Does anyone else's DH do this?

[McSteamyorMcdreamy]

Give you an update (invariably a bad one) about the kids when you are on an afternoon out with your friends?

Without fail. Every. Single. Time. I have been out for an hour and I have already had the text message to say that my youngest is playing up and "oh im in for a good night, hope you are enjoying yourself".

Why does he do it?? I now feel shit and feel compelled to go home.

So.....it's 23.42... I responded with: "Oh well" I then got a phone call telling me that he wouldn't go to sleep until I got in, because he wanted to make sure I was home safe.

I am home safe now. Just getting a glass of water and he walks in the kitchen, tells me I'm disgusting and walks back in the bedroom.

Let's see what happens in the morning,🙄

Just respond “thats nice for you, welcome to my world!”

Just getting a glass of water and he walks in the kitchen, tells me I'm disgusting and walks back in the bedroom.

😮 Yep, he really wanted to ruin your night. Don't respond as he's spoiling for a fight and it won't end well. Go to bed, get some decent sleep and tackle his bad behaviour tomorrow.

Good advice. Hope you're ok Op. Stay safe.

He sounds dreadful and controlling, sorry you're having to deal with this.

I mean that’s not a casual eye roll situation. That’s a you should leave one

I don't know how you know this, sure I would tell him to stop but if a women did this I would say the same to her

I wonder if people who come up with definite back stories to explain someone's behaviour of someone they don't know has major issues going on with their own behaviour

I think you have a dp problem.

Obviously, everyone's relationship is different - so, please don't take this as a criticism.
But, I can't imagine messaging my husband when he's out to ask him if he's "having a good night"?

That feels slightly 'off' to me.
If DH messaged me to ask if I was having a good night, then followed it up with moaning and crying face emojis, I'd be pretty unimpressed.

When he goes out, I hold the fort at home. When I go out, I fully expect the same in return.
If there's some sort of emergency, we would get in touch with each other - but, otherwise, no news is good news.

We can enquire about each other's enjoyment of the night the following morning.

She was correct. Read the update:

So.....it's 23.42... I responded with: "Oh well" I then got a phone call telling me that he wouldn't go to sleep until I got in, because he wanted to make sure I was home safe.

I am home safe now. Just getting a glass of water and he walks in the kitchen, tells me I'm disgusting and walks back in the bedroom.

Let's see what happens in the morning,🙄

He absolutely wanted to guilt her into coming home and is furious that he failed, so now he’s spoiling for a fight by slinging insults at her.

I have done that to dh in the past when I was in the midst of depression and anxiety. I apologised and got help and now we are fine. I catch myself feeling like I could ring or text him sometimes, to make him feel guilty for having a life (that he bends to fit around mine and ours), but I stop myself.

This is not an eye-roll situation. He's an abusive, manipulative fuckwit, and he's furious that you didn't go home when he wanted you to.

I'd leave him over this.

Agree. Speak to a solicitor. Life shouldn't be like this.

What a childish, helpless little baby text to send you. He can bloody well grow up and be a parent.

Oh wow. Just read the update. Nah, he’s the one who it’s disgusting. I would not stay with a twerp like this.

HE sounds disgusting!

Hope you had some sleep and can think about whether you want to be with someone who makes you feel like this, it's not ok

OP I hope you’re ok. This is controlling and manipulative. Youre not unreasonable and his behaviour isn’t ok.

Tell him ‘suck it up buttercup!’ He’s the disgusting one. Go get some sleep. He only stayed awake to berate you. He doesn’t k ow how to handle the dc is his problem. Just shows how incompetent he is.

Wtf, thats completely unacceptable, he’s awful

Every single time the kids acted up I'd text him. Even if he's in work. He doesn't sound very nice. I'd be planning my getaway

He's another one who thinks he's doing you a favour by looking after his own DC, tell him straight, he is their DF and should be able to look after his own children. You can bet your life if you left he'd soon be shouting about his right to see his kids.

I wouldn't have batted an eyelid at the first message.

OP's update was showing his shitty behaviour for sure. What a prick.

I would turn my phone off!(Actually have done this due to similar"Oh sorry to worry you,cant find Teddy/Those biscuits she likes/she just wanted to say goodnight) Or do it back to him. Men are able to parent ,they just dont want to!

And I bet HE never goes out with his friends and leaves you at home looking after the children?!