Furious with DD's swimwear

[FFSTeenagers]

Someone talk me down please!

On holiday with elderly parents and elderly in-laws - wonderful people. 15 yr old DD has emerged from her room to go to the pool in 5he smallest of bikinis. I can almost see her vagina.

I feel fucking ancient saying this. I hate myself for even feeling like this but she has zero modesty.

I bought her 3 bikinis (together - we went together) from Roxy and Next - lovely ones. Not one has arrived and instead she has bought, without my knowledge, 4 from shein that are not for her curvy build. Barely any material and I'm really embarrassed.

Confronting her has gone downhill rapidly and she's claiming that I'm hardly a feminist as 'she should be able to wear what she likes as it's her body'. She's not bloody wrong but what the hell happened to my daughter's modesty.

My parents and in-laws are sensing the atmosphere already and we only arrived an hour ago.

AIBU?

er, this is fucking weird. He won't sit by the pool.... so he doesn't look at her? It's pretty easy to not look - I'm in a room with a cat right now and I'm just... not looking at it.
If your dad feels unable to not look at your 15 year old in a bikini you've got a bigger problem than swimwear!

To be fair, even the Shein website doesn't show its skimpiest bikinis on models in the photos. Wonder why!

I really hope she doesn't try to swim in a Shein bikini. It'll slip off or snap. If it's skimpier than a normal bikini then she'll expose herself. I'm a size 4-6 and have curves so ignore the posters who think thin women and teens can't have curves. I also don't think it's right for children to wear bikinis that barely cover their nipples and vulva. I'm in my 20s so I'm not ancient!

Sounds like he's embarrassed to be around a nearly naked child who is way too old to be that undressed in public

What a wonderful way to ensure your daughter goes NC with you the very minute she moves out. How awful.

Surly op is talking about something more like this.

I have teenage girls and I just let them get on with their choices, good or bad, that's what being a teen is about.

Now you've made a massive drama out of something that didn't need to be dramatic at all.

Family not going near the pool, suggesting that your size 6 daughter is too curvy for this bikini, and creating such a big deal about it will taint your whole holiday now.

You should have just said nothing and, if there's a shop nearby tell her that she would look lovely in a bikini that you spot there, and she would have probably worn it when she didn't get a reaction.

Don't you remember being a teen op?

Apart from the need to brush up on your anatomy, OP, I feel for you, and I think yanbu 😊

Are you saying she's fat?

I'd have worn similar at her age but not around parents etc only with my friends.

She should have more respect for her Grandparents.

Read the OP's posts at least. She's a size 6.

Sadly the world is not yet at the stage where a young girl, or any female, can go out wearing next to nothing safely.

FFS

A micro bikini so like this..

Depending on her bust for her size 6 frame yeah they might be more boob on show than the models but it’s a pretty standard bikini these days.

One of the first results I get on Shein.

100% this! Swan around with your butt cheeks out and watch her die of embarrassment.

It depends how skimpy? Can you link op. Lots on shein are normal bikinis.
But from description it may be more like this? Mine is slightly older but I’d not be ok with her on a family holiday in this style of bikini.

Leave her to it I say, rebelling with clothes is part of being a teenager. I think you've made way too much drama and ruined the start of your holiday!
Why doesn't your Dad want to sit by the pool? Why does that make him a sweetheart?

Yeah, you really don't know where the vagina is...

I'd brush up a bit, if I was you.

Idk I'm kind of ok with humans wearing clothes

If she's in something like that I'm betting she'll regret it almost immediately, it will not stay on in the water!

https://www.shein.co.uk/SHEIN-Swim-SXY-Metallic-Bikini-Set-Micro-Triangle-Bra-O-ring-Linked-Thong-2-Piece-Swimsuit-p-12592977.html

If it's something like this it's no wonder her poor grandad doesn't know where to look...however bolshy she is, surely she's embarrassed that she's embarrassed him to the point he won't sit out by the pool on his holiday?

This isn't anything to do with her size or shape, it's about respect for other people...

My SIL went to Turkey when she was 14. Wore next to nothing on the beach. The leering men and vile things they said made her a) never want to go to Turkey every again, b) put on a t shirt to cover up.

15 is a child,
Doest matter how body confident she is she's a child
She's thrown a strop, she's a child
You are not a feminist? She's a child
Parent her it's not appropriate

If they were Scandinavian she'd be starkers, as would the op ,the in-laws and the grandparents.
I'd be mostly concerned about the ethics of shopping on Shein and also the probability of thrush from a chesp thong 🤢