DH ‘quick drink’ after work

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Would this annoy you? DH goes for a ‘quick drink’ after work meaning he doesn’t get home until gone 9pm. We have a newborn and a toddler and the days at home are so long I’m not sure if this is making me irrationally angry when I see his text! It’s once every couple of weeks but really messes up dinner plans etc too.

My ex husband went out on an all day session shortly after I gave birth…. Our DD never slept, I was struggling, tired, trying to adjust… I was so upset when he practically fell through the door early hours of the morning, passed out and spent most of the next day sleeping it off too…..
I think an occasional night out is fine… but if I were you I would also ‘pop out’… get yourself ready so that when he comes in from work you can say ‘I’m popping out for a quick drink with friends’… tell him he needs to get himself tea and to put the kids to bed… then go!! …. Don’t get home till 9 & have a fab night!!
He needs to pull his weight as much as you also need a night out!!

I’ve just read this. The only way to make them understand is to leave them with the baby, then take an extra hour after you’ve said, then say you do that to me all the time, only I’ve been up with baby since 5am instead of you’ve done 2 hours of parenting, and I’ve done housework and cooked, while you’ve done none of that, and you’re gone much more than an extra hour. If it’s fair for you to do that, then I will need you to provide much more r&r on the weekend by parenting and doing housework as I don’t get any pub downtime.