Husband thinks boob job using inheritance is dumb

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I received a small inheritance from my grandmother. Dh and I have agreed a couple things it will go on ( mutually beneficial). With the remainder I said I will look into getting a breast lift. Dh has stated how much a waste he thinks this is but equally said it’s your money.

For context, I like my boobs but ONLY when they are in a bra (so that’s why dh considers it a waste). I’m 130 pounds but wear a 32 e. I just hate the way they hang. But it is easily solved by wearing bras. So I do kind of see the point. With the size of my boobs it’s not like I could wear a tight top and go braless. That’s not the goal.

I’m 31 and just want to love my entire body I guess. DH suggested I go to Turkey but I would rather stick to a UK surgeon.

We are not in debt and own our house. Of course there are loads of things that the money could go on.

Is it silly? I guess I am concerned my judgement is clouded and I am being controlled to a certain extent by an insecurity.

Agree. I had implants 18 years ago. Still fine. I asked the surgeon about it at the time.

Going against the grain. A friend had a breast lift and she’s delighted with results and how she feels. I say go for it

I can see both sides. I’m not against surgery (I’m having a tummy tuck next month and my boobs are also really saggy, but decided against it on the grounds I can wear bras and I don’t want scarred breasts) but it is a lot of money you could spend on something much better. But it is your money, not his!

How long have you wanted this done?

You are a childless couple, with 2 incomes and no debt and so something like this was not unachievable before you had the inheritance.

So I’m wondering why you would consider it now.

Is it a case of you’ve always wanted it done and had been saving up for it or even seriously looking into it and the repayment plans etc?

Or is it something you would have liked done but never seriously considered it until you’ve got this money?

If it’s the second one, then I think it would be wise to wait 6 months and then if you still want it done, take another 6 months to do some proper research etc.

I think if this is something you desperately want done, then you should go for it.

It doesn’t matter if it’s for purely cosmetic reasons because it’s your body and you should be happy in it.

But I do think that if you genuinely wanted this done you would have already been saving for it.

Yes I probably am a bit closer to 30 e. But I like to go slightly looser as I get extremely sweaty and have had fungal infections under the boob in the past when there is too much contact between skin and bra material.

I haven't read the full thread but I'd do it in a heartbeat if I had the money, chin, boobs, belly and bingo wings.

I do agree with staying in the UK for it and as long as you do your research, I don't see the problem.

I mean...financially, I would be thinking, "he's not wrong". A vanity spend isn't going to feed you in hard times.

I would read alot of accounts of people that have had it done. I have about three friends who have had it done. 2 of them have told me at times that sometimes they consider having them removed.

Ultimately it is a lot of money. I think it's your money and if it will make you feel good about yourself do it, but considering that your breasts look good in a bra so you don't feel self concious as you go about your day, and your husband thinks they are hot and you don't need it doing, then I would question whether it's really worth the money. Only you can really decide that. If you want them done though and you are sure, then do it for sure 🙂

Op without more financial context it's hard to say.
Are you both loaded? V good salary?
Do you want to move house?

Have you got good savings/investments?

I can't see how it's possible to answer without context, forgive me if I've missed that

Also we don't kmow how much you got

It's your money, go for it I say.
I had my boobs enlarged and it's made my life much happier, you are the only person to know how you feel about your body.
Please do your research and find a good surgeon in the uk.
You will need a reduction and lift which will involve quite a bit of scarring. are you happy to have the scarring for smaller most perkier boobs?

I look shit naked. I'm not some amazing perky 19 year old. Personally though I know nothing will change that, and looks mean nothing really in the long term. Money however is what will help us survive, and if I had that kind of spare money, personally I would invest/save/whatever.

Implants don't need changing every 10 years but they don't last a lifetime. I'd go for a lift and reduction OP, not implants, if you think it's going to make you happier. Just be aware of the healing time and what can go wrong an don't go abroad.

If you are self conscious about them when not wearing a bra, will you be self conscious about the scarring?

So strange I’m in the exact( down to the weight and current breast size) same situation, have inherited a rather large (to us) sum of money, have done some stuff around the house and I’ve put £10k aside for a breast lift and reduction, can’t get it done yet as only recently stopped breastfeeding, waiting patiently for my milk to completely dry up. The difference is my husband is totally in agreement, and has said he will take 2 weeks off work to do all childcare and housework to allow me to recover, he looks at it As a thank you for 2 pregnancies, 1 traumatic labour, vontous, forceps, failed epidural, spinal, c section and recovery and years of breastfeeding. It’s your money and your body, do what you want but obviously it would be nice for your husband to support you.

What anyone else says doesn’t matter, if you want to do it, do it! I spent inheritance on a surgery some might consider stupid but honest to god, best money I ever spent!! No regrets!

It's your money and your body. Everybody I know who has had a reduction says it's the best thing they've ever done.

I had a lift and implants out and so you don't need implants if you had a lift. Cost about £7k and is fab to be able to wear strappy tops or nice bikinis and go braless.

You can have a reduction and lift, you'll have a scar around nipple, down front then under crease. You might not need a reduction, depending on volume of breasts. It might just be skin they take away.

If it'll make you happy do it x

If you’re not wanting to have children (if you were then I would definitely wait til after) and you have the money then 100% go for it!
I had very large boobs for my size, they sagged from mid 20s and after having 3 kids they had zero volume to them.
I had a breast reduction/lift and it’s changed my life! I no longer need to plan my wardrobe around what tops will fit the boobs. I don’t even think about the dreaded boob sweat anymore. I can wear a comfort bra outside of the house. My boobs are in proportion to my body, and it feels amazing!

Definitely don’t go abroad, choose your surgeon very carefully. I went to one guy and he spent 5 minutes with me and was really uninterested.
The surgeon I went for spent ages talking to me about my options to help with my decision and was really interested in how I felt it would change things for me and my life. He’s a really lovely man and a fantastic surgeon, I couldn’t be happier with my results.

No way would I part with money on a boob job be happy with what you have.

op im 34hh and my boobs sag so much
i have got kids though but like you they have been the sense laye teens early 20s

I would eat my arm for a boob job

It's your inheritance. I think you should use a small portion on something that you want. It doesn't matter if DH thinks it's wasteful. It's your money. You've used some on family stuff. Don't go to Turkey. It's not worth risking your health to save a few quid.

During menopause boobs tend to get bigger. If you have yours done now, you may have to have them done in your fifties/sixties. If they are making you miserable I would get them done now

If it will make you feel more comfortable, then you should have it done. It's not like you're wanting to get massive porn star fake tits. It's your inheritance to do with as you wish. Mumsnet is pretty anti - plastic surgery so you're probably not going to get many supportive comments here. I used inheritance from my grandmother to get a nose job and I don't regret it at all, best purchase I've ever made frankly.

If I come into money I'd have a gastric bypass after a lifetime of weight issues.