To find this apology an absolute cheek

[Crabsinthesea]

Yesterday I heard my two friends making fun of my weight behind my back in a restaurant whilst I went to the toilet. I confronted them and they just said it was banter and I need to take a joke. I said I wasn’t happy and then there was an atmosphere until we went home shortly after. Then today I received this text.

So she’s blaming me for being sensitive and telling me to move on! What a cheek! A complete non apology and I’m even more fuming!

'I'm sorry me being 'sensitive ' gives my 'friends ' an excuse to bitch about me because it's 'banter'.
Then block....

“Explain the joke to me”

what a pair of fuckers. banter my arse. 2 x bitching bitches, who got caught out!

What's the "vast" difference? Both are very nasty.

This is confusing.

We don’t actually know what they said. If it was a joke or if the OP was sensitive.

The OP hasn’t updated their thread from the initial post…..

We do know that

OP was upset
That it was behind her back and she then confronted them
That they said she needs to "take a joke"
That a joke is only funny if everyone laughs, which they didn't
That they sent no apology and just victim blamed

They sound like a couple of bitchy school girls, I’d drop them, with friends like that, who needs enemies xx

Don't see what there is to be confused about. "Making fun of my weight" seems pretty clear to me - I don't know anyone who actually finds it funny to be the recipient of such jibes, especially with their back turned? Banter requires all people involved to be participating and it also needs to be funny. As for the comment "Knowing how sensitive you can be we shouldn't have said it really" is right up there with "I'm sorry you feel that way". My reply to that message from the supposed friend would be a simple "Fuck Off".

It’s baffling that there are people on here defending the friend/s.

What possible joke about weight behind someone’s back could be acceptable?

Here's an example of a txt you could send them, but only if you wish and feel free to change words as you please.

Change the tense from they to you.

I have compared them to trash because of their trashy behaviour, they are very toxic, so I revved up the metaphors a little.

They are like a rotten branch of the human race due to their grotesque attitudes to your weight so you have thrown their friendships in the landfill because there is no friendship worth recycling so they will have to buggger off and rott elsewhere.

We still have zero idea what was said though.

And the OP has disappeared

The point of “banter” is it’s supposed to be to your face, and funny to everyone, surely? What they did was bitch behind your back and get caught and double down. So yeah, not friends.

“Hi bitchyfriend, thanks for the message. Here, I fixed it for you:

Hi crabsinthesea. I’m really sorry you were offended by mine and (otherbitchyfriend)’s bantercompletely inappropriate comments about your weight yesterday.
Knowing how sensitive you can be how hurtful it would be for someone to hear their friends making such comments, we shouldn’t have said it really even been thinking those things… let alone voicing them out loud.
It was only a joke so can we just leave it a truly terrible thing for us to have done, and I am feeling really ashamed of my behaviour… I only hope you are able to forgive me please. Sorry 💜

Exactly how it should've been worded!

They are not your friends.

Perfect

Finding this thread so validating, I also received a “sorry you were offended” from my mil who said some absolutely viciously nasty things to my face about my appearance (disability) and age (that my pregnancy would result in a ds baby because I’m so old, which she made clear she found unacceptable).

It’s such a slap in the face to have someone that said such ghastly things then try to gaslight you into thinking it’s a you problem for being too sensitive rather than they are a nasty piece of work that doesn’t deserve you in their life.

Sorry @Crabsinthesea all the empathy in the world. Bin them they are not your friends. I went NC with my mil and life is so much lighter without having to listen to her vile hateful judgement of my life and looks.

This 👏👏👏 then block both the bitches

Banter only ever takes place when the person is there so is able to respond.

Mocking is what happens behind backs and that's what these bitches were doing.

I'd tell her to get to fuck frankly. And the others.

Yes! Love this!

Happy to leave you where I found you and block

'I'm sorry your offended/upset'
is never an apology, its unmissable

This is not an apology. Back away from them, they are not your friends.

So the reason they shouldn't have said it is because you're sensitive? That's not an apology!

Sorry you heard this and how cruel they were. These are not friends. Protect yourself from these energies.