To find this apology an absolute cheek

[Crabsinthesea]

Yesterday I heard my two friends making fun of my weight behind my back in a restaurant whilst I went to the toilet. I confronted them and they just said it was banter and I need to take a joke. I said I wasn’t happy and then there was an atmosphere until we went home shortly after. Then today I received this text.

So she’s blaming me for being sensitive and telling me to move on! What a cheek! A complete non apology and I’m even more fuming!

“You can take your sorry and shove it up your arse”
then block and enjoy friendships with decent people

They just sound hideously immature.

Let’s just say they did send a better apology, I still do not think you would be able to get over how they truly viewed you. If my friend said something nasty about the way I looked and I over heard, even if they were embarrassed and apologised meaningfully I’d assumed it’s just because they got caught and that’s how they truly view me. Either way, the friendships over

Yeah, same.

That’s not an apology and these are not your friends. I’m sorry that you found out this way, I know it’s painful. I hope you don’t put any more energy into relationships with these people.

OP that’s awful. With friends like these, who needs enemies, as the saying goes.

No decent friend is unkind in this way.

Ride high, OP. Echoing what everybody else is saying. They don't deserve you. You can do so much better.

Block, hair-flick and move on. Onwards to better friends.

They obviously think that whacking a heart emoji at the end of a message shows they’re really sorry 💜

It is horrible.
You should reply that taking the piss out of you behind your back is not banter, it's spiteful mockery, she can shove her non apology up her arse and lose your number.

You only got an “apology” because you challenged them. I can imagine them being mean behind your back- how unkind. I’m sorry OP - you need better friends.

What did making fun of your weight entail? What did they actually say?

They are not your friends.

Anyone who uses the word ‘banter’ should be put up against a wall and shot.

"Knowing how sensitive you can be, we shouldn't have said it really"

"How's this for sensitive? Take your "banter", shove it up your arse and fuck off out of my life, bitch".

"Banter" is people exchanging teasing but friendly remarks, not talking about someone behind their back. Trying to shift the blame onto you for being "too sensitive" makes it a non-apology. If she was really sorry she wouldn't have done either of those things.

If you don’t want to cut her off completely (and if she really was being unpleasant, not just saying something like "Crabsinthesea has put on weight, hasn’t she?") you could try telling her that the way she texted you shows she isn’t really sorry at all - but I can’t see it ending well after that.

Oh, please. 🙄

This...

It's not the person making an apology to you for what they said.

They're not in any way sorry that they offended you, more that they can't understand why you felt offended by what they said.

Could be seen as a double slap in the face to you.

Awful people
Raise the bar and get rid

This isn't how friends behave.

Laughing about the physical flaws of others is not banter.

I'd be telling her to shove her excuse for an apology right up her judgemental chuff and, as already stated by pp's, 'moving on' from the pair of bitchy cows.

Yep. It is worse than no apology. It makes people feel better that they have apologised. When they have actually done nothing of the sort.

Hard disagree.

Friends shouldn't do either.

It's judgemental and bitchy.

They are not friends, just nasty bitches
Turning it round on you, saying it's you being over sensitive is not an apology
" I'm happy to move on, with new friends" would do it

It’s not ‘banter’ if it’s done behind your back and you weren’t supposed to hear. That’s just bitching.

"Fuck you" is a whole sentence. They are not your friends. That is not how friends behave.

“Sorry you two have such a terrible sense of humour. I’m not sensitive, you’re out of order” kiss kiss love heart etc