Husband thinks boob job using inheritance is dumb

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I received a small inheritance from my grandmother. Dh and I have agreed a couple things it will go on ( mutually beneficial). With the remainder I said I will look into getting a breast lift. Dh has stated how much a waste he thinks this is but equally said it’s your money.

For context, I like my boobs but ONLY when they are in a bra (so that’s why dh considers it a waste). I’m 130 pounds but wear a 32 e. I just hate the way they hang. But it is easily solved by wearing bras. So I do kind of see the point. With the size of my boobs it’s not like I could wear a tight top and go braless. That’s not the goal.

I’m 31 and just want to love my entire body I guess. DH suggested I go to Turkey but I would rather stick to a UK surgeon.

We are not in debt and own our house. Of course there are loads of things that the money could go on.

Is it silly? I guess I am concerned my judgement is clouded and I am being controlled to a certain extent by an insecurity.

Don't go to Turkey, definitely get it done in the UK.
I wouldn't care about the money especially as you have it and if the surgery would make you feel better then go for it.
My main concern would be safety and possible complications etc but if you are happy with these I would go ahead.

I think the ideal is to avoid any unnecessary medical intervention because of the intrinsic risk that any procedure carries.

Of course modern plastic surgery is amazing but I wouldn't risk any operation I didn't absolutely have to have. The risks are really significant and people don't talk about the problems you can have afterwards.

But if you are happy to take the risk and it will be life changing - ten I guess it does make sense.

But our bodies do age and you can't avoid that in the long run!

I had a reduction and lift. The difference it has made to my mental health and confidence can't be over stated. It was worth every penny I paid for it and I wish I'd done it when I was younger - I was 45 when I had it done but had wanted it for years but had been too scared.

I used a surgeon at our local private hospital who had been recommended to me.

I would not recommend going to Turkey. I needed the aftercare that you get with a UK private hospital. My friend went to Turkey and was flying home far too soon after surgery in my opinion and ended up in A&E when she got home due to complications.

I’m a bit older than you and grew up in the 70s and 80s. There wasn’t as much nudity and sexualised imagery and it wasn’t as homogenous. And much more exposure to real bodies. Bikinis were common- but we don’t have shapewear and wonder bras yet.

That breast shape looks completely normal and real to me. Nowadays we’ve been indoctrinated to think of grapefruit breasts as, not just ideal, but standard.

It’s your choice of course. And it’s lovely to have a choice too. It just seems odd to me to choose standardised scarred breasts over your own natural, unique and beautiful breasts. And it annoys me profoundly how (mostly) men get rich from women’s insecurities.

Perhaps a breast reduction would be the best thing? If I were you, I'd go down from an E to a C.

Your money, your body.

It's definitely not. I've discussed this with a surgeon and am going for it next January. No implants but a lift to make them sit roughly where they should be!

I have an even bigger cup size than you have and did consider reduction. In my case they do affect my back due to their weight and I have periodically muscle issues which are confirmed do come from my breast size.

DH was more concerned about the side effects, it is a complex surgery. But he would never said anything about a waste of money or that I should seek therapy.

In the end I decided not to do it, I am not that happy about them but for me the potential complications aren't worth it.

To the PP who said you should consider therapy, would you say the same to people who have laser surgery to correct eye sight?

It’s weird because I’m 5 foot 4. Have an hour glass figure - big boobs, big butt and look gaunt at a lower weight.

I got down to 117 pounds for my wedding and my boobs really impacted the kind of dress I could buy. I’m sick of going for flattering!

I'd do it.
I'm small framed and a 30H, I'll be having a reduction in a couple of years. I would never not wear a bra, it's so uncomfortable for me having them unsupported.

I also got an inheritance a few years ago and slightly different but I spent it on a breast reduction and lift, it’s been life changing and I am so glad I done it!

I think a lot of us would like nicer boobs, op, and the majority of us feel that we look better in a bra, so I don’t believe the reasons for you wanting an op are particularly exceptional. I can completely understand why people have corrective surgery, for example if their breasts were so small it was inhibiting them from being naked in front of a partner or were so big they were actually making their back ache. But this does sound like a vanity decision for cosmetic rather than corrective reasons. And that’s fine, but as a pp said, you do need to own that decision and not pretend it’s for anything else. And be assured it’s the best use of that money.
if you do go ahead, ffs don’t go to Turkey.

You know that the implants don't necessarily last the rest of your lifetime don't you?

So do you have the funds to do it all again in 15 years time?

Honestly, work on your body image. This isn't a solution to that.

I have breasts that shape and am 34E aged 48 and have never considered surgery. I'd suggest regular exercise, particularly weights, first, to reduce body fat and support your breasts with strong muscles.

My boobs didn’t change after pregnancy and breast feeding. I think if it will make you happier you should look into it.

I do get back pain but only after a long day. And very occasionally a really shocking, shooting pain. Never put this down to breaststroke tbh but could be

It’s so interesting to see so many other ladies on this thread that got a reduction using an inheritance, which is my plan! ♥️

But my breast have looked like that probably since my early 20s!

There are so many more things I would want to spend the money on. Like new carpets. But that’s me and it’s your money so it’s really not up to us.

BUT it’s not very kind to yourself, slicing up your body for this fake ideal of big perky boobs and paying for the pleasure. My boobs are big and not perky, it’s more usual than unusual.

Your whole body changes after kids. Unless you're one of the lucky very slim people.

Hmm. If you have a lift you'll need to wear a bra to keep them lifted.

Do you have DC yet? If not, perhaps wait because milk ducts could be damaged.

I had a breast reduction and lift, albeit as part of treatment for breast cancer. It's absolutely the best thing ever. But the healing process took a long time, and I had complications (serial staph A infections, then acute dermatitis which was even worse). Happy with them now though.

I think a breast lift is a waste of money as it won’t last with large breasts. Gravity is inescapable.

Your husband must love your breasts the way they are too, so they can’t be abnormal.

The only way to make naturally large breasts more perky is to reduce their size. If you really want perkier breasts, go for a reduction. The lift effect will last for decades that way.

Do not go to Turkey to do it.

The thing is OP you’re not going to get an answer that suits you here. Or maybe anywhere.

Because the women who have never been bothered by their boobs won’t get it. And the ones who have other things that are higher priority will tell you it’s a waste. But only you know how you feel and how much it would impact you.

I know if it impacted me enough I’d have it done even if no one else thought it was worth it.

If I could afford it I'd have a reduction and lift - always hated my boobs as they are too big. Always wanted small ones but I guess if I'd been blessed with small I'd have wanted bigger!

Still want smaller ones though