Does anyone else's DH do this?

[McSteamyorMcdreamy]

Give you an update (invariably a bad one) about the kids when you are on an afternoon out with your friends?

Without fail. Every. Single. Time. I have been out for an hour and I have already had the text message to say that my youngest is playing up and "oh im in for a good night, hope you are enjoying yourself".

Why does he do it?? I now feel shit and feel compelled to go home.

Hope you're ok today @McSteamyorMcdreamy
Has he accused you of talking to other men while you were out ?
Because this is what abusers do
They assume you will behave like they will while out, hence the accusation.
It's all to make you stay at home in future as it will be less bother for you.

This is worrying.
As I say, hope you are ok today.

He would only update me if he went to A&E.

Red flags waving. He is controlling you

Just the odd text or pic, I do the same. X

My ex used to do that, along with many other cuntish behaviours. He didn’t want you to go out, and because you didn’t go home early, he’s turned nasty when you did get home.
OP, there is no way this is the first time he’s been a cunt like this, I’d guarantee he’s a controlling twat, who has you walking on eggshells all the time.
Sorry to say, but it only gets worse with men like this.

That's disgusting behaviour I hope you didn't end up apologising! Hope you're ok

I have a friend whose husband does this- at least 2-3 calls or messages every time she goes out. And if he has to get back home to take over so she can go out, he’s always, always late. It’s because he thinks he is doing her a huge favour “babysitting” their children, and taking over her job for a bit, so if he doesn’t quite do all of it, it’s still a huge favour she should be grateful for. And the reason he thinks this is because he didn’t want children, and felt he was doing her a huge favour there donating his sperm- so in his head even that bit was going above and beyond the call of duty.

Hope you ok,

Probably not the only things he does…I would have a regular girlsnight from now on so that his featuring is more permanent. Afterall, he is part of the cast lead! Men! Well, some Men!🤦🏼‍♀️

@McSteamyorMcdreamy please post back on here- I know my reply, amongst many, sounded a little glib for what is potentially a fraught situation, I know others are also hoping you are alright and safe.

He does.it to be a PITA and make it ruin your time.out
My SIL always did it if my brother visited on his own..would call with some disaster.or other.
:(

Hes disgusting!

id text back “gutted” 😂😂😂
I would honestly laugh it off with him. Once he knows you’re not going home from his text he will stop.

Send a photo back you having a drink saying we are too!!! And enjoy you evening

He's the one who's disgusting! Leave him. In a healthy loving relationship you want your partner to have a lovely time when they have a rare night out with friends!

Yes my ex used to, just to ruin my night and it usually worked. Twat.

Mine used to.
Then today, when dd captained her cricket team and took 3 wickets he didn't. I'd have like to have known. She told me when I got in.

What are you still with this awful person? That's a disgusting way to speak to someone and you shouldn't tolerate it. Does he speak to you like that in front of your children? Are you happy for your children to grow up thinking this is an acceptable way to speak to a loved in?

He needs to go, you deserve better.

Barely spoke to me. Even when he did it was one word sentences. We were already planned to go out with SIL and family today.......SILs comment was, if you decide to leave him you have our full support.

He has been very wrapped up in cotton wool since he was a teenager. SIL resents him massively.

I kind of knew that before I married him, but was worried I was getting on a bit..did I settle...probably, but I wouldnt have my DDs if I hadn't.

I am in no way shape or form in a financial position to be leaving, despite being the higher earner (think he has a problem with that too), but then ive stuck at my job for 20 years, whereas he does 5 years and he strops when he's told off because his parents have told him that he's absolutely wonderful and he should stomp his feet and strop when he doesn't get his own way.

His parents massively facilitated his behaviour and have done so into his 40's.

He is your typical man child.

Arghghhh!!! I need to go.......need a little lottery win quite soon.

Thank you all for your messages. Really do appreciate it xx

He sounds repulsive.

God help you and your children saddled with such a nasty pig for a father.
It may take time, but you can do it....for your children.

Mine does because I enjoy little updates and photos. Then again if they were difficult or playing up (as they often are), it wouldn't occur to me to feel bad or go home! Are you supposed to?!

I also message him throughout the day with little updates or photos about my day or what the children are doing - good or bad.

Only you know whether your partner is doing it to be manipulative or not. If he is, it's obviously not on. Maybe he literally just doesn't realise?

Thankyou. No, nothing like that. Last night was an evening in our local.

Without blowing my own trumpet I am quite popular in our pub. I am very sociable, friendly and (have been told) a very warm person to be around. I have quite a few friends. DH has possibly one or 2 that he would socialise with on a regular basis.

We are poles apart in terms of personality. He will sit there looking like he's chewed a wasp- constantly frowning..almost like a pout. I give anyone I know as soon as they walk in a kiss.

Literally signing my own divorce papers really at the moment. Why am I with this man??

Next time he goes out message him every 20 minutes see how soon he gets fed up

Lots of good replies on here. I’ll add the Boy Who Cried Wolf.
He shouldn’t do it because one night one of the kids might actually really be in a bad way - in A&E having stitches or something and you might not pick up because you’re sick of his stupid messages.

No - my husband would only tell me something if I absolutely needed to know. I’ve been out before and one of the kids has become unwell (not serious) and he deliberately didn’t tell me anything to until morning as it would have ruined my night