Husband thinks boob job using inheritance is dumb

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I received a small inheritance from my grandmother. Dh and I have agreed a couple things it will go on ( mutually beneficial). With the remainder I said I will look into getting a breast lift. Dh has stated how much a waste he thinks this is but equally said it’s your money.

For context, I like my boobs but ONLY when they are in a bra (so that’s why dh considers it a waste). I’m 130 pounds but wear a 32 e. I just hate the way they hang. But it is easily solved by wearing bras. So I do kind of see the point. With the size of my boobs it’s not like I could wear a tight top and go braless. That’s not the goal.

I’m 31 and just want to love my entire body I guess. DH suggested I go to Turkey but I would rather stick to a UK surgeon.

We are not in debt and own our house. Of course there are loads of things that the money could go on.

Is it silly? I guess I am concerned my judgement is clouded and I am being controlled to a certain extent by an insecurity.

It's your money and your body. If you want to because it will make you feel better about yourself, then you absolutely should.

I agree with a PP, some people don't realise how natural they can look, they all seem to assume huge porn style boobs.

Don't go abroad, though. Find a good surgeon in the UK.

Are you finished having children (assuming you want them)? That process would drastically change your shape so I'd at least want to wait til then. I mean, if you really want to crack on. I've entered an era of self acceptance (weight, height, 'success') so although something like that might be something I'd have wanted in the past, I'm not bothered now. Counselling sounds condescending but something to consider.

I don’t believe it is the case that you need to get implants for a lift.

He’s right. But your money. I’m a 32dd and can’t see anything wrong with my breasts. I wouldn’t want scars underneath and around my nipples, that’s for sure.

I would do it if it'll make you happy, however if you plan to have any kids I'd wait until after. A lift does leave scarring.

Your money so your decision. I'd absolutely jump at the chance of having a boob job. Big boobs on a small frame (especially saggy ones) are an absolute killer on your back and it'll only get worse as you age.

I haven’t had kids and don’t want them due to trauma (have been pregnant in the past but only for a short time)

I’m with you OP. Slightly different in that I’m having a reduction and lift, but also using an inheritance from my grandmother to fund it! Surgery in August :) go for it!

In that case I would do it if you've done your research. You've shared it with your husband already but it's fair to do something for yourself with it too.

I think its ridiculous and a waste of money but its neither my boobs nor my money
If you do go ahead please do it safely

If you don’t want kids, and genuinely believe this will make you happy, then do it. It’s not necessarily a risk I would take but you know how you feel etc.

I had a breast enhancement around 14 years ago and I still say it's one of the best things I ever did. As long as you're doing it purely for yourself, which it sounds like you are, I'd go ahead with a reputable UK surgeon.

Only thing I'd say is make sure you're done having kids first.

I would do it in a heartbeat if I wasn’t so scared of the surgery!

I’ve always hated the size of my breasts - like you OP, they look ok in a bra but other wise not.

its your money so spend it on yourself. There are fellow mmnetters who’ve had it done - there is a thread on it in AMA I think, worth a read if you’re serious

This!

I think it's fine to want to do something for yourself. DH doesn't have to live with your boobs, you do.

Just don't go to Turkey. Please. Stick to the UK. Your DH is the dumb one for suggesting Turkey.

Totally with OP. I had my whole life of people, including strangers, merrily telling me I looked tired daily. Got my massive eye bags removed at 30 and never regretted it. I actually like my face now. You only get one life. I would love to have my massive boobs reduced as well but it just seems a bit complicated and I'm over 50 now so not worth it any more. Wish I'd had them done at 30 as well!

Your husband thinks it's a waste. Not for the right reasons clearly, if you say he suggested going to Turkey. So he's not concerned about your health and safety, only on how much it would cost?!
Definitely think hard and choose a BAAPS registered surgeon with plenty of experience and genuine good reviews. Do not go to a cut price clinic in another country. It's simply not worth the risk. It sounds like it could benefit you in terms of back pain later in life, so it's not just purely for aesthetic reasons. As far as I can tell?
Don't rush into it by any means, but don't let your husband put you off or make you do it on the cheap.

He is probably worried because it's major surgery. If it's really affecting your life and mental health then it's a good plan but have it done here.

I’m 51 and I would love a boob job as I’m pretty flat chested . I would go for it , but as others have said don’t go to turkey.

It's your choice of course and it sounds as if your husband is happy for you to make it.
He clearly thinks it is not a good use of money hence the Turkey suggestion.
It isn't /wasn't something that I would ever have wanted.

Coincidentally, I’m about to come into an inheritance too, and top of my bucket list is a decent car, a two week trip to Bliss Sanctuary in Bali flying business class, and a breast reduction. Mine are 36JJ and I absolutely hate them. I say go for it, but PLEASE don’t even consider going to Turkey. Stick with a UK surgeon. I’ve read/heard about so many horror stories ☹️

Have you had kids yet? If you have not and plan on having kids don't bother as they will hang again.

I had a breast reduction last year, it's basically the same thing. My boobs have been stitched into an entirely new shape, which I absolutely love.

My nipples don't look the same and they never will but it's the best thing ever, recovery notwithstanding. It is tough, don't underestimate it.

I paid 8k, Scotland.

My boobs mean I can’t be as carefree as I like. We were on holiday once and I was so self conscious as I was the only female in the friend group who did nt go nude in the sauna. Maybe I would like to do that!

Are you particularly short?

As your weight seems ok if you are average but if you were only 5' it might be high. Just thinking losing weight might make boobs smaller.
(As im heavier now despite them being at least DD got even bigger)
I wouldnt bother lifting as most people with c+ would have to wear a bra generally.

It is a waste of money. Could you put the inheritsnce in a savings account and use some of the interest in a few years?