To find this apology an absolute cheek

[Crabsinthesea]

Yesterday I heard my two friends making fun of my weight behind my back in a restaurant whilst I went to the toilet. I confronted them and they just said it was banter and I need to take a joke. I said I wasn’t happy and then there was an atmosphere until we went home shortly after. Then today I received this text.

So she’s blaming me for being sensitive and telling me to move on! What a cheek! A complete non apology and I’m even more fuming!

I think I can translate:
"Sorry you're so over-sensitive that you took offence. We don't like being made to feel uncomfortable by being challenged on what we say so can we leave it please."

Pair of cunts. As almost everyone else has said, not friends.

Yeah, that's not a real apology, just as this person is not a real friend. Sorry they've been so disappointing!

What a fucking cheek. They're accusing you of being oversensitive to cover the fact they're a pair of nasty bitches. Ditch them both.

''Happy to leave it'' is a good response.

This.

And then I'd have to wash my hands of these people if it was me. 'Sensitive'. F* them.

Delete and block. Never to be mentioned again!

Banter involves the person being bantered about. Sometimes there may be a grey area as to whether it's funny or not but they were talking behind your back! It is your decision when, or if, you want to accept an apology and when to move on.

She's a B1tch

Find women who build you up not pull you down. My life has changed since I got rid of friends like those.

I'm wondering this too, like to grade how bad I would feel.
I know any banter about weight is bad but.
To advise, I'd need to grade it - I think

You can either move on or drop them as friends. They do sound a bit nasty.

Great advice but it’s hard to to part of a girl group that’s not bitchy - I really really wish I could find friends who built me up. Love that for you that you have

Insert
"Being ugly, but I can lose weight, what can you do about your face"

😂

Absolutely this.

I'm sorry this happened to you, OP.

Id text back

a joke has a punch line

Oh my goodness! They are not your friends. I can't imagine ever commenting on a friend's weight or appearance. In a million years. And that is such a non apology! The comment about being sensitive is basically another insult. They've shown their true colours. Move on and don't waste your time on them.

They’re not nice people. I’d imagine this isn’t the first time they’ve done this, just the first time they’ve been caught. My very good friend is morbidly obese and I would never ever comment on her weight (unless she asked me, and she hasn’t) nor would I joke about it behind her back.

They are also blaming you for being sensitive and not taking the ‘joke’ which just adds to their obnoxious behaviour.

Why is she apologising for your feelings, instead of her own actions? Hardly an apology is it? A better one would be "I'm sorry I was offensive yesterday".

Had you have been at the table when they were making their comments, you would have to give information about what was actually said, before anyone could suggest whether you were being overly sensitive or not. However, unless they were saying something really innocuous, the fact they said it behind your back, does make it bad. Certainly not "banter", if you weren't in on the joke.

I wouldn't necessarily write them off, if this is a one-off type of thing with friends you've had a long time. But I would tell them that you were hurt that it was behind your back, and gauge where you go, based on their reaction x

Bitches. You're worth more than the pair of them combined

'Friends' do not take the piss out of each others weight. That's not an apology it's a copout. Give them a wide berth from now on @Crabsinthesea

Sorry to say but this woman is a shallow bitch, not your friend, just gently back off.

I'm not sure knowing what was said would be helpful. We all have different levels of what is acceptable "banter" and what is not. What may have upset the OP may not upset you, but the point is the OP WAS hurt by the comments so having them dismissed on here as "trivial" will not help IMO.

They want you to "leave it" for their own convenience and comfort. A proper apology doesn't come with more insults about the subject of their arseholery being sensitive and then a snarky request to let it drop.

They are cunts and definitely not your friends.

Also, inform them that a heart emoji doesn't make it better.

A non-apology really.

Former friends now, I hope.