Husband thinks boob job using inheritance is dumb

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I received a small inheritance from my grandmother. Dh and I have agreed a couple things it will go on ( mutually beneficial). With the remainder I said I will look into getting a breast lift. Dh has stated how much a waste he thinks this is but equally said it’s your money.

For context, I like my boobs but ONLY when they are in a bra (so that’s why dh considers it a waste). I’m 130 pounds but wear a 32 e. I just hate the way they hang. But it is easily solved by wearing bras. So I do kind of see the point. With the size of my boobs it’s not like I could wear a tight top and go braless. That’s not the goal.

I’m 31 and just want to love my entire body I guess. DH suggested I go to Turkey but I would rather stick to a UK surgeon.

We are not in debt and own our house. Of course there are loads of things that the money could go on.

Is it silly? I guess I am concerned my judgement is clouded and I am being controlled to a certain extent by an insecurity.

Even when I’m schlobbing around the house 9/10 I will put on a bra as I feel uncomfortable in my body.

I'd just wear a bra. Seems mad to me to risk your health instead but like he said it's your money.
Money would be better spent on therapy imo to accept yourself as is.
Also do you plan on having children at all because they'll change again from pregnancy.

He's right. Invest in a few counselling sessions instead.

If I had the money I'd do it in a heartbeat

Is it a dumb thing to spend money on? Yes

are you putting yourself at risk for vanity? Yes

is it entirely your right to do it anyway? Yes

It sounds like your husband expressed his opinion and left you to proceed as you wish. You just have to own your decision.

It’s your money so you can spend it how you want. If you can honestly say from the bottom of your heart that there’s nothing that you want more than a breast lift then get that. If you’re not sure maybe wait a bit and see how you feel in a few months?

How would you feel if your husband gets some money one day and wants to spend it on something that you consider to be a waste?

Whatever you decide to do don't travel to Turkey to get it done just because it's cheaper. If you end up with complications you might end up stuck there. Better to research a decent surgeon in the UK.

they will just continue to sag for the rest of your life :) I would spend on a nice holiday instead

If you like them in a bra anyway I wouldn’t waste the money. I wear a bra all the time when i’m dressed, assumed most people did. But it’s your money up to you.

If it makes you happy, do it. It doesn't matter what other people think. Your money, your body, your choice ultimately.

You are 31. Wait until you are in your 40s because it only gets worse, especially if you aren’t done having children.

You only own your home if you have paid off the mortgage entirely. I would put all money on the house and save up to have a mummy makeover after you are finished having children. It’s not cheap to do it well.

Do you have children? Do you want children? Boobs sag with pregnancy. In fact, boobs sag anyway. That's what real boobs look like.

Invest in your emotional health with that money.

YANBU.
I could have laser eye surgery, but instead could wear my contacts or glasses all day long.
I'd still rather have the surgery!

Ok, so it's not exactly the same thing. But if it helps you to feel good about yourself, go for it.

I think you can get a lift and implants but not just a lift?

to everyone saying wait till you older, they already look pretty saggy. Genuinely similar to what I have indicated in image attached. And they’ve pretty much looked like this since early 20s

I had an uplift and implants 7 years ago at 37 after 2 kids and it was the best thing I did. I hated looking at them and would wear sports bras in bed. I am so much more confident and happy in my body.
Mine were done in the UK. I wouldn't recommend abroad.

Your money, your choice. There will be wildly different opinions on here about this - I am always of the view if you have the money and it makes you feel good about yourself, go for it

I got my boobs done as they were incredibly asymmetrical.

It is hands down the best money I have ever spent on myself.

10 years later I adore them, how I look in clothes and I feel so confident with them naked (tummy is another story lol).

I fully believe that if it will improve your quality of life, you should do it.

People say "oh just wear a bra" or "get therapy"...

But actually, why not do something for yourself and your body!?

People also have weird ideas about breast lifts and implants. They think that they all look like the TOWIE girls.

Mine look so natural that my husband thought I was taking the piss when I told him they were fake and so have several friends.

I agree with your DH about boob jobs. Particularly at your age. They are dangerous and pretty pointless.

That said it’s your money and ultimately you spend it on what you want.

It's absolutely your choice. But for him to suggest you save money by going to Turkey is awful. His objections clearly aren't about your safety, so crack on and do what you want.

If you’ve not had children yet then it’s a complete waste of money as they’ll change anyway.

I had surgery for something I hated 4 years ago. Like some posters on here I had people telling me it was crazy/vain/risky/too drastic.
I love it! Wish I’d had the money to do it earlier, it’s genuinely improved my life.

Your money, your body, spend it on what you like. However a word of caution that in a few years you'll look at your rear view in a full length mirror and may find that your once perky arse has slid half way down the back of your thighs and you have jowls on your neck that remind you of Winston Churchill.

I'm mot sure that loving your entire body is possible unless you decide it with your head, rather than surgeons knives and repeated visits. At some point you have to accept it, you can't keep ahead of it.