I actually can’t stand chronically late people

[Cadela]

Time blindness is not a thing. I have adhd and uncontrolled epilepsy, I know how hard it is, but constantly being late is the most disrespectful thing I think people can do.

Having to tell someone something starts half an hour later so they may show up on time is ridiculous.

It actually isn’t hard. If you have an appointment or an event, PLAN. If you can’t make it on time, get up earlier.

Yes I’m snotty because I have a friend who has no disabilities and every single time we plan something has never made it at the right time. Drives me fucking potty.

Obviously your ADHD doesn't impact you in the same way it does others

Time blindness is a thing. Just because you don’t have it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist

Here we go again….

No it’s an excuse to be late and blame it on something else.

I’m sure someone with time blindness wouldn’t be late to their child’s wedding, or would manage to show up to a court hearing on time if the threat was being arrested.

Being late is so selfish, expecting other people to wait around because you can’t be bothered to plan ahead?

Have you ever been on time to something 😂

I have no problem with people who are chronically late.

Because I cut them out of my life once I'm aware that they have been late once too often.

"Punctuality is the courtesy of kings"

I agree with you OP

That's OK, I hate you too.

Sorry I don’t understand what you mean, unless you’re assuming that I’m often late because I’ve commented on the fact that there is at least one of these posts per week.

I definitely have time blindness which has gotten worse with age - but i now know that I have to allow an hour to get my shit together even though it only takes 40 minutes and I leave my house so much earlier than I need to, to account for things beyond my control on my journey.

I am a known faffer so I compensate to allow for this.

Why are you late then? It’s really not difficult to plan ahead, even with multiple disabilities like I have. Do you just not care about the people you are keeping waiting??? Please explain because it’s so fucking annoying

I’m sure some people do just use the excuse.

For others I think it’s genuine - perhaps not insurmountable but very difficult.

My ds has adhd and he doesn’t seem to notice time passing at all.

He’s 10 and obviously as a parent it’s my job to help him learn strategies but it’s very obviously different to the way others perceive time.

I hate hate hate people who are late. I have ADHD but have overcompensated and now have intense anxiety about lateness. I now get incredibly frustrated and wound up if people make me late for things in particular.

I arranged to meet a friend in the park with our DC a few weeks ago and after an hour after our agreed meeting time she was still texting saying she was running late and be there soon. She was just trying to get out of the house. I don't get it.

But now my DS has time keeping issues and ADHD and I cannot understand why he doesn't see the time?? But he clearly just cannot feel time or get worried about it in the same way I do. I'm desperately trying to teach him techniques so he's not 'that late person'.

My mum was late to recitals, my graduation.

She had zero ability to think “it will take 20 minutes to get there, it starts in 30 minutes I need to put my shoes and coat on to leave now”, she would think “I don’t need to leave this second so I have enough time to make a sandwich, change my outfit put some make up on”.

She didn’t think she would be late, she had no concept of how long things took.

Yeah I hate lateness too. I used to have friends who were always at least an hour late every time, so in the end I stopped organising things with them. I remember when I was young I made plans to see a friend at a pub. I was on time so I got a beer. She was late so I got another one. She was so ridiculously late I ended up getting hammered and going to a concert instead. 😂

I am pretty sure I have ADHD too but I'm always super early because I'm worried about being late. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hmm

So YABU for saying time blindness isn’t a thing. Just because you don’t suffer with something yourself doesn’t mean others can’t have it. There’s such a thing as a spectrum.

But at the same time YANBU because I had a best friend years ago who was constantly late basically because she was selfish and didn’t care about me waiting around for her. No disabilities, just rude and self centred. Was able to be on time for her boyfriend though - ha!

Myself and a few of my friends have become new mums around the same time. I am understanding of the fact it can be difficult to meet on the dot with a little one, so we are a bit more flexible.

I completely agree. We planned a BBQ 3 months in advance and one family decided to agree for their son to play a cricket game (completely voluntary game, non age group). Even I knew that a 40 over match that starts at 1pm takes 7 hours. The wife and one son were half hour late anyway, the father and other son rocked up 3 hours late. I had spent the day preparing food, the week thinking about what to have. I was fucking livid. The first and last time!

My dad is like that with the over compensating and getting really anxious about lateness.

I have this weird thing that I have had to train myself out of an anxiety about being too early. Like I have to convince myself it’s ok to leave a bit of extra time.

I have to set many, many alarms. Because an alarm goes off 5 mins before I'm meant to set off and I then forget. I burnt a bloody roast chicken last week because of my inability to keep track of time before an alarm has gone off. But even so I agree. I hate being late (I am occasionally) but try everything to manage it.

My uncle is chronically late and he was actually 45 minutes late to his daughter's wedding. So... Yeah some of them would be late to their child's wedding.

Ok so tomorrow I have to be at a science fair at a park at 11. I have to pick up DD’s friend for 10:30 and we live a 10 minute walk from theirs and then a 10 minute walk from the park.

I know I like to have an hour in the morning when I wake up before Dd gets up so I can have a coffee in the garden and get breakfast ready. Dd wakes up at 7:30/8.

So I set my alarm for 6, get up at 6:30. Have coffee, make breakfast get dd up. Have breakfast and then I shower at 8:30. Get dd ready, then I get dressed and do my makeup.

We are ready by 9:30. I know it takes 10 mins to walk to friend’s so we chill then until 10:10 and we leave. I know Dd likes to stop to look at leaves and snails so I allow extra time. Arrive at friends at 10:30. Get to park. Done.

IT IS NOT HARD

I’m often late to social events, most of my friends are similar and it doesn’t bother us. Life gets busy. I can plan for lots of things but life doesn’t always go to plan, sometimes there’s more traffic than normal, sometimes one of the kids needs a poo as we’re ready to leave the house. We always let the others know by call or text but we don’t kill ourselves to be at the exact time. Obviously we don’t take the piss and are not usually more than 15-30 mins late but we don’t get worked up about it. I think it’s one of those things that you all need to be on the same page about.

Glad it was the last time! What a fucking joke

I am very often late, yes including to important things! I also forget to get off the train frequently, forget to pay bills by thinking "oh I'll do that later.." and months pass and end up with court orders frequently etc. there is just something that no matter how hard I try I cannot seem to organise and plan ahead because in the moment the concept of time just doesn't seem to exist properly, if I needed to for example leave in 30 minutes, I'd know that, constantly remind myself of that, get distracted and get doing something else or thinking about something else and suddenly an hours has passed..
I don't have adhd though, but autism

Yep, I also find it very weird. I am always on time. AND I have 4 under 7.
i have never been late for anything.
Well, up until recently I haven’t….
i noticed people didn’t have the same attitude towards time keeping as me, so I’ve become
more laid back now.