Does anyone else's DH do this?

[McSteamyorMcdreamy]

Give you an update (invariably a bad one) about the kids when you are on an afternoon out with your friends?

Without fail. Every. Single. Time. I have been out for an hour and I have already had the text message to say that my youngest is playing up and "oh im in for a good night, hope you are enjoying yourself".

Why does he do it?? I now feel shit and feel compelled to go home.

YABU to be checking your phone. Tell him next time that you can't see texts because you're not on your phone but in a real emergency he can call.

He called you disgusting? I hope you haven’t got to a point where you can’t see how horrific that is.

Next time, text him back, "Welcome to my world. Enjoy!".
I now see a PP said the same thing. Like minds think great. 🙃

Edited to also add: Calling you disgusting is way, way over the line. Please don't let him get away with that kind of degrading comment. Is he like this often?

He's a equal parent of course it's his job to
manage the kids when your not there. If I receive a text like that I would have said 'oh no! Hope bedtime goes quick! '

Why would he tell you, you are disgusting ?
What a horrible thing to say.

Oh and it's definitely Mcsteamy!!

Respond back "and? You are their parent too, so deal with it. Phone now going off."

Just read your update. What an absolute cunt!

He texts you cos its all about him. Set him straight. If he doesn't listen, split.

Wake up OP you are in a controlling abusive relationship.

Call Womens aid for support and advice.
This is a bad man.
He is punishing you for going out.
Coercive control.....which is now a crime!

Look it up.

He sounds like a fucking arsehole. Was he like this before parenthood?

What the fuck?

What does he think you are? His servant? A domestic appliance that is not permitted to do anything other than drudge work in the home?

Is he aware that he too is a parent with parenting responsibilities?

I would go on immediate wife strike, stop doing anything for him, and seriously consider what I want my future to hold.

What a complete and utter arsehole.

It's just a guilt trip. Ignore him

What's happened today? Hope you stood your ground and called him the prick he is

Hopefully the morning involved you starting to think about leaving him.

Who the fuck calls their partner disgusting?

For comparison, DP went out yesterday afternoon with all her friends. I spent an hour at 2pm picking them all up and taking them to the pub, and then picked them all up again at 2am and took them home. This morning I popped down to Mcdonalds to pick up breakfast so that she could soak up the excess alcohol with some stodge.

DD is 16 so I didn't have to do any childcare, but when she was little I shared parenting equally. If DP was out, there was no difficulty putting DD to bed because me putting DD to bed was a bi-nightly occurrence.

That is what you should be expecting from your husband. If that's not happening, start questioning why he's still your husband.

Well OP he sounds like an asshole.
I'm sure your BF has told you that too.

Well, obviously his first text didn’t have the desired effect so he’s upped the ante with the ‘disgusting’ comment.

He really is being a complete twat.

He doesn't want you to go out because it means he actually has to be a parent. He also want you world to be small with him at the centre. He's a selfish controlling prick.

Did you get the silent, petty treatment today op?

YaBU for going home..I would just answer 'welcome to my world' and enjoy your afternoon/evening. You're just being a mug to let him manipulate you like this.

So now you know what he's up to, I hope you'll make plans to head out and leave him to parent on a weekly basis.

Also, I hope you'll start envisioning life without him.

Mine does this and I have now explicitly asked him to stop. I don’t want to know anything bad while I’m away unless he makes the call it’s so bad I need to come home (they are very unwell, broken bone etc.) I don’t want to know about bad behaviour etc.! I really don’t think my husband did it to guilt trip me, but I don’t think he realised how negatively it impacted my time away.

What should happen is that you tell him it is pathetic that he has an inability to father his children for an hour without texting you to complain about his shit and unfair it all is. It’s also unacceptable to tell you that you’re ‘disgusting’ for leaving him with his own children. Ask him how his family and friends would view him as a father and partner if they knew this is how he tries to manipulate you.

😂😂😂 I’d reply with ‘I feel your pain, good luck, see you later’ and carry on regardless. He is their father and, as such, should be pulling his fair share of the load!

Quote: "Why does he do it??"

This is why he does it............

Quote: "I now feel shit and feel compelled to go home."

Let me guess...he's the type of dad who you have to ask to "babysit" his own kids?
Boils my piss! Hope you had a great time 😊