, OP. Glad to know you LTB.

FWIW I was wife #1, so didn't have any of the above history as a guide when I made the extremely poor decision to marry him

Presumably they don’t have most of this history either though?

I'd love not to but newest gf/victim has decided to make it her business to tell me how awful I am and how I should be parenting my own children

I doubt he's forthcoming with his history. Going by the list of red flags he's always been an awful person I expect, so what attracted you to him?

Yes this. You, OP, I'm afraid are the crazy ex-wife and it was all your fault. *

• That isn't my opinion, but that is what he will be telling her. He may also just not mention parts of his history.

They don't know him Op, he seems charming and they fall for it. All that other stuff about being a lousy dad, not paying his way that all comes out later. You feel for it once, years ago, now it's someone else's turn. Just be thankful you saw the light and got out

Some women will put up with absolutely anything just to say they have a man.

Block her

I would literally copy and paste that list and block her

She knows about the children, exes, alcohol and drug use because we've discussed them. She definitely knows about the convictions because she has to chauffeur him everywhere. I'm sure I am the "crazy ex" but even so, one is unlucky, two is coincidence, three is...

I was very young when we got married and he was very charming.

It doesn’t matter if you’re wife 1 or 100, there’s evidently something about the man that has attracted all of you. Until true colours start coming through, charm can go a long way. And being excellent at victim mentality, when someone truly believes they’re not the problem others can believe it as well.

I bet all his exes are “crazy” too

Extremely good looking?

Well endowed?

Charming and lies easily?

All of the above?

I can't block her from talking to me in public. She's never contacted me by phone or email.

Because he lies . They don't know the truth until they are involved. And the fact that he can't hang on to one says a lot .

Looks like a bald Desperate Dan

Has a 🍆 like Andrew Tate in Speedos, and definitely doesn't know how to use it.

Sadly, he is charming and lies like he breathes.

Did I mention he's also a rapist? Yes, that too 🚩

A lot of people have a way of making you feel sorry for them

@PiperBurrito add in 'well groomed and dressed' I lived with someone like for 4 years post my divorce- realised within a year it was all 'a front' and was actually a bit of a loser- spent 3 years thinking and planning how to get out of it as I was too kind and felt embarrassed

Sadly, he is charming and lies like he breathes

There's your answer OP. He will also be telling her that everyone else is lying about him.

My ex is similar.

He is terrible with money and has an IVA.
He had a shopping addiction.
He sofa surfs as cannot get or afford a place to live.
He jumps between jobs as he’s so narcissistic he expects to sit around whilst everyone else works and he hates being told what to do.
He’s not particularly bright.
He makes everything about him. EVERYTHING.
He was shit in bed and suffered impotence.
He is obscenely dull.
He lost his looks about 10 years ago but still likes his women young.

Ergh, makes me feel sick thinking about ever being with him.

Sorry that he is a rapist scumbag too.